Surrender and Let Go to Find Peace & Restore Hope

Surrender and Let Go to Find Peace & Restore Hope

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Today I’m excited to share a new collaborative book: “Letting Go: 25 True Stories of Peace, Hope and Surrender,” from Alex Blackwell of The Bridgmaker.

Alex has put together a collection of stories from many writers around the theme of “letting go.”

I read the book and found it very uplifting. One of the best reasons to read the book is to see that you are not alone. Everyone will go through a dark night of the soul at one point in life because that is how we grow and learn to handle problems.

If you need some inspiration I recommend it.

Alex, what gave you the idea for the book?
10 years ago it was clear that I had to let go of fear, shame and guilt if my marriage was going to survive.

For the first 18 years of my marriage, I was insecure, thinking that my wife, Mary Beth, was going to leave me. My obsession put pressure on her to tell me constantly, and show me, that she loved me.

My insecurities were born back in my childhood. As a child of an alcohol parent, I thought I was the reason my mother drank – I thought it was my fault and I thought it was impossible to be loved authentically and unconditionally.

To save my marriage, I had to start learning to let go of these negative attachments and embrace the life in front of me. By letting go of the pain, shame and guilt a little at a time, Mary Beth started seeing the positive changes in me.

Last June, we celebrated our 28th anniversary. We’ve never been happier – I’ve never been happier.

So, the inspiration behind this book is to celebrate the amazing and life-changing gifts that letting go provides.

Who should read the book?
25 True Stories of Peace, Hope and Surrender is for anyone who wants to put a painful memory or experience in the past. It’s also for people who are holding on too tightly to their children, even though it may be time to let them go.

The book doesn’t offer a formula or guide for letting go, it just offers the inspiration and encouragement needed to begin the process.

I also think there is value in reading about the experience of others so you won’t feel alone with how your experiences. The stories in the book will elicit an emotional response because each one is filled with honesty, truth and hope.

Do you share a “true story?”
I do.

My story appears in Part Four – Letting Go: Parenting. The title of the story is World – I Present My Daughter.

It’s about the day my older daughter, Caitlin, graduated from college. That day was full of so much pride and happiness. It was also a bittersweet day because I knew my daughter belonged to the world now, and not just to my family.

Even though her mother and I have always encouraged her to make a life of her own, when that day actually came, it was harder than I thought. But by realizing I had to let go, allowed Caitlin and me to begin building a wonderful adult relationship that is growing stronger each day.

What bonuses are you offering people who purchase your book?
I’m happy to give everyone who purchases Letting Go: 25 True Stories of Peace, Hope and Surrender, the Peace and Balance Book Bonus Pack. This bonus pack provides 10 free tools from some inspirational people. Highlights include:

  • Guy Finely: You will receive Guy’s popular course, Seven Steps to Oneness: Journey to a Whole New Life, which is a FREE 8-hour course on 8 MP3 downloads. During this groundbreaking audio program you will discover, explore, and learn to work with timeless principles that will help you to empower the evolution of your soul.
  • Tiny Buddha: Book purchasers will get Lori Deschene’s Tiny Wisdom, On Mindfulness. Part of the Tiny Wisdom eBook series from, this book shares 20 short reminders for a more present, peaceful life.
  • Andrea Owen: Andrea shares her book, How I Turned My Mess into My Message, detailing exactly how she came from a place of darkness, despair and self-loathing, to a place of happiness, self-confidence and self-love.

How does someone receive the Peace and Balance Book Bonus Pack?
It’s easy. Simply email the Amazon purchase confirmation email to:

How is your book different from the thousands of other self-help books on the market?
As I mentioned earlier, this book isn’t intended to be a how-to guide or a self-help manual full of obvious advice, it’s a transparent, and sometimes raw, look at real-life experiences that have nudged people to let go of negative attachments that were no longer serving them.

I think there’s value, and a sense of connectedness when we discover that we aren’t walking alone.

What’s next for you?
I will continue learning how to let go of the things that keep me from enjoying life to the fullest. It’s a daily choice to do this. Some days I stumble and hold on to the garage a little too tight; and on some days I throw it as far away from me as I can, but on all days I attempt to move forward with dignity, self-respect and lots of hope.

I will also continue to share inspiration at my blog, The BridgeMaker.

As far as my next book? It will be fiction, a novel, but a novel with message that is rooted in the themes that most important to me like forgiveness, seeking positive change and of course, letting go.

What challenges are you currently facing in life? Can you see how letting go of what is out of your control could help you to experience more peace?

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A_Blackwell_(headshot)Alex Blackwell is an author and founder of The Bridgemaker. Visit his Letting Go promotions page to see all the great bonuses he is giving if you buy the book: here. To get your bonuses just email the receipt to him (here: and he will send your bonus pack right out.

My name is Alex Blackwell and I’m the founder of The BridgeMaker. I’m excited to introduce you to the site and share a little about myself, the community, and The BridgeMaker’s mission.


On the brink of divorce several years ago, I needed to make a few changes within myself before my life could change.

Knowing creating positive change was necessary, I started down the path of learning how to appreciate exactly what I have.

The articles you’ll read here are inspired by my journey and touch on the themes of forgiveness, faith, happiness, change, motivation, gratitude and letting go. You will also read articles about the amazing power of love and relationships.

