Stop worrying and suck the nectar out of life.
Over the weekend I visited a friend who lives in a log cabin surrounded by dense woods, horse trails and farms. What I love best about visiting her rustic home is how peaceful I feel when I hear the soothing sounds of many species of birds singing and cawing.
On Sunday morning I took my coffee outside and sat on the deck meditating on how I could be of greater service to my clients and community. Suddenly, I was startled by a loud “whirring” noise. It went right past my head and off to the right.
I opened my eyes and saw a beautiful female Ruby-throated Hummingbird taking nectar from a bright red Zinnia. Her wings flapped so fast all I saw was a blur on either side of her petite body. The morning sun glinted off her emerald feathers.
I sat transfixed by this private visit for nearly two minutes. I kept very still watching as the hummingbird zigged and zagged from one flower to the next that caught her fancy drinking its nectar. It was absolutely amazing to be less than a foot away from this beautiful creature.
The gift of the hummingbird
When the hummingbird had her fill she flew off. I sent a prayer of gratitude out to the universe for this special moment.
I closed my eyes and returned to my meditation and asked, “What is the meaning of being visited by the hummingbird this morning?”
And then as clear as anything I heard a loud voice not my own, “Let go of worry and suck the nectar out of life.”
What a profound message in a day and age where there are so many things to worry about….the violence erupting all over the world, the economy both locally and globally, climate change, retirement, finances, health issues, family issues and on and on….
I decided to ask another question, “How can we suck the nectar out of life?”
No sooner had I asked than an image of the hummingbird zigging and zagging from one flower to the next that caught her fancy popped into my mind.
We worry too much about absolutely everything. We focus on our worries and miss many opportunities to suck the nectar out of life. We’re meant to move in the direction of what brings us joy. To zig and zag like the hummingbird toward what catches our fancy knowing that we wouldn’t have that pull unless we were meant to be drawn to it for our own unfolding good and growth.
What would it be like to live free of worry?
The hummingbird didn’t worry that there would be no flowers to draw nectar from when she left her nest in the morning. She trusted the flowers would be there and that she would find them. She even trusted that they would be flowers with an abundance of nectar. She listened to her instincts and let them guide her.
The hummingbird exists without a to-do list, without painstakingly planning for, checking and rechecking every detail of her life and without agonizing throughout every moment of her day wondering whether she’s on the right track, should or shouldn’t be doing this or whether once she’s decided to commit to it that it will work out or not.
Why can’t we be more like the hummingbird flitting through life trusting what we need will be there and literally pulled toward it by our instincts or what we call our intuition?
Worry is why we don’t flit through life.
We ‘think’ we’re supposed to worry. Have you ever thought about that? We’re conditioned to worry. Who says you have to? Most of the things we worry about never, ever happen. What would happen if you just stopped?
Worry is also a huge intuition blocker.
I wrote about this in, “The Intuition Principle: How to Attract the Life You Dream Of.” Your brainwaves are so jammed up with constant worry you barely hear the messages that are being sent to guide you at all.
Plus when you declare your intention for something and focus on manifesting – worry is the reason why many times you don’t get what you want. Your intention which is a signal to the Universe for what you want is distorted by worry.
And of course there are mountains of studies that show that worry and stress are the underlying reasons for many health problems. Any way you look at it…worry isn’t good for much.
Kick the worry habit
The answer to finding joy, fulfillment and everything you need is let go of worry so that you can hear your intuition. When you do, synchronicity will draw you toward what strikes your fancy and in going toward it just the thing you need exactly when you need will show up. Trust, listen and allow that inner pull to guide you.
Are you a worrier? What kinds of things do you worry about? Can you see how worry blocks your intuition and leads you away from sucking the nectar out of life? Share with us in the comments.
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Free Intuition Training: Do the Opposite and Find Your Purpose
I first realized I was “different” when I was eight.
My sister, best friend and I were outside playing. My friend nonchalantly mentioned, “Did you know that XXX’s Daddy died?” I immediately heard a “voice” say, “He died of liver disease” which I repeated to my sister and best friend.
Later I told my mother that XXX’s Daddy had died of “liver disease.”
I recall my mother’s reaction as she demanded I tell her, “Who told you that?”
It was clear she was angry that I knew this which, I didn’t understand. I tried to tell her that I just “knew” but she wouldn’t believe me. She kept asking who told me?
She thought I was lying which upset me but I didn’t know what to say. I didn’t know who spoke to me in my mind? It was very confusing to an 8 year old.
I also understand now that back then people didn’t talk about alcoholism. It was taboo. My mother wasn’t so much angry at my “knowing” as she was worried about me going around the neighborhood saying that this man had died of “liver disease.”
Now I know that “voice” was my intuition. At 8 years old I had never heard that word. All I knew was that there was something different about me and how I got information that my mother thought was “wrong” so clearly it must be, right?
This started my life long struggle with trusting and following my intuition.
When I began my journey of sharing how listening to my intuition would impact my life five years ago (January 9th was PbI’s 5 year anniversary) I had no idea where I was headed.
