Intuition & Following the Signs to Your Next Chapter
Are you ready for your next chapter in 2015?
Did your next chapter unfold elegantly or did it whack you upside the head like it did me?
When your next chapter unfolds elegantly it means that you have been listening to your intuition and taking the right steps. It shows that you’ve not been resistant to the messages and signs you’ve been getting. You know what you’re next steps are and regardless of whether they’re difficult or stretch you beyond you’re comfort zone you’ve been taking them.
If you became aware of your next chapter like I did – with a punch in the gut – it shows you’ve been ignoring the signs your intuition has been desperately trying to make you aware of.
Can you relate to my story?
Near the end of 2013 I vowed that I would finally quit my job in financial sales in 2014 or die trying. (Yes, I actually said that to myself…..I’m really passionate when I want something). So I jumped into training after training…I became a coach and took numerous marketing, copy writing, lead generation and advertising courses to ensure that I would make a living. I quadrupled my subscribers and replaced my work income plus more….and I quit! Mission accomplished. Yay!
Ignoring Your Intuition is Foolish
Here’s where the story goes awry…as 2014 drew to a close I was exhausted. I had been working seven days a week for 10-12 hours each day to accomplish everything I set out to do. I worked this many hours in order to keep up with all the courses and homework and to apply the lessons I was learning to my business.
Around Halloween I was out taking a walk when I noticed that I had been repeating the phrase, “Give me a break” in my self-talk.
Knowing that everything we think and feel emotionally is telegraphed to the Universe I immediately went into course correction mode and restated: Dear Universe, I don’t mean that I want anything “broken” in my life I mean that I’d like a vacation and a rest and to stop working so hard.
I thought, that’s that. I’ve handled things with Universe.
The problem though is that I did NOT take a vacation even though my body and mind were screaming for one.
I kept working and dragging myself through each day in order to keep up. (I had been teaching people to find their life’s purpose by following their intuition. After finding their purpose many wanted to create an intuitive business or healing practice around it so, I began teaching entrepreneurs to use marketing and lead generation to get more clients.)
When someone asks for my help I have a hard time saying “No,” even when I’m overburdened.
By the time Thanksgiving arrived I was not feeling well at all. No matter how much sleep I got I always looked haggard.
The Universe was no longer playing with me. I had ignored the telltale signs for too long.
How the Universe Whacked Me Into Waking Up
- My body became the means for the Universe to give me a huge wake up call. I got diverticulitus a painful condition of the lower intestine that lasted for nearly two weeks but I still kept working.
- My 17+ year old cat, Punkin, stopped grooming himself. He had always sat on my lap when I worked on the computer but now he would only lay on the floor next to my chair.
- My computer accumulated a series of viruses that became so bad I had to replace the hard drive and lost the use of it for nearly 10 days.
- Right before Christmas I drove Punkin to my veterinarian’s office crying the whole way there. It nearly killed me to do it but, I had to release him from his misery.
Don’t ask the Universe for a Break unless you’re ready to take one!
As I drove home with the empty carrier on the passenger seat I realized Punkin’s downward health spiral was a mirror of what had been happening to me over the last year that I’d chosen to ignore.
The Universe had stepped in to create the break I desperately needed because I refused to do it on my own.
For good measure, the Universe threw in a dose of the flu right after Christmas.
The Universe is always sending you signs
When you refuse to listen to your intuition and follow the signs the Universe will whack you on the head like it did me. I knew I was overtired and needed to rest but my need to accomplish everything on my “to-do list” caused me to resist the message.
The events of your life always mirror what is happening within you. If you look with an open mind you will see the signs everywhere.
What is your life trying to teach you? What lesson must you learn? How can you address the signs early on so that you don’t get whacked in the head?
Your Next Chapter
What messages is your intuition sending you about your next chapter? What must come to and end? What is your next step? Is it time to release unhealthy habits, relationships or a career that no longer suits you? Is your intuition whispering to you that it’s time to step out and create your own business?
My intuition has spoken and I’m listening. My next chapter is to find a balance between doing the work I’m passionate about and rest. I love sharing information on following your intuition and I also love helping heart-centered entrepreneurs create profitable businesses around their passion but I realize I must make more time for my own self-care in 2015.
If you yearn to develop your intuition there is no better class than life itself! Your intuition is a sense just like the other five senses you have. You must learn how to rely upon it to navigate your life just as surely as you use your sight, hearing, touch, taste and sense of smell. When you listen it will always, always lead you in the right direction.
How to use your intuition to lead you to your next chapter:
1. Pay attention to the whispers in the back of your mind. What are you being called to do? What are you being pulled toward? What are you being pushed away from?
2. Ask yourself if you have been purposely ignoring addressing certain things in your life. What do you have resistance around?
3. Get clarity. Go for a long walk in nature. If you meditate go within and listen. When your mind is quiet you will hear the whispers of your intuition.
4. Set your alarm an hour earlier and get up and journal. Start with this prompt: My next chapter is about…..keep writing until you feel you’ve emptied your mind onto the page.
5. Go to your closest friend and share what you came up with in journaling about your next chapter. Ask them if they feel you’re on target. Sometimes you need an outside opinion to confirm you’re on the right path.
2015 is here and it’s a blank slate. How will you fill it? Share your next chapter here in the comments.
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Why Can’t You Hear Your Intuition?
Why can’t you hear your inner voice, AKA your Intuition?
I get a lot of email from subscribers asking me why they can’t hear their intuition loud and clear.
So today I’m opening up the PbI mailbag once again to address this frequently asked question.
