Are there some goals you just can’t achieve no matter how hard you try?
Or if you do achieve them it doesn’t last or something happens and it all falls apart? If you said yes then it’s time to use your intuition to uncover your sabotaging beliefs.
Most goals fall under these common categories: Career, Finance, Health & Wellness, Relationships.
What’s most frustrating is when you are able to create success in a few of these areas but not all.
For example you might excel in the areas of Career, Finance and Health but not at experiencing the joy of happy, deep, meaningful relationships. Or perhaps you have wonderful loving supportive relationships and enjoy perfect health and fitness but you can’t for the life of you seem to create lasting financial prosperity. It may be that you have great relationships, financial success and great health but not a career you love….it’s just a paycheck albeit, a healthy sized one. In another example it may be you experience success in all areas except for your health; perhaps you just can’t lose the weight no matter how hard you try?
Does this sound familiar?
These are not an uncommon patterns. When we are not experiencing joy and fulfillment in one area of our lives this is big blaring SIGN that we need to pay closer attention to it. It’s likely that this is an established pattern in our lives.
If you resonate to having one or more challenging categories right now think back over your life and review your experiences in these particular areas. Is it a pattern? Yes? Then something’s going on under the surface that you need to examine now in order to experience success in this area in the future.
It’s likely you have some deeply ingrained limiting beliefs running in your consciousness that sabotage your success in this area of life.
Example of a Sabotaging Belief in Operation:
You’ve taken a new job. It’s a great next move in your career. Based on your previous accomplishments the divisional manager promised you a team manager position as soon as it opens up. You work diligently and do all the right things but you can’t seem to close a deal no matter how hard you try even though you brought in new business constantly at your old job. Every time you’re close to getting a new customer the deal disintegrates. You’re falling behind on your numbers and this is taking a toll on your confidence. Now you fear you won’t get the promised promotion when it opens up.
What’s going on? You ask for intuitive guidance and meditate on the issue.
After getting still a memory surfaces that helps you get to the heart of why you seem to be sabotaging your career.
Suddenly you “see” yourself back in grammar school. You’re running for class president of the sixth grade. It’s your turn to get up in front of the class and give your speech about why they should vote for you. You created a presentation that includes writing your campaign promises on the black board for emphasis. As you back up toward the blackboard you crash into the plant stand next to your teacher’s desk and fall backward knocking it over spilling dirt on yourself and everywhere. You’re mortified! And you’re not elected to 6th grade class president.
This memory leads to a realization that you are afraid to take a leadership position because you might embarrass yourself. You recall thinking at that moment that, “It’s safer not to stand out. From now on I’ll never volunteer to go in front of the class again!”
You go back into this memory and rewrite it. You see your eleven year old self stepping backward toward the blackboard but being aware that the plant stand was there. You avoid the plant stand, easily maneuver around it, write your campaign promises on the blackboard without a hitch and you become the next class president.
Now you can think about what happened without wincing in embarrassment. Your free to step up and stand out! The unconscious fear that held you back is gone.
The next week at work you close several new deals and a few months later when the team leader position opens up you’re promoted.
See how this decision to “not stand out” made decades earlier still runs the show?
How to Root Out A Sabotaging Belief:
1. Go within. Go somewhere you won’t be disturbed and get quiet and still. When you feel calm and ready ask your higher self or God, the universe, guides (whatever feels right to you) to help you tune into what’s going on under the surface.
2. Ask for memory about this pattern. Relax and listen to the first thought you have or watch the pictures that surface in your mind. Some people are more attuned to “listening” and others to “seeing.” Neither is right nor wrong.
3. Grab onto the memory. What happened? Who was involved? How did it make you feel? What snap decisions did you make as a result of this experience?
4. Do you experience a high degree of emotional upset when reviewing this past event? If so this is a sure sign you’ve correctly identified the right memory.
5. Review the decision you made. Did you make a promise to yourself in that moment? Ask for intuitive guidance about this decision. What feels right is usually correct. The decisions you made in the instant you were experiencing emotional turbulence are likely to have become the sabotaging beliefs that are now preventing you from achieving success in this area.
6. Rewrite the past. At any given moment there are innumerable possibilities to step into. You could have chosen differently in the past and that would have resulted in an entirely different future. Tell yourself that you made the best choice you could back then but it’s time to let it go. Thank your younger self for trying to protect you but tell him/her you’ll take over from here. Now go back now and change the memory.
Choose a different reality. See yourself making different decisions in that moment. Erase the old memory and replace it with the new one in which you made positive choices. Tell yourself that is now what you’ll remember about that day.
7. Test out the new memory. Replay the new scene you installed a few times. How do you feel now? Try to recall the old memory. If you feel removed from it and the high level of emotion you experienced earlier has subsided you’ve successfully collapsed the memory. You should now feel free and more energized and you’ll begin to notice things changing for the better in that area of life.
Do you have one area of life where things aren’t working? What limiting beliefs are holding you back?
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