How to deal with your problems head-on in 7 steps
What do you want to change in your life?
- Do you struggle with health challenges?
- Money problems?
- Relationship troubles?
- A dissatisfying career?
- Do fears hold you back from achieving your dreams?
Whatever you’re struggling with have hope. You can change you life. It may not happen over night but it will change. The key to change is to have a strong commitment from the beginning to want to change some aspect of your life. No amount of wishing, visualizing and using affirmations is going to do the trick all by itself. You have to put in the time, effort and personal development work on yourself to make things change.
If you want to get healthy you’ll have to commit to eating right and exercising if you truly want to see the results. You’ll also have to change the way you think about food and exercise. All changes begin on the inside which is personal development work is crucial to make any lasting change.
If you want more money flowing into your life you’ll have to dig deep to unearth your money blocks and clear them and then figure out a plan for how to make more money. Insufficient money flow creates huge pressure in our lives. You might want to deal with that one first.
If you want better relationships you’ll have to start examining what you may be doing that is contributing to the state of relationship that’s making you unhappy and then work on yourself using personal development.
Even if this problem has been around for a long time you can start right now to chip away at it. Here’s how to deal with your problems head on.
How to Deal With Your Problems Head On.
1. Choose one challenge in your life you wish to change. There are two ways to choose where to begin. Get clear on which problem needs your attention most urgently because it’s painful and expensive in terms of the cost to your life, and choose that one. Or chose a small problem to work on first that you can clear up quickly. Either way is fine—just choose one right now! Don’t wait.
2. Consequences of the problem. Take out a sheet of paper and put the name of the problem at the top. Write down all the ways this problem is affecting your life.
Ask yourself these questions:
- How does this problem prevent me from being, doing and having what I truly want in my life?
- How does this problem make me feel every day when I wake up and think about it?
- How does this problem affect my family and friends?
- What is this problem costing me financially and in terms of my health, my peace of mind and my ability to succeed?
Keep asking yourself these questions until you run out of answers. You want to have at least 20 good painful reasons for clearing up this challenge.
3. Turn consequences into celebration! Turn the sheet of paper over and take each of the problems you listed on the front and turn them into reasons to celebrate. For example if you want to get in shape and one of the consequences of being out of shape was not being able to play with your kids write on the back, “When I get in shape I’ll be able to play with my kids!” Do this for each of the consequences and get excited as you do it!
4. Take an inventory. Inventory the the list and pick the 5 top most painful, urgent reasons to overcome this challenge and the corresponding reason to celebrate. Make a new list and put it on the refrigerator door where you’ll see it every day.
5. Make a to-do list. Create a detailed to-do list of how you’re going to tackle this problem. Include the actual step by step outline for how you’ll solve it. List names of the people you’ll call who can help you. Make sure to add the dates by which you’ll complete each and every step. It’s not a real list unless you have deadlines. Be sure to meet your deadlines.
6.Countdown by crossing-off. As you complete each step on your to-do list cross it off and allow yourself to feel proud and excited of the progress you’re making. Put down the date you completed each step. Seeing the actual time it took may inspire you to work faster.
7. Celebration time! When you overcome one of the painful reasons you listed for wanting to deal with this problem cross it out and highlight the corresponding celebration one. Then celebrate even if it’s just doing the “happy dance” in your living room when no one is watching! One of the things we don’t do often enough is celebrate our wins and accomplishments in life. Despite what you may think taking a moment to celebrate or pat yourself on the back is not silly or frivolous. It’s a sign that you are your own ally and that you love and value yourself. And loving yourself is what will lead to fewer challenges, obstacles and problems in your life in the future.
Once you’ve done this with one problem tackle the next one, and the next one and before you know you it you will have dealt with each and every problem head on!
What do you want to change in your life? Are there negative people you’ve let hang around for far too long? What’s the most urgent, painful costly problem you have?
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Coming Back to Life Ecourse – Interview with my dear friend, Jodi Chapman
Jodi tell us about yourself.
I am an inspirational writer. I am definitely evidence that our lives can change drastically once we make our minds up and begin to leap toward our dreams. For now, I’ll say that I write the blog Soul Speak, and I am so grateful for the loving community there. I also co-wrote (with my amazing husband, Dan Teck) the bestselling Soulful Journals series – 11 writing-prompt books that make getting to know yourself fun. I am the author of the upcoming book, Coming Back to Life: How An Unlikely Friend Helped Me Reclaim My True Spirit, which is what my new ecourse is based on.
What inspired you to create the Coming Back to Life Ecourse?
Two years ago, I was in a very different place. I was feeling lost and numb and completely disconnected from my soul and from all of life. Like so many of us, I was living my life on auto-pilot. I was alive in the sense that my body was functioning – my heart was beating, and I was getting up each day and going to work, but I wasn’t REALLY living. I was just going through the motions – sleepwalking through life – and I wasn’t even aware of it.
