Why is love all there is? Have you ever thought about this?
In January of 1998 I had a profound spiritually transformative experience. In the middle of the night I was awakened by an aunt who had made her transition three weeks earlier. She came to tell me to, “love more.” And, during her visit I was enveloped in the most indescribable love I have ever felt. It was far beyond human love. The only word that might possibly describe it is celestial. I was so high from this love I don’t think my feet touched the ground for a week. Years later, from my research I learned that it can take up 20 years to process and integrate a spiritually transformative experience, and here it was happening to me right on cue.
In 2018, I began to focus on this topic of “love being all there is” when it occurred to me that the depression I had been experiencing wasn’t so much a depression, as it was homesickness. I longed to feel that amazing “celestial” love again. Where had it gone? Why couldn’t I feel it again?
One morning I was meditating when I had a flash of insight about this phrase. It came to me that “love is all there is” because at our core we are drops of eternal divine intelligence, or God having a human experience through each of us. This loving intelligence animates life and is the eternal force that leaves when the body expires. It loves us as self, as we are all one and the same in essence. And, it is ALL there is because without it there could be no-thing.
As part of our human experience we forget who we really are. The emotional problems of life in a physical body blot out the awareness of this love. But, when we make our transition out of the physical world we are freed from this build-up of emotions and we experience the truth again, and that amazing love again. This is why many spiritually transformative experiences have an element of unity consciousness or divine love to them. In that blissful moment we are freed from the layer of “forgetfulness” to experience that love really is all there is.
We can manage the “emotional build-up” and strengthen our connection to divine love every day if we practice meditation. Having a daily practice of meditation allows us to get quiet and see where the “build-up” is, so we know what part of our lives need attention. We may never have the blow-out high of a spiritually transformative experience, but at least we know the truth that we are all headed home, and when we get there we will bask in the full force of that amazing love that cannot be described.
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Today I have the pleasure of sharing a fascinating interview with Jane Duncan Rogers, author of “Gifted by Grief.”
“Gifted by Grief” is an inspiring story. Dealing with grief and loss after the passing of her beloved husband Phillip, was the catalyst that helped Jane find herself and connect more deeply to her purpose and passion for living her own life. It’s an amazing book that motivates people to live up to their full potential and a guide to help those who are grieving navigate those dark waters. –Angela Artemis
Read the full interview or listen to it. To listen click on the Audio Player below:
- Jane, what led you to write “Gifted by Grief?”
I always knew I would write about this experience. Well, I was already writing about it in my journal, from day one of Philip’s diagnosis, just like I’d been writing in my journal since I was in my teens.
I also knew I needed to wait until the time was right – and I knew that the time would be right when I felt utterly compelled to do it. Sure enough, that’s what happened, and one morning on holiday when I was ill and had to stay in bed, I created a MindMap of the outline. It surprised me when I got home that I didn’t immediately start writing! But I trusted that I would know, and sure enough, in a few months, again on holiday, I woke one morning and just knew the time was right.
2. How did you feel when Philip was diagnosed, and you found yourselves coming face to face with the possibility of death?
It was a huge shock initially. It prompted a long conversation between us which led to us feeling closer than we had done for ages. Philip made some significant changes in his life which I could see were benefitting him but they benefitted me too. That’s why in the end we were able to be grateful for what cancer had brought, even though by that time we knew he would die from it. Strange paradox that, but it’s true.
- There’s a story in the book about The List – can you tell me more about that?
We’d received an email from a friend of ours insisting we address various questions about the end of life. They were quite pointed some of them, like what kind of coffin do you want, what personal items do you want to leave to anyone in particular, and did I know Philip’s user names and passwords. We resisted doing this for quite a while but eventually I pinned Philip down and we answered them together. It was hard, but in the end, after a couple of hours we were done, and we felt great. It was another thing that created great intimacy, which was wonderful. It felt like our last project together – although now I think this book is the last project!
- For most people their journals are very private. Yet you have shared intimately from them. How do you feel about that now it’s in print?
Well, I feel very strongly about bringing grief out of the closet, so to speak. As baby boomers get older, there is quite a lot around now about death and dying, but not so much that focuses on grief, and the effects of that.