And there’s inspiration when you need it on the Inspiring Things page – videos, quotes, photos and more.

The BridgeMaker’s Mission

The BridgeMaker connects people who are looking to find faith, share inspiration and celebrate personal change.

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The World Didn’t End – What Now? A Healing Meditation

The World Didn’t End – What Now? A Healing Meditation

“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” –Mahatma Gandhi

Be the change the world needs. Be the peace.

The world didn’t end on the solstice of December 21, 2012. I didn’t think it would. Did you?

I believe that the end of the Mayan calendar is symbolic of the end of our old ways of thinking and interacting with one another, rather than the literal end of the world.

I hoped today would mark a new beginning where we – the human race – would shift in consciousness to embrace peace, love and an awareness of our oneness.

Years ago I had the privilege of spending time with spiritual thought leader, John Randolph Price and his wife Jan, founders of The Quartus Foundation. John was ahead of his time and authored seminal works such as, “A Spiritual Philosophy for the New World,”  “Practical Spirituality,” and “The Superbeings.” (I highly recommend his books – they remain fresh and timely today).

John spoke of a need to “reach critical mass” in the number of people on earth who embraced a spiritual approach to living, in order to affect real change on the planet.

To shift the thinking of people on a grand scale and reach critical mass each of us first needs to emit peace, love and a unity consciousness. We need to “be the peace we wish to see” first and then it will manifest in society.

To foster a consciousness of peace watch this beautiful healing meditation from Christine Breese. It will help you feel peaceful, loving and connected to all life.

When you feel peaceful you emit a vibration of peace that touches others and helps them to feel at peace too. The more we send out these ripples the more we will contribute to creating a “critical mass” in human thinking. Your own inner peace blesses the world.

Give yourself the gift of 15 minutes to relax and listen to this healing meditation. Allow yourself to really “feel” it too. I promise you will feel extremely peaceful afterward and the people around you will be affected by it.

Send your ripples of love and peace out into the world and “be the change – be the peace.

How did you feel after listening to this beautiful meditation?

Merry Christmas and best wishes for a happy holiday season to all!


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Resistance is Futile

Resistance is Futile

Damn! Why can’t I ever stop thinking?

This was my mantra at 7 am as I tried in vain to meditate.

Some days I’m able to get deep into the zone of a meditation where my thoughts slow and then stop for a while. These are the best meditations. I’m detached but present in the flow of Universal Mind. I feel a clarity and a sense that all is well – just the way things are. Perfectly imperfect.

I am aware of a connection to all life which gently gives way to a quiet joy. I ride the waves of this Universal flow as long as I can before thoughts get the better of me again. I take the quiet joy with me out into my day and go about my business.

Today I could not surf that wave. It was just one big thought after another knocking me off my spiritual surf board until I got tired of trying to climb back on and gave up. All I kept hearing was: I have work to do. I need to exercise. I’m running low on milk. Got to get to the ATM and deposit that check.

With each thought I squeezed my eyes tighter and said NO not now! But, they wouldn’t stop. I followed my breathing again and my thoughts slowed somewhat but not to the extent where I could make that connection to the soothing calmness I craved.

Later while journaling it hit me. I was trying too hard. You cannot force yourself to get in the flow –  It just doesn’t work that way.

It reminded me of getting injections at the doctor’s office as a little girl. The idea that my little fanny was going to be pierced by a long shiny needle terrified me. And, no matter what my mother said, or the nurse about relaxing I’d tense up anyway which only made it hurt more.

It’s the same with those pesky thoughts. I was forcibly trying to resist thinking which makes no sense at all. The idea is to let them come and then go without reacting to the intrusion in your meditation. All pain comes from resistance. I knew this, so why wasn’t I doing it?

Resistance is a form of control. To resist your thoughts is the same as trying to control them. You can’t control your thoughts anymore than you can control another person or situation. All you can do is be present, observe and let them go, be it a person or situation. As soon as you start tangling with them it becomes a battle of the wills. Then the ego gets involved – and the ego hates to lose.

Resistance can crop up in any area of our lives – not just morning meditation. While  journaling I started thinking of all the other areas in my life where resistance had caused problems. I was reminded of how I’d clung to an unhappy relationship because of my resistance to accept that it was over. I also thought of how long it took me to stop resisting that it was time to sell my house and move on, and how I’d resisted following my heart in my choice of career for so long. This brought me full circle to realizing that the mornings that I got the most out of my meditation it came naturally without any resistance to my thoughts. They popped in – and they popped out.

I saw so clearly that resisting anything dams up the natural flow of our lives. The energy we expend to dam up the flow sucks the joy out of any experience in our lives. What a useless practice this is. Resistance is futile because in resisting we hope to avoid pain in some area of our lives, but what actually happens is the complete opposite – we create more pain that actually seeps into every area of our lives. Pain should be a warning that something is wrong, but when we dam up the feelings and get used to the pain it becomes all too familiar. No more of creating pain for me. After this realization I’m adopting new mantra in meditation and in life: Resist nothing.

Are there any areas in your life where you’ve been resisting change? Can you see how it has it affected you? How will your life change if you stop resisting and release the waters from the dam?

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