My plan was to do the “opposite” of what I had been doing my entire life and chronicle how it affected me in my new blog: Powered by Intuition (which was originally called Mystic Musings & Meditations).
By 2010 I’d had enough of making the wrong decisions and being unhappy. I decided that from that moment on I would listen to my intuition for every single solitary decision I made.
I had gone into the wrong career, studied the wrong subject in college, married the wrong person, not gone on all the adventures I dreamed of like living in Europe and on and on and as a result I was stuck in a life I didn’t like at all. I realized that the problem was that I hadn’t followed my heart–my intuition. I had listened to other people for fear of making mistakes, being wrong and done what I thought “rational” and “sensible” people did instead.
Following my intuition from now on would be own my experiment of “doing the opposite.”
If you’re a Seinfeld fan you might recall the episode where George Costanza decides to do the exact opposite of what he’d been doing his whole life. He realized that every decision he made in his life had been wrong so, he does the opposite and and his life turns around.
So how has five years of following my intuition turned out?
Pretty good. The more I followed my intuition the more great things came into my life.
Of course, there were time I ignored it and made mistakes but every mistake only made it easier to listen the next time.
It led to my becoming a published best-selling author, speaker and mentor teaching others how to find their purpose and how to create a lifestyle business like mine around their purpose if they so choose.
Teaching others how to follow their intuition to create lives of meaning and purpose by living “The Intuition Principle” deeply fulfills me and is what makes me the happiest.
So here’s to five years of intuition led living!
To celebrate this milestone I’d like to give something special to the Powered by Intuition community.
I’m offering a Free Three Week Class to help you get clear on what your intuition is telling you. I’ll share how I got here and how you can get here too! There will be tons of time to ask your questions and it will be great fun spending time together.
Enroll in the free class to learn: How to interpret what your intuition is saying, create your big life vision around it and how to take action to MAKE 2015 THE YEAR YOU CHANGE YOUR LIFE BY DOING THE OPPOSITE TOO!
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Do you live for Saturdays?
Do you live for the days when you’re not at work?
If so, that’s a clear sign that you’re not fulfilled by the work you do.
So many people live by going through the motions on Monday through Friday wishing that time away just waiting for Saturdays or, even worse retirement.
If you work for 50 years before you retire you will have wished nearly 33 years of your life away. And if you retire at 68 and live to be 85 that’s not much living is it?
That’s an astonishing amount of time to wish away, don’t you think? There is a better way.
Do you work you love and stop wishing time away
The way to finding work you love entails some nitty gritty work but in the long run it’s worth it. Find out what you love doing and figure out a way to make a living doing it.
The are ways to take what you have spent years mastering because you love it and use all that stored knowledge to make a living at it. People are hungry to learn what you have devoted 20 – 30 years to master.
Do you think you are the only one with a burning passion about say, photography, knitting, building furniture, permaculture or whatever you can think of? No, of course not. But you ARE the one who has devoted 20 -30 years learning everything there is to know about it. That gives you a marketable skill you can monetize.
What if you don’t know what you love?
There are ways to solve that problem too. What I have found from working with many clients is that they always know. Deep down they’ve heard their intuition whispering in their ear. But they’ve buried this knowledge out of fear of what others might say or insecurities about their own worthiness to act upon it.
Your true calling is not hiding from you
Here’s an easy tip to find your calling: If you ask the people who know you best, “What do you think I’m passionate about and really good at?’ they’ll spit it right out. It’s that obvious to everybody but you!
How long will you wait?
How much time will you let pass before you act upon your calling? I can tell you from my own experience waiting for years or decades to do something about it is downright painful.
Take back your power and stop living for Saturday
Start now. Tomorrow is too late.
Here’s how to start looking forward to each and every day:
1. Take assessment. What you have become a self-taught expert in that people would pay you to learn in a short amount of time what it took you 20-30 years to learn? Make a list of these self-acquired talents now.
2. Eliminate the ones that do not light you up. Quick! Cross them right off – no second guessing yourself.
3. How many talents that you love are you left with? Make a nice new list of the ones that are left.
4. Review the new short list. Are these talents related? Can you find some way to weave them together? If so do that now. If you are only left with one that makes it even easier.
5. Brainstorm on the result. Take this expertise that people would pay you for to learn and start brainstorming ways that you can begin doing just that!
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The #1 Mistake You’ve Been Making That Blocks Your Intuition
Have you ever made a decision based on a fear that if you didn’t do this one thing you’d miss out on something?
If you relate to this story you might be making this mistake too.
A coaching client* mentioned that she was having doubts about a man she was in the early stages of a relationship with.
This lovely woman was divorced and happy to be free from a terrible marriage. After her divorce she moved clear across the country to get as far away from her ex as possible. She loved her new home, neighbors and job and met a nice new man not long after moving.
Things seemed to be perfect at first. He was a widower with several grown children living near the Gulf Coast. He loved his family and spoke about how close they all were. They had many interests in common and he was respectful and took things slow which my client appreciated. He was worldly, having traveled to many different countries and had many stories to share. He loved the opera and the arts and volunteering at charity organizations.