One of the effects of the book is that you get an insight into the minds of both myself as the carer and survivor, and Philip as the patient (through his blog entries). I hope this will help readers to understand that though the feelings may be strong, you CAN get through this. Also I hope it will help people who are grieving to not hide away. I read about so many people who feel they have to pretend that they are all right. I rarely did that, and I was lucky in that I had friends who encouraged me to express how I felt in the moment. That’s how I discovered that if you just let whatever feeling be there, it will go, and usually quite quickly. It’s the ‘trying not to have it’ that actually keeps it there.
6. Tell me about “The Listening?”
The Listening was a kind of channeled writing that had been coming through me for several years previously. One day I was out walking, railing at God because I wasn’t able to have children. Suddenly I heard a ‘voice’ telling me ‘You are not meant to have children in this life; your life is purely a spiritual one’. I was amazed. Over time a relationship with this voice developed, and I discovered it was easiest to hear it if I was writing the words down. By now these were words that I saw in my mind’s eye. I have journals full of them, and they are always, unfailingly, loving and truthful. Here’s an example from my book, about 15 months after my husband had died:
“Death is but a passing from one form to another without fear or clinging. As easy as moving through a doorway from one room to another, and as lacking in fear. So come to this doorway when you are ready to anoint and bless your true Self. Stillness is the secret passage through which this journey is made, and indeed is what life is made of, in essence.”
As you can imagine, I found The Listening very helpful during this time.
- There was a very strong impact for you when Philip actually died, and you saw only a ‘dead body’. It’s not like that for everyone, is it? So how can you relate to others who maybe still see their loved ones as being a body?
It shocked me, that. I had seen one dead body before and I knew from that experience that you can see the life force has disappeared. But what was really amazing about that time was how disinterested I was in his body. That helped in then exploring what IS in this body that is sitting talking to you now. Which as you know set me off on quite a journey!
If others are relating still to their loved ones as if they were a body that is no longer here, that’s fine, so long as it isn’t causing complicated stress or stopping them from thriving in their lives. It’s too easy with grief to get stuck, and when that happens you need a helping hand to get you out, even if you feel ambivalent about it.
- What should people do if they feel they are stuck in grief?
When you’re hit by grief, it’s often a shock even if you knew what to expect (that happened to me) and then you have to adjust to a new situation. Eventually you get used to that situation, even if you don’t like it much. That in itself then becomes familiar over time, and when something has become familiar it can be easy to want to stay there, even if you are hurting still.
If you’re stuck and you know it, then that is the most important thing. Because then little by little you can take steps to get out of the hole of grief. But you may have become used to this new situation and its become familiar, but you know you’re not happy and thriving. Well, the obvious answer to this is that you want your loved one back and then everything will be all right.
I had personal counseling and coaching which helped me, but I also had my own background of therapeutic training which helped me realize what was going on. I never wanted to join a group – the others’ pain was too much for me, and then when I began to feel stronger, I didn’t have the need for it. So – get support is my answer in short!
- Tell me more about the shift that happened for you when you realized you are peace itself.
Well, everything looks the same and yet is experienced quite differently. Not all the time, but most of the time. Result – I am much more relaxed, at peace, able to move easily throughout life, have relationships with people.
The effect of it is that the dramas of life simply are not so important any more. People who are bereaved often say this, but in this case, it’s nearly 4 years now and they are still not very important. It’s like the dramas of an individual life are stories in a story book – to be read, enjoyed, but not really believed as the truth. When you can view your own life and that of others like that, and you know that you really are the peace that underlies all these stories, then you become much less attached to how the story turns out. Which makes for a much more peaceful life!
- Most people would think that a happy ending to the death of a spouse would be meeting someone else that you can fall in love with (without forgetting your previous spouse, of course). That’s not your happy ending – or is there something you’re not telling us?!
When you’re dependent on something or someone outside of you, then there will inevitably be loss at some point. What you think you can get from the outside and bring to your inside is always, by definition, transitory. It’s only when you turn that upside down, and focus on coming from inside towards the outer, that you discover experiences and a sense of who you truly are. And who you truly are has never begun, never ends, is always there. It flows through a body called Jane or Angela, for instance, but it never goes away.
That seems to me to be much more valuable than meeting another man! And yet – I’m living at a practical level too, and so it would be great to meet someone.
- What can listeners do if they want to know more about you and your work?
Buy the book! Gifted By Grief: A True Story of Cancer, Loss and Rebirth.
Visit my website www.giftedbygrief.com where they will be able to download the prologue and first two chapters. And then buy on Amazon, where it is discounted for your readers only from Monday 19th October – Friday 23rd, making it just $2.99 instead of $8.80.
