Law of Attraction: Would you rather be grateful, appreciative, or thankful?
When it comes to the Law of Attraction, does it matter if you are grateful, appreciative or thankful when you’re working on manifesting a desired outcome?
Most everyone knows that you ought to focus on what you want rather than on what you don’t because what you focus on expands.
If what you focus on does expand (and I think it does) how is that affected by whether you’re “grateful, appreciative or thankful” for what you’re focusing on?
There is a distinction between them.
I’m the first one to endorse having an “attitude or gratitude” but gratitude sometimes make me feel “obligated.” When I feel obligated it can lead to feeling responsible and feelings of guilt. It may just be me but lately I’ve started thinking that while “gratitude” is the right attitude, it may not be the right word.
There was a comment on the Powered by Intuition Fan page recently in response to something I posted. The reply to the post was that they’d rather think in terms of being “appreciative.” This is what started me thinking about this issue in the first place.
Appreciation feels different than Gratitude
I immediately felt a difference when I thought of being “appreciative” versus “grateful.” Gratitude has more of an underlying sense of desperation to it. For example you can be grateful that you averted bankruptcy or that you narrowly avoided foreclosure. I probably wouldn’t say, “I was appreciative” in either of those situations. It doesn’t feel like a fit for the severity of either foreclosure or bankruptcy.
Gratitude implies you “owe” something in exchange. There’s a saying about “owing someone a debt of gratitude” which may be where the connotation came from. In any case, the more I think about it the more I feel that appreciation is a better word to “expand what we focus on.”
I appreciate my good health. I appreciate my loving family. I appreciate my supportive friends. I appreciate my wonderful PbI community and tribe. I appreciate my great job. This feels and sounds better to me than using the word “gratitude.”
Appreciation versus Thankfulness
Once I realized that “gratitude” had this connotation about “owing a debt” I wanted to make sure I found the right word so I began thinking about being “thankful.”
The more I thought about it the more I felt Thankful was very similar to Gratitude. It has the same undertone of desperation and obligation. “I’m so thankful they made an exception and accepted my application even though it was late.” You see what I mean?
From now I’m going to be Appreciative
I like Appreciation best. I just feels right. I’m going for an attitude of appreciating all the good in my life.
My new mantra is now: I appreciate all there is in my wonderful life!
Try it yourself and see if it feels “lighter” to you too.
What do you think? Is there a distinction between being grateful, appreciative and thankful?
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“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”
Paulo Coelho, from The Alchemist
The Law of Attraction: Spending vs. Investing
Did you watch the movie, “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne or read her book? Most of the world now knows about the Law of Attraction thanks to her. Unfortunately, while Byrne did a huge service for the world the depth of the information wasn’t there to accurately convey how to bring more abundance to your life.
There’s a misconception that in order to attract abundance into your life you ought to prime the pump of the LOA by spending money. Perhaps you were told that in order to demonstrate your faith in the Law of Attraction you ought to “dig your ditches before the rain.” This idea originally comes from a passage in the Bible but I first read about it in Florence Scovel Shin’s book, “The Game of Life and How to Play It.”
What Shin meant was that if you’re praying for rain you must take action and dig the ditches to hold the water ahead of the rain. “Digging ditches” clearly communicates that you firmly and unwaveringly have faith in the Universe to bring about what you desire.
You might have misconstrued this advice by first buying the things you wanted as a demonstration that the money to pay for them would then show up. Unfortunately all this does is create debt. “Digging your ditches” symbolizes that you must have the faith and take action toward achieving your goals even when there isn’t a “cloud in the sky” to indicate that it’s going to rain.
There is a difference between spending and investing
Notice though, Shin did not say to go out and use up all the water you have as an act of faith that it would rain and then the water would be replenished. This is what you’re doing when you spend money you don’t have. You’re draining your resources. What Shin advises is to invest your energy and resources in creating a “ditch” or reservoir so that it will hold all the water you need whenever you need it. This is what “investing” does, it becomes a resource that pays you back again and again over time.
Spending money doesn’t garner the same results as investing
For example you see a gorgeous pair of boots and think,”If I buy the boots I’m showing the Universe I trust that the money is coming to pay the credit card bill.” But after you spend the money your life hasn’t changed. You have a nice pair of boots and nothing else to show for it.
When you invest money you take an action that ensures that the money will return a dividend, in other words, pay you back. For example you might be in a 401k retirement program at work. Over time with good investment strategies this investment will grow and be part of the money you live on in retirement.
You might invest in buying a home for the same reason; you anticipate that with time its value will increase so that someday when you sell it you’ll get back more than you spent to buy it. This is also the reason for investing in education. When you learn something useful it contributes to your ability to apply it in a way that the actions taken based on knowledge you received pays you back over time.
In general buying “stuff” for yourself is spending not investing. Clothes, furniture, cars and the like while needed are not investments. Buying something the goes up in value and returns a profit when you sell it is an investment. Examples of some good investments that will improve your life are education, coursework and coaching.
Investing in yourself is the entire premise of self-development. You are developing yourself for something, right? You probably want to learn how to be more successful at life which is to be happier, peaceful, self confident, more capable, loving and a better human being I would imagine.
Invest in yourself instead of spending on yourself
To unlock the power of the Law of Attraction invest in yourself. Investing in your education is one of the best investments you can make. Invest in a course that will help you learn what actions you need to take to create a better life. This will prime the pump of the LOA in your life much more than a one shot purchase such as a pair of boots. To invest in yourself is to dig a ditch and build a reservoir of resources that will pay you back handsomely over time.
Action demonstrates your faith in the Law. You must take the proper action steps. Wishing and visualizing are not enough. Action is how you “seed” the clouds for all that rain. And, if you don’t know what you want that’s a problem. You must know what you want in order to know the proper action steps to take.
Knowing what you want is key
If you aren’t sure of what you want your life to look like and all you think is that you want “abundance” you’re going to be disappointed. Abundance comes in many forms. You’ve got to be specific in order to come up with the action steps to seed your cloud.
Prime the pump of the Law of Attraction
Know what you want. Know your purpose and mission in life and then you will know what actions to take. After all you can’t get there until you know where “there is,” right? Knowing your purpose is having the map to get to your destination. As soon as you are clear on where you want to go the result of every action step taken will yield much more dramatic results toward your ultimate success.
If you are unclear of your purpose invest in yourself. Open the way and seed the cloud toward your abundance by investing not spending on yourself. Find a coach or take a course on how to find your life purpose, read a book on this topic or have a thorough astrological reading of your purpose done.
The sooner you know where you’re heading the sooner you’ll get there!
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