She was in heaven! Who had sent this angel of a man to her?
Since meeting him she had been coaching with me to find her life purpose. She wanted to create a new life that she loved now that she’d escaped her unhappy marriage. During our sessions she’d been updating me on her progress with him.
Every session she asked me if I got any “vibes” about him.
I did. And, they weren’t good. I didn’t see it being a “happily ever after scenario.”
I got the feeling that he was hiding things from her and that he wasn’t what he appeared to be. I also got a strong feeling that she should be very cautious with him.
As it turned out one day he picked up and moved to the Gulf Coast. He told her via text that he missed his children and decided to move back to where they lived. She was disappointed but, I was relieved.
She attributed his inability to be open and share with her as a sign of caring for her feelings. She believed he had been planning on moving back to where his children lived for some time and that he hadn’t told her to spare her feelings.
I saw what he had done as devious and very controlling. He toyed with her and then left her flat. I didn’t like the vibes I got from that at all.
A few weeks later she told me that she’d been texting with him since he moved. He wants her to come and visit him but not right now……he is quite busy, he says, because the g-men are after him. Years ago he got into trouble with the law and ever since he has been hounded by the government so, he has to keep a low profile and keep on moving and cannot even see his children.
Okay, now I have to call a spade a spade right so I say, “This person is a paranoid weirdo. Cut off all contact – now!”
“But, what if it’s true? Except for this he is really nice.”
Now this is where the #1 Intuition blocking mistake comes in……
“Tell me,” I ask, “what does your gut say about him?”
“Well, it sounds kind of fishy to me too.”
“How fishy?” I ask.
“Mmm, pretty fishy – like whack job fishy.” She pauses and then says, “I texted him back after a couple of days of this stuff and told him I didn’t believe him.”
“So, then why are you considering keeping the lines of communication open?” I ask.
“‘Cause maybe, you know, he might be telling the truth and there are a lot of things about him I like.”
And there is the #1 Mistake: Fear of Missing Out on Something
What was happening was that my client was afraid that she was going to miss out if she let this guy go. She was letting her fear and belief in lack override her intuition – which was right on the money. Instead of believing in herself and her worthiness and that there are plenty of fish in the sea she is holding onto to this one stinky fish!
She knew what her gut was saying was true all along or she wouldn’t have kept asking me what my vibes were on this guy. She didn’t want to be right. If she was right she would have to walk away from someone who was paying attention to her.
See how we deceive ourselves when we make the #1 mistake that blocks our intuition: Fear missing out on something?
3 Tips to avoid making the #1 mistake that blocks your intuition:
1. Get clear on why you want what you want. Ask yourself if you’re attached to the outcome? If so why?
2. Trust your gut. It always knows! If you feel something is amiss it is, whether you can prove it or not. That’s your spidey sense.
3. Never do something because you fear that if you don’t you’ll miss out and never get another chance. When we make any decision from a place of fear instead of confidence and strength our judgement is compromised.
How have you been blocking your intuition by being afraid you’ll miss out. Is it really true? Will you miss out? Share in the comment section.
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*The client’s personal details have been changed to protect her privacy.
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Is your mother always right?
The older I get the more I find this to be true…..
Does this strike a cord with you?
Here’s a story from my life:
When I was younger and getting ready to declare a major in college my mother urged me to be an English major. At the time there were no other majors if you wanted to be a writer. My mother saw me as someone like her; someone who thought deeply about things. And like her, I excelled at writing (she was an assistant editor at a newspaper before she married) and she knew that I loved it.
My father was a mechanical engineer who spent his entire career working on huge building projects in Manhattan. He even worked for the Trump organization at one point. He witnessed engineers who also had business or accounting degrees rise through the ranks of the some of the biggest construction companies he worked for. He saw me as level-headed and business minded like himself and so he urged me to major in business or accounting. I will never forget him telling me, “The way to the top is to be an accountant.”
Who do you think won out?
I don’t know what I thought “the top” was but at the tender age of 18 I wanted to please my father and get “there” and so began what would turn out to be several decades spent in the financial world. I was successful and it turns out I was level-headed and business minded but oh how miserable I was as a “round peg in a square hole.”
My mother was right and I wish I had listened to her.
Clearly, a kid who begins writing little books at age 8 and wants to duplicate and distribute them throughout the neighborhood was meant to be a writer and my mother knew it. Call it a sixth sense or mother’s intuition, I guess you could say my mother knew me like a book!
Was my dad wrong?
No. He also saw something in me that was true. I was then and still am business minded but the best way for me to express this talent is through writing and sharing with you not in a corporate management job.
The soul of who you are really meant to be is usually pretty obvious to the people who know you well. I guarantee your purpose isn’t hiding from you. It’s your desire to please and lack of confidence in yourself that gets in the way of listening to that intuitive voice within that knows soo well what you were born to do.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms out there!
Mother’s Day is a day to celebrate your mom. So, what was your mother right about? What advice did she give you that you wish now you had listened to? Share her wisdom in the comments.
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