Join my Facebook group – go to Facebook and put in Gifted By Grief and you’ll find it
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A reader asks, “How do we forgive forever?”
I always assumed that once you forgave it was forever.
As I thought about this I recalled all the forgiveness work I had to do regarding a previous relationship.
It took a long, long time of repeatedly focusing on forgiving to “forgive forever.”
But after I had forgiven I could easily think of this person and wish them well whereas before, I couldn’t. Until I finally forgave every thought I had of the person brought up the anger and pain again. I worked on this continually though for nearly two years until I was free.
And that perhaps is the answer…
Unless the act we are forgiving only superficially wounded us, it’s going to take time to clear your heart of the negative emotions you’re hanging onto to get to being able to “forgive forever.”
Forgiveness has to be a daily effort.
One of the ways to clear your heart and forgive is to use a mantra such as the one from Ho’oponopono which is “an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness.” (Wikipedia).
The mantra is:
I’m sorry. Forgive me. Thank you. I love you.
Another powerful mantra that I have used is from Sahaja Yoga:
I forgive. I forgive everyone including myself.
You also have to want to forgive forever.
Some people say they do but really, deep down they enjoy being the victim and telling their story over and over. They’ve become emotionally addicted to the attention and sympathy they get when they tell their stories. If you hang onto to your story you’ll never forgive forever.
Another part of the forgiveness puzzle lies in actually “accepting” what has happened.
When you can’t accept what has happened what you’re really saying is that you cannot accept that your life has been changed forever. You are forcibly holding onto the past and what has been and deep down you’re probably not able to forgive yourself.
When someone does this it’s usually their way of not acknowledging fear and other toxic emotions such as guilt, humiliation, shame and embarrassment about how their lives have changed. The answer is to forgive yourself and then work on self-love and love for all of life in general.
Living with abuse
If the situation is ongoing – that’s entirely different. We all have free will and choice in our lives. Forgiving someone doesn’t mean putting up with abuse of any kind. Leave and end the relationship then begin working on forgiving.
It’s not going to be possible to forgive if you have a new fresh wound to heal each day. You’re not meant to be a martyr.
If you can’t leave – use the mantras and release the toxic emotions daily until you can leave.
The Scale of Consciousness
Holding onto anger and not forgiving someone ultimately hurts you not the person you’re angry with.
I had the privilege of seeing Dr. David R Hawkins demonstrate his “scale of consciousness” using muscle testing in 2007 while at an I Can Do It conference. The muscle testing clearly showed how what we feel and think affects the body. His work and many others since show that toxic emotions weaken the body and will eventually lead to illness.
Lower level emotions emit the lowest vibrations and hanging onto them does equate to “drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
Hawkins created a scale of consciousness based on these emotions. (Check it out here.)
True forgiveness is being at peace. You’ll know when you have forgiven forever when you’re able to think about what happened and no longer have your emotions provoked.
You can forgive forever in fact, I recommend it. Let go, forgive, forget and move on.
Are you still holding onto anger? What is it costing you to not forgive?
How emotional pain imprisons you
Pain springs from many sources. Most common is a loss of some type such as the loss of a loved one, loss of a relationship, loss of job and income, loss of your health, loss of sense of self and the loss of a way of life you previously had such as through divorce. The source of the emotional pain may be different but the results are the same; imprisonment by your pain.
Pain holds you hostage. When you’ve been wounded deeply the result is trauma and standing still with your life for fear of being open and vulnerable to more pain. Pain keeps us frozen in place for years unless it’s addressed. Is your emotional pain paralyzing you?
Measure your pain.. Take the quiz:
1. Have you suffered incredible loss such as the losing someone close to you, lost a job/career, income, financial stability, your health, gone through a divorce?
2. Do you long to change your life but feel afraid of stepping into the unknown?
3. Do you yearn for a greater, bigger more fulfilling life?
4. Do you feel confused about your direction?
5. Are you overwhelmed because you’re working harder than ever before?
6. Does your indecisiveness lead you to contemplate giving up at times?
7. Are you uncomfortable opening up and asking for help?
8. If you were to review your life over the last few years would you notice not much has changed?
If you said yes to two or more of these questions your emotional pain is holding you back from achieving your goals and living a life you love.