And it’s not like this numbing out happened overnight – it happened gradually over a period of many years. Throughout my life, when something or someone hurt me, it felt like a little part of me left. I’ve always been a sensitive soul, and sometimes it was just easier to retreat rather than feel the pain.
I also have lived most of my life feeling afraid and stepping back rather than leaping when I was called to take a chance. Also, I had spent several years in survival mode – struggling to get by financially, and I if I did realize that I was numb and needed to wake up and start living, I would’ve seen this as frivolous and not a great way to make sure all the bills were paid. So all of these pains and fears and struggles piled up on top of each other – creating a dark cloud over my heart. It was just easier to go to sleep and not think about it or feel any of it.
Two years ago, all of the struggles in my life came to a head – my husband and I had to move under very stressful and surprising circumstances, we were having a hard time staying passionate about our struggling gift business, we were drowning in bills with no light that we could see at the end of the tunnel, and we had just lost two people who meant a lot to us. So we were grieving and trying to put our life back together at the same time.
All I wanted to do was crawl into my bed, pull the covers up, and wake up when everything was better again. I didn’t know how I was going to keep going.
That’s when the helping hand came.
My loved one who had just died began communicating with me from the other side. He was my childhood sweetheart, and we hadn’t spoken in almost 20 years. I was definitely not open to this sort of thing at all, so it took an entire year of him sending me signs and me asking for more signs and on and on before we finally could get to work. And once we did, my entire world opened up. He helped me see that being here on Earth is such a beautiful gift – a gift that we have chosen to be a part of. He helped me see that I wasn’t really living. And he helped me wake up and step back into my life again.
Our journey together has been life-changing for me. Everything changed – all because I now saw things through a different lens. I now know that my time here is precious, and I can choose to come back to life. We all can.
That’s why I created this course. I was given this beautiful gift, and I didn’t want to keep it all to myself. I want to be the helping hand for anyone who wanted to start living again and wasn’t sure how to do it.
What prompted you to offer this program again so quickly after launching it in the Fall?
It was so life-changing and life-affirming for so many people that I wanted to share its message as soon as I could with others! Also, this time of year is a wonderful time to mix things up in our life – to create a lasting change. And this course definitely delivers lasting change! It’s a perfect time to give ourselves the gift of a well-lived, fully embraced life.
Can you share some of the incredible transformations participants experienced as a result of enrolling in the program?
I would be happy to! Several participants from the fall course sent me testimonials, which I would love to share here:
I was privileged to participate in The Coming Back to Life course offered by Jodi Chapman during the fall of 2012. The course is overflowing with insight, talent and love. These golden nuggets were then offered in the most honest and heart-opening way to the group on a weekly basis, allowing us to explore the material at our own pace. I loved the videos from those who have worked so hard to hone their life skills. They were non-threatening and full of spirit and love. The insights I gleaned from this course are invaluable. The friendships I made will remain precious to me. Jodi has built a community where people can gather and share without fear of rejection or judgment. That community remains open to me as I continue to learn from the materials and find my way back to life. I just want to thank Jodi and all the other beautiful souls who have made this course an amazing success. Thank you a thousand times! – Leah Griffith
The Coming Back to Life Ecourse was an amazing journey that I would recommend for anyone at any stage of personal growth. I found the course packed with information, videos, exercises, readings, and encouragement, all of which could be experienced at our own pace. Jodi has so many contributors who share their heart, and each brought valuable insight. Opening my email at the beginning of each week was as delightful as unwrapping a gift. But the most significant advantage I found was the support available – almost 24/7. The Facebook community Jodi set up was fantastic – a place where we could connect and share our successes, our struggles and realize that we are not alone. Jodi led us gently and skillfully through discussions and online chats that allowed us to apply what we were learning, and celebrate our growth. Did I mention that I loved it all? Thank you!! – Lori T.
I feel much more self-aware and plugged in to my emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical self. I feel more grounded and ready than ever to face challenges. I’ve also increased my self-care exponentially since starting this course. I’ve noticed a positive shift in my self-esteem by being gentle and kind to myself. Thank you Jodi and thank you Facebook community for the love and support. – Kelly G.
I don’t always stick with this sort of thing – often feeling that I am not learning anything new, but not this time. I have learned so much, and this has been such an authentic time of discovery and sharing that I feel more alive than I have in a long, long time. Jodi, you have an amazing gift for sharing what is real and what is important. Not only has the information been helpful, but your modeling of it really made it come ALIVE! – Nancy Whelehan Leport
Tell us about the Coming Back to Life Ecourse? Who is it for?
