Questions on Mediumship Readings and Answers: Have you ever gotten a “secret word” in a reading?
No, I don’t recall a deceased loved one ever giving me a “secret word,” and I don’t think you need one. I do recall many times saying things that a client responds to with, “Oh my goodness, that’s exactly what my mother/grandfather/wife used to say!” Or, “They always called me that!”
I can also recall times that spirit has shown a client where to find something such as jewelry, or other valuables, even when they might not have realized it was there, or missing. For example, I remember there was a missing college ring (that the deceased’s wife didn’t know was missing) that was down in a corner of the basement; and collectible coins that were found that the living relative was looking for; and undiscovered yellowed newspaper clippings about births, deaths and accomplishments of a mother’s children that she kept in an envelope in the back of their spice cabinet.
The reason why I don’t think you need a “secret word” is because being given hidden information that arises naturally during a reading is usually not only a memorable surprise to the client, but is extremely validating that you are communicating with an intelligent consciousness who is/was your mother/grandfather/wife, etc. And as a medium, I believe that the point of mediumship readings is to show that this intelligence continues after we shed the physical body.
Now, this brings me to my theory about “secret words.” I feel if you go into a reading and focus solely on getting this one piece of information in order to prove to yourself that this was really your deceased loved one, you’ll devalue all the other evidence, and miss the love they’re sending you from the other side because you’re heart and mind will be closed to everything but this “secret word.”
My advice on this is, sure mention it to them prior to the mediumship reading if you have set up such a thing (most people haven’t). It can’t hurt, but once you remind them let it go. Focus on everything they share with you during the reading. Be fully present and immerse yourself in the experience. I promise they will share memories you have long forgotten about that will absolutely validate to you that they are your loved one in spirit.
You are a vital part of making your reading successful, whether you realize it or not. If you’re agitated and annoyed that this “secret word” isn’t coming through that will affect the reading. The more relaxed and open you are, the more easily the spirit will be able to communicate through the medium, which in turn will allow more validating information to flow through to you.
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QUESTION: Can you make someone come through even if they’ve been deceased for 30, 40 or 50 years?
That’s a good question. The first thing to understand about Mediumship Readings is that a Medium cannot make a soul in the spirit world do anything. They have free will just as you and I do, and will show up to a reading if they want to. The length of time they’ve been on the other side doesn’t matter. It’s all up to them.
Interestingly enough, many times grandparents and great grandparents come through in readings even though they passed before the birth of the client. They know who you are and are aware of of you, and want to let you know they love you and are watching over you. When it’s time for you to make your journey to the other side they’ll welcome you home, as part of their soul family.
To show you that the number of decades a loved one has been deceased doesn’t matter, consider this example of a client who was researching the family tree. They knew nothing of their family beyond their grandparents, yet great grandparents and great aunts and uncles and their children (distant cousins) came through with many details of their lives to fill in the blanks about their family history. They were able to take the names and details about their distant relatives and delve more deeply into the online search of their genealogy.
Here’s a tip for you. If you have the opportunity prior to a mediumship reading, try to do some research, or learn from relatives who are still alive about your family tree. It will make the mediumship reading much more validating if you’re able to recognize the relatives when they come through.
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Answering Client Questions about Mediumship Readings.
After a loved one has made their transition to the spirit world you miss them, especially their physical presence and how easily you communicated. Often you want to know if they’re aware of how lonely you are without them, or the challenges you’re now facing, or if they know there was a new addition to the family, or know of your recent accomplishments. You may want advice on what to do about a certain situation, or changing an aspect of your life. The list of questions is endless. Many times the answers you yearn for come through in the mediumship reading, but sometimes they don’t.
The question that often follows from clients is, “Why didn’t they say anything about this during the mediumship reading?”
There are a number of answers to this question. First, they’re aware of what’s going on in your life, maybe not minute by minute, but they’re absolutely aware of the highlights. Many times they’re so excited to be communicating with you and sharing all the wonderful memories of their lives that they momentarily forget to congratulate you on your promotion, or say anything about the arrival of the new baby. It’s not that they don’t know, it’s just that they have so much they want to share with you, that perhaps before they got around to it the hour flew by.
Another reason may be that you are intent on getting a specific answer from them about something. For example, you want to know where the life insurance policy is. They may or may not recall this, just like you may put things away and then not remember where you put them; they’re no different. So they may focus on showing you places where they think they may have put the insurance policy. They’re trying hard to remember, but consequently they’re so engrossed in trying to help you they forget to send that birthday cake image to say, “Happy Birthday” to you.
You have to realize that making a transition from this world to the next does not automatically make your loved one a saint, or a seer. They retain their character traits and personality when they go to the other side. And, they may not remember everything. Have you ever talked about a memory of a family event with a sibling and learned that their memory is completely different than yours? Or, that you recall things about the event that they don’t, and they recall things that you don’t remember either. This doesn’t change when you go to the spirit world.
Another reason you may not get an answer can depend on the relationship you had with your deceased loved one when they were alive. If you weren’t in the habit of asking their advice, or discounted their advice when they gave it they may hold back from advising you now. Perhaps they know you never listen to advice! A word of caution, if they gave terrible advice when they were alive don’t expect them to be a sage now.
If they were the type of person who didn’t share much about their lives, or shared only what they wanted you to know and held back the rest, they’ll be the same in the mediumship reading. If they were shy, quiet, talked very little, slow to form relationships and, or distrustful of strangers they may not communicate any differently from the other side. If they loved being the center of attention and told stories to answer questions, they’ll do the same thing through a medium. Always keep in mind when posing a question who they were in life.
In addition, you may be asking questions and looking for direction that you’re not truly ready to act upon. For example, you want to know if you should leave your job, sell your home, or get a divorce. It may be that you already know the answer deep down, but you’re not emotionally ready to leave any of these scenarios behind. And, even if you don’t know at a gut level if you’re not emotionally ready to make these changes telling you to do so prematurely will be of little help. You probably won’t act on the advice because there’s too much emotional resistance inside that you still need to come to terms with first.
Conversely, if you ask a question such as, “How much more time does Mom have?” Or, “How am I going to get out of this mess?” They may not answer if it’s not in your best interest. They may know there’s little time left for your mother before she makes her transition, and not want you to panic, or interfere in the natural course of events by telling you. They may also know that your life mission is to figure out how to solve the problems you created for your own greater spiritual growth, and therefore not provide the answer.
The advice I give clients prior to mediumship readings is to let your loved ones know about the upcoming mediumship reading appointment. Ask them to be there and ask them to answer your question. Talk to them as if they were right next to you (most likely they are). Keep reminding them daily about the reading and the question you want them to answer. Do not make a laundry list of questions. Let them be themselves in the reading, and let it be an expression of their love for you. Allow them to share what they want with you. I guarantee they will bring up memories you had long forgotten about, and it will be much more meaningful because they remembered this special thing about you.
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