How pain paralyzed me
After the economic melt down in 2008 my income declined dramatically. The following year it declined again and every year after that. I went from spending without a care to living in lock-down mode not buying a thing I didn’t have to. I sold my home to conserve my resources. If I had stayed in my house I would have burned through a retirement account it had taken me twenty plus years to acquire.
The industry I was in was decimated by the financial crisis. I frantically applied for jobs in other industries only to be turned down. No one would hire me because I had no experience outside of this one area.
I didn’t know what to do with myself to rebuild my income. I remained in the industry I knew just to stay afloat and changed employers a few times hoping things would get better. By the time I was making some money again I had lost interest in my career and it became a huge chore to do it again day in and day out. But I so feared not having an income that I remained stuck by refusing to walk away from my job for the “security” it gave me. Then one day I woke up and knew I just couldn’t do it anymore.
Release your emotional pain
I realized I had allowed my pain to imprison me in a life I didn’t love. My fear of loss of income kept me working full time. Every other spare minute was spent writing and publishing and having private sessions with clients. Honestly, I didn’t think I was going to make it through some days. I had too much to do, too many obligations and responsibilities, too little time and no support.
The moment I comprehended what my emotional pain was doing to me I had a mental shift and opened to the possibility of reaching out for help. I saw that “staying afloat” was not the same as living. I allowed myself to begin dreaming again and I remembered that I had big dreams.
Connecting to my pain and seeing how much it was costing me to “stay afloat” in order to avoid the fear of the unknown empowered me and turned on the “lightbulb above my head.”
“Your wound is the place where light enters you.” –Rumi
I realized that my fears about the loss of money had kept me stuck at a certain level for far too long. I committed right then to do things differently from that moment on. I felt my enthusiasm for life returning. The next day I woke up excited about the prospect of changing my life.
The more enthused I became about playing full out and going after what I wanted the more wonderful opportunities came to me. By not being afraid any longer I had released a flood of power that had been frozen inside of me. This wave moved me forward smoothly, easily and most effortlessly.
Realizing how your emotional pain has been holding you hostage can inspire an epiphany and empower you to move forward just as easily too. You just need to know the system to be released from your pain and have those prison gates open.
The simple 8 step method for releasing the power trapped beneath your pain:
1. Acknowledge the pain. Sometimes the pain is too great. You don’t want to look at it because looking at it opens the wounds again. The problem is that cramming a painful memory way down is not a solution. The pain is frozen mass inside that blocks the circulation of life energy. Bringing it up to the surface of your awareness where you can heal is what releases the power to move forward in your life.
2. Forgive. Forgive yourself and anyone else whom you believe may have contributed to the situation. For example, I was angry about what happened in my industry and about how my my lucrative career had been taken away. To find who or what to forgive look to what you’re angry about. Forgiveness frees you from dragging this painful burden around with you. It gives you permission to live again!
3. Be grateful. Find the good in everything. There is always a silver lining no matter how things appear. For example, now I see that had my industry not imploded I would not have had the opportunity to grow and change. I wouldn’t have developed the desire to have my own business either. It’s actually been a great lesson. Where you can you be grateful and find the good in your own situation?
4. Focus on what you want. The more attention you give to the things you don’t like or want in your life the more of your awareness they consume. Start thinking about what you do want instead. Allow yourself to dream and dream big! When a situation or condition arises that you would rather not have in your life ask yourself what you would like instead? Play that scenario over in your mind rather than the one you dislike.
5. Claim your good! Staying afloat is not living and it is certainly not claiming the good the Universe has in store for you. When we allow our pain to paralyze us we live each day just to get through it. This fearful attitude keeps our good at bay. You are here to live up to your highest potential and to have, be and do whatever you desire but you have to claim your good. To claim your good believe you deserve to live a better life.
6. Tame your fears. I love this quote from Mark Twain: “I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.” The truth is that most of what we fear never happens. Fear is imaginary and keeps us from jumping fully into our lives. Make a vow to stop worrying and listening to your fears.
7. Listen to your intuition – it knows the way. Your intuition is that voice inside that keeps nudging you to be more, to live up to your potential and go after what you want. If you follow your intuition you will not fail to bring forth the exciting life you dream of. You stop listening to your intuition when you allow your fear to be the predominant voice you listen to. You wouldn’t have this voice inside pulling you toward accomplishing certain things if you already didn’t possess the capability and power to achieve them.