The Coming Back to Life Ecourse begins on January 21 and lasts for 6 weeks. It’s a helping hand, a set of concrete tools, and a loving support system all wrapped up into one heartfelt course!
This course is for those of us who have ever felt disconnected from life – from our soul. It’s for those of us who have felt our light dimming. It’s for those of us who know that there is more to life than simply getting through the day.
This course is for those of us who are ready to plug back into this magical universe, reconnect with our soul, and open our hearts again. It’s for those of us who are no longer willing to just “get by” and sleepwalk through our days. It’s for those of us who are ready – truly ready – to start living fully.
If you’re ready to:
- live fully and love fully.
- take responsibility for your life.
- push past your fears & reach your dreams.
- forgive, let go, and move forward.
- see the world with childlike wonder.
- reconnect with your soul.
- believe in miracles again.
- open up to this amazing universe.
- join a community of loving souls.
- be completely authentic and vulnerable (in a good way).
- join a course that comes from the heart and soul.
…then this course is for you!
What can someone expect to learn from this course, and how will it change their life?
I do want to mention that this course can’t change your life unless you are willing to change the way you are living your life. You have to be open to it and you have to be willing to put in the work. That may sound harsh, but it’s the truth. I have read tons of self-help books throughout my life and was always disappointed when nothing changed. Well, it was because I simply read the book but didn’t apply any of the teachings to my own life. I read them like I would read a novel – simply for enjoyment rather than to learn and REALLY change and grow.
If you sign up for this course and simply watch the videos and read through the workbook but don’t apply any of the exercises to your own life, I’m sure you will enjoy everything but I would bet that nothing in your life will change. You have to make the choice to take action. You have to be so fed up with your current way of living that you are honestly ready to make a change. And if you are, then this course really can help you. It’s based on what I went through in my own life, so I know that it works.
What do you hope that people will take away after completing the course?
I want them to see that there is another way to live. I want them to really know that we have a choice – we truly don’t have to go through life simply going through the motions and just getting through the day. There is an entire universe out there that we are only just beginning to tap into. Our soul is connected to such a beautiful world – and waking up is the key to experiencing this way of life.
What bonuses are you offering to enrollees?
I’m thrilled to offer over $150 in wonderful bonus gifts, which you’ll receive immediately after joining!
1. Entire Soulful Journals Ebook Series – $65 Value!
I co-wrote this popular series with my husband, Dan Teck. It contains 11 books to help you get in touch with yourself and live your best life. The topics include gratitude, soulful journaling, healing through transitions, two books for couples, two books for teens, manifesting your ideal life, and keeping your commitments.
2. Emotional Awareness Workbook – $20 Value!
My friend, Dominee Wyrick has created this beautiful workbook to help you get in touch with your emotions. It’s completely free when you register!
3. The Intuition Principle Guided Meditations – $10 Value!
My wonderful friend, Angela Artemis is giving you 3 guided meditations from her brand new album of 14 guided meditations when you register! They are designed to help you connect with your soul, find your passion and discover your purpose in life.
4. Best Affirmations Workbook – $27.95 Value!
My friend, Scott Armstrong, is offering his Best Affirmations Workbook when you register! I have this program and can personally say that it’s a wonderful tool to help you use affirmations to change your thoughts, which will lead to changing your life!
5. The Bold Living Guides – $19.99 Value!
My friend, Barrie Davenport from Live Bold and Bloom is offering her popular Bold Living Guides for free when you register!
The Bold Living Guides include six essential areas for self-improvement: Self-Awareness and Personal Growth; Passion and Purpose; Positive Change and Simple Productivity; A Healthy Lifestyle for Mind, Body, and Spirit; Amazing Relationships; and Professional and Financial Well-Being. It’s a beautiful, helpful guide!
6. 3 Issues of Sprout Online Magazine – $18 Value!
Created by my friend, Amanda Fall, Sprout online magazine uplifts and inspires through color, beauty, and meaning! Each issue explores soul-stirring themes, planting seeds of hope and healing. Receive 3 back issues of your choice for free when you register!
7. Flying by the Seat of My Soul Ebook – $13 Value!
My friend, Tess Marshall, has written this uplifting book that will inspire you to live more passionately and pursue your heart’s desire with more conviction! It’s yours for free when you register!
All of these are FREE and available immediately after you register for the ecourse!
Where can people find out more?
Please go to the Coming Back to Life page: http://www.jodichapman.com/coming-back-to-life-ecourse/
You will learn all about the course, including each week’s content, a detailed description of all that you’ll receive in the course, and a complete list of contributors!
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Jodi Chapman is the founder of Soul Speak and an inspirational writer. Please visit her website to learn more about the upcoming course: Coming Back to Life.