8. Get support. There’s a mystique especially in Western culture that upholds the lone individual as a hero and role model. It’s not the reality. Everyone needs support. Everyone needs community. Everyone needs to learn from more successful people. Find a mentor, hire a coach or join a mastermind. The truth is if you could have done it alone you would have done it already, right?
What power would you release if you dealt with your pain? What has holding onto your pain really cost you? Join the conversation. Leave a comment.
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The process of spiritual growth is different for everyone. During this time we absorb so-called “rules” about spirituality that we never think to question but, according to author Betsy Chasse, perhaps should.
Author Betsy Chasse began to question these spiritual rules after she went through several crises in her life. Her book, “Tipping Sacred Cows,” examines the spiritual tenets we assume we must ascribe to and whether we actually need to buy into them in order to “be spiritual.”
I read the book and enjoyed it very much. I recommend it if you too question some of these “rules.”
1. What does “Tipping Sacred Cows” mean?
A sacred cow is something we hold it up against any sort of criticism. We protect it, even if it doesn’t serve our highest good. We have beliefs about ourselves and the world that we have picked up along the way from our family, friends, teachers, the media and they become ingrained in us and we mold our lives around those beliefs, often we don’t even know they exist. To tip those sacred cows means to take them out and really examine them, see if they are true or just a belief, a story you’ve convinced yourself is true. If it’s not – tip it over, let it go, work at it until it’s gone.
2. The book is a hilarious guided tour of what you perceive to be the spiritual propaganda most of us have been fed; please tell Powered by Intuition readers what happened in your life that changed how you perceived these spiritual concepts?
Life is a series of epiphanies. It’s a constant unraveling of self. With each one we can either choose to evolve, re-examine our beliefs and change or continue living from the same place. The biggest change for me came when I realized nothing was static. An idea, a concept of a belief needed to be able to evolve as I did, as my life evolved. What might have been working for me during one part of my life, doesn’t mean it will always work or always be true or ever was true. Being spiritual isn’t about what you practice, what yoga you do, whether you’re a vegan or not. You are a spiritual being. Meaning comes from you, not what you do. For me finding my meaning came when I looked at myself and asked myself, what do I want in my life, who do I want to be and started to be that. I let go of worrying about the how’s, the yoga pants, and if I had Ganesh in the right part of my house.
3. “Like any good drug, once a moment of enlightenment happens, we begin to attempt to recreate that experience, and with every attempt it seems to get further away. Thus the eternal hunt through the maze for the cheese. The seeking becomes the endgame, and when we are seeking, we aren’t really being.” (P.35)
I loved this section Betsy and I have experienced this myself. Can you give readers an example of one of those “enlightenment experiences” that was the catalyst for chasing experience instead of being? Instead of chasing these experiences what should we do instead?
One of my most powerful experiences came when I first experienced a group of people so enthralled by a teacher. I got caught up for sure in group consciousness, suddenly feeling connected to the people around me in a way I had never experienced. I felt I belonged for the first time. That was amazing and I wanted to recreate that experience over and over again, so I attempted to manufacture it instead of just allowing it to happen, like it did the first time, organically, but just living my life fully and taking each experience as it comes rather than forcing it.
4. Why does living in “non-attachment’ from your point of view, not work for most people?
Mostly because we are a society built on attachments. Our entire realty is based on having. Not just things, but love, relationships. We are a social species, we are emotional and the more we try to be less emotional and less attached because it’s the “right” way to be, the more frustrated we become. It’s like saying no: try telling yourself you can’t have something and watch your body react. I have found the more I allow myself to be honest about my attachments the less I feel the need to be attached.
5. You book covers all the major spiritual topics such as enlightenment, the law of attraction, attachment, the Universe, masks we wear through life, feelings, living in bliss, the ego, fear and judgment, self-love and forgiveness and anger. Which of these topics do you feel is the most misunderstood and why?
For me the biggest was what does it mean to be spiritual. I always felt I was doing it wrong, or that I was somehow missing something. My definition of spiritual didn’t match up with someone else’s. I don’t feel alone in this. We all want to be happy so we’re looking for “the answer” and we keep looking for it. We’re busy and it’s hard and time-consuming work, so we look for the short cuts and we slap on the newest and greatest practice or platitude and we keep on truckin’. And it works for a while, but because most of these concepts are complex and intertwined and take a willingness to be uncomfortable and a mess, we either quit out of frustration, or we attempt to skip to the master class. I misunderstood a lot of these concepts because they sound so easy, they’ve almost been trivialized. Make a vision board and your life will be better. But we don’t want to ask the hard questions, like why do we want what’s on that vision board? Being spiritual became more about doing it right than living authentically. If I wasn’t manifesting what was on my vision board there must be something wrong with me. And much of these concepts have been taken out of context and overly simplified.
6. What central point do you wish readers to take away from reading the book?
Ultimately happiness isn’t a destination, it’s a state of mind. Spirituality doesn’t have a rule book, there isn’t a right and a wrong way, it’s just life, your life. I’ve got a million platitudes and I hate to say it, but they are all true. Life is messy, life is a journey (yep I just said that), give yourself a break, and if you can only hold on to one sacred cow, make it this one: Everything is going to be ok and you might as well laugh…cause really it is damn funny, even when it sucks.
7. How did writing the book change you? How would you like it to affect readers?
Writing Tipping was a catharsis in that I let go of all the thoughts and ideas that had been swirling about my head for a very long time. Just like in the game I describe in the book: “My life Sucks”, it was freeing to write it and say it, I had to dig deep into myself to the places I often avoided. My hope is that readers will see that in doing that, there is peace, laughter and a path towards the life they desire. And that in the end the only path you need to be following is your own.
8. What’s next or what are you working on now?
I am currently filming another “BLEEP” and am working on getting a new film going “Killing Buddha”.
What sacred cows are you holding onto? Do they inhibit your growth or assist you in it? Share with us in the comments.
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Betsy Chasse is an internationally known author, filmmaker and speaker. She is the Co-Creator (Writer, Director, Producer) of the film “What The Bleep Do We Know?!” and the author of 3 books including Tipping Sacred Cows (January 2014 Atria/Simon & Schuster), Metanoia – A Transformative Change of Heart and the companion book to BLEEP, Discovering The endless Possibilities for Altering Your Everyday Reality. She also enjoys blogging for Huff Post, Intent.com, Modern Mom and other sites. Chasse continues to make provocative films, with the recently completed documentary CREATIVITY and two currently in production— The follow up film to “BLEEP” and Zentropy a narrative comedy about what happens when the least spiritual person on the planet gets hired to make a movie about spirituality.
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”It is only by grounding our awareness in the living sensation of our bodies that the ‘I Am,’ our real presence, can awaken.” –G.I. Gurdjieff
Today I am thrilled to bring you an interview with Intuitive Body Mentor, Lisa Claudia Briggs of IntuitiveBody.com. Lisa facilitates spiritual healing via her unique therapy process to clients locked in the grips of emotional overeating.
1. Please give us some info on your background.
I have an undergraduate degree in Psychology from Connecticut College, and a Masters Degree in Clinical Social Work from Boston College. I spent many years at a Harvard psychiatric teaching hospital, on both the inpatient and outpatient children’s units working with children and families. I also worked at a Women’s state prison on the Psychiatric Crisis Team. I was a licensed Clinician for almost 20 years, and became very interested in trauma and how it was ‘stored’ in the body. The last 10 years I’ve trained with healers and intuitives and spiritual thought leaders so my work is now very integrative/holistic.
”Within my body are all the sacred places of the world, and the most profound pilgrimage I can ever make is within my own body.” —Saraha
2. How did you go from being a conventional therapist to creating Intuitive Body.
There came a point when I started to see that trauma and other experiences were stored in the body and that talking alone as a healing modality wasn’t enough- people got stuck in their intellect and were disconnected from where the pain was.. in the body. There was an expression in the trauma field “The body knows”.. I was also studying with a teacher for 4 years who kept telling us to “get back in our bodies” (out of our heads/intellect). It really began to reshape the way I worked with my clients and the way I thought about healing and processing experiences. I had my own issues with my body and overeating for many years, and specialized with women with similar issues.. and as I learned what was healing for me personally, it translated into my work with women into IntuitiveBody.
”The body must be nourished, physically, emotionally and spiritually. We’re spiritually starved in this culture-not underfed but undernourished.” —Carol Hornig
3. What issues does your practice address?
Women typically come to me via the gateway of body /weight/or eating issues.. but from my perspective that struggles with these are often due to a sensitive/empathic nature.. Intuitives, empaths.. we are more likely to absorb the emotions and energy of others and this can create problems with eating and weight..This perspective and the approaches I use with clients are very different than most eating/weight “specialists”.
”The mind’s first step to self-awareness must be through the body.” —George Sheehan
4. Is there a common or primary problem or challenge that you see repeated over and over regarding body issues as related to intuition?
Yes.. definitely. The themes that show up consistently have to do with taking on too much emotionally, people-pleasing, caretaking and over-nurturing others, boundaries that don’t protect the individual well enough, perfectionism (basically feeling that nothing is good enough, things have to be perfect, procrastinating or not being able to get things done because they won’t be “perfect enough”…) and relationship themes that can come from having somewhat narcissistic mothers- where the daughters felt it wasn’t safe to shine too brightly. Also not really knowing how to find pleasure because they are pushing themselves so hard.
”There is more wisdom in your body than in your deepest philosophies.” —Friedrich Nietzche
5. What are some of the signs that someone may not be fully connected to their body?
I think the struggles with weight and eating or body hatred are all signs.. women are disconnected from their bodies and what they feel because the body wars take up a lot of space. They may be disconnected from what they feel or they may feel way too much and be incredibly vulnerable emotionally and not know how to stay grounded and balanced.. not know how to stay safe in their bodies. They may get injured a lot, or seem somewhat “clumsy”. Those are some examples.
“The physical world, including our bodies, is a response of the observer. We create our bodies as we create the experience of our world.” —Deepak Chopra
6. Can you give us some tips or an exercise for how we can reconnect to our own body?
First of all people don’t always want to reconnect.. being connected means you are going to feel things that might be painful..Which is often why there’s been disconnection to start with.
One easy and gentle way to “come into” your body is to put one hand on your heart, and one hand on your belly. Just feeling the warmth of your own hand on your heart will naturally encourage you to take a deeper breath.. always a good thing. It’s also comforting.. like a laying on of hands.. healing touch.. even though it’s your own hands. Having your hands on your heart and belly also get you to drop your attention into your body, out of your head where you may be spinning with thoughts.. and down into your core where you can just breathe for a minute or two and allow yourself to settle. This can be very quieting and grounding and very quickly sends out very different signals to your nervous system and actually changes your hormones and chemical profile.. in ways that are really good for us.
Another thing you can do when you feel overwhelmed and disconnected or in a spin emotionally (another sign of disconnect) is to come into “present time” in a really simple way.. Gently press the soles of your feet into the floor, rub the palms of your hands together.. look around and name what you see.. “there is my window, there is my chair, I see a tree outside, I feel the softness of my sweater”.. all of this coming into the moment, through your senses is a simple way to reconnect.
“Think with your whole body.” —Taisen Deshimaru
7. What different services/products do you offer?
I love to offer an initial complimentary consult if somebody thinks they might be interested in working with me. I offer intensive individual mentoring for women that want a different and powerful approach to end the body wars.. That have tried it all and want to go deeper and really get it done, find peace, learn the techniques that work with a mentor that is devoted and really gets it. I also have a home study digital ebook called “Recovering Beauty” that people love and always write to me saying they feel like it was written just for them.
”If you want to find the answers to the Big Questions about your soul, you’d best begin with the Little Answers about your body.”
8. How can readers get in touch with you?
I’m easy to reach via either my website contact http://www.IntuitiveBody.com, email me at Lisa at IntuitiveBody dot com, I have a Facebook page www.Facebook/IntuitiveBody and I am @IntuitiveBody on Twitter. I have lots of information and articles on my blog and people can also start just by signing up for my complimentary ebook ” The Energy of Weight Loss: 7 Essential Secrets”.
“There is deep wisdom within our very flesh, if we can only come to our senses and feel it.”
Elizabeth A. Behnke
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Lisa Claudia Briggs, MSW and founder of the website and blog Intuitive Body is a veritable treasure trove of healing wisdom. She’s a Harvard-trained psychotherapist, eating disorder specialist and sacred streetfighter for gifted, sensitive & empathetic women. With her medical-meets-mystical approach, she guides women through highly-individual rites of passage — over the coals of their own personal firewalks. Lisa also wrote “Recovering Beauty: Sacred Rituals For Clearing Emotional Weight” with a foreword by Hay House author, Denise Linn. Lisa and IntuitiveBody shows women struggling with weight and body-related issues simple sacred solutions for living beautifully in their bodies
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