5 Reasons Why You Can’t Hear Your Intuition
1. The first thing you need to understand about Intuition is that it’s quite subtle especially when you first begin to work with it. It presents itself in very “ordinary” ways that can easily be overlooked.
2. You have the power to turn up the volume of your intuition and to mute it as well. You are always in control….even when you feel as if you’re not getting the answers you desire. Most likely you’re getting the intuitive information you’ve asked for but, you’re suppressing this information. More on this below in #4.
3. Developing intuition is like any other thing we set out to accomplish in our lives; our intention is key. You must create the intention of hearing and then following your intuition in your life if you wish to hear it loud and clear.
4. Another factor you need to understand about your Intuition is that when you’re attached to the outcome you will unconsciously suppress this information from your mind if it conflicts with the outcome your desire.
5. The last thing on this list you must absolutely understand is this: Human Beings can rationalize and justify almost anything if there is a reason to do so! Read the following two examples and this will become very clear.
Say you suffer from symptoms such as occasional dizziness, blurred vision, brain fog, motor skills issues and and neck and back pain. You go from doctor to doctor but none find anything seriously wrong. You are prescribed muscle relaxants for your back and neck pain but the symptoms persist. Your family is tired of hearing your complaints and are starting to believe most of it is in “your head.”
You decide the doctors must be right, that it must be all in your head and take your meds and go about your life.
As the symptoms persist you can’t shake the feeling in your gut that something is wrong. You rationalize it away though by thinking that it’s just fear talking and not a real health issue.
Months later you have a seizure and an MRI reveals a serious problem in the brain.
Your immediate reaction is, “I knew something wasn’t right!”
You realize that you let yourself override your intuition because you rationalized that you couldn’t possibly know more than the medical establishment.
You meet a new love interest and start living together. You get along well and enjoy a really nice lifestyle together. You love to travel together and enjoy many of the same interests.
This person is head over heels in love with you but you don’t feel the same although you care for them a great deal. Eventually, they start talking marriage. Your friends and family tell you that this person is really great and how lucky you are to have found each other. They point out all the good qualities the person has and you can’t disagree either….they are a really exceptional person.
The problem is that you can’t make up your mind what to do. You get stuck in an endless loop of considering how “lucky” you are to have this person in your life and how wonderful all your friends and family say this person is. Yet something holds you back from jumping into the marriage.
You finally say yes and get married. Two years later the marriage is over.
You now realize the reason you held back from jumping into the marriage was because you were never in love with your partner in the first place. This person “checked off” all the boxes on your ideal mate list except the one about being in love! You settled and talked yourself into it.
How to Begin Hearing Your Inner Voice, AKA Intuition:
1. Journal. It’s easy to get in touch with your feelings when you journal. I wrote about this extensively in my book, “The Intuition Principle.” Journaling is a safe place to reveal your true feelings. Writing will also help you organize your thoughts and sort out what you believe over what society has imposed upon you. A good way to get to the bottom of your own feelings is to write out the question you want an answer to at the top of the page then just start writing without censoring yourself. When you feel that sense of completion – stop. Go back to read what you’ve written and you will be amazed at the wisdom that has poured out of you.
2. Meditate. When you make the time to get quiet every day your intuition will get louder and clearer. The busyness of every day life is distracting. You must create an empty space in the mind where your intuition can come through. Find a quiet and private place where you can close your eyes for 15 to 20 minutes without being disturbed. Focus your attention on counting your breaths until you reach the number 50. At the 50th breath notice how you feel. Your thoughts should have slowed down. You should feel alert yet relaxed. Try to remain in that state. If your mind begins to race go back to counting the next 5o breaths. These relaxed moments where your thinking has slowed down is where your intuition will begin to come through. Ask a question you’d like guidance on then sit quietly and listen.
3. Take back your power. Realize that if a feeling or thought persists it persists for a reason. If you feel in your gut that you’re not okay with the diagnosis from your doctor get another opinion. If you hesitate to make a decision even if everyone you know says it’s right, there is a reason. Don’t go along with the what other people think if you have a nagging thought or feeling that you should do something different. The truth is we’re raised to listen to authority figures but that doesn’t mean they’ll be right every time.
Where have you overridden your intuition in your life? How did it turn out? What will you do differently from now on?
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Why don’t I trust my intuition?
This is a question I hear a lot from students who are developing their intuition.
Most recently I heard it from a woman who found out her husband was being unfaithful. When she learned the truth she said she knew it all along but didn’t trust her gut.
Intuition development is like any other skill you set out to acquire in life.
It takes practice.
You can’t expect to play like Tiger Woods after one golf lesson, can you?
It takes dedication and years of practice to get to his level.
I spent decades ignoring my own intuition even when I easily heard it for other people and confidently offered my advice.
It’s all about getting comfortable with your own power and confident in yourself. That’s why in my book, “The Intuition Principle” I cite increased confidence as one of the greatest benefits of developing your intuition.
You’ll learn to trust your intuition when you make listening to it an important part of your decision making process and subsequently follow its guidance.
The more you listen and the more success you have listening to it the more you’ll trust it.
There are valid reasons why you don’t trust your intuition.
I covered this in “The Intuition Principle” but here’s a few of the basic reasons:
- You were raised by controlling parents who never allowed you to make your own decisions.
- You were ridiculed or undermined when you made a decision on your own.
- You weren’t supported when you made a decision on your own.
Here are a few tips on how to engage your intuition and practice on a daily basis:
1. Test yourself throughout the day by “guessing” what a friend will be wearing when you meet her later.
2. Before you get on a grocery checkout line stop and check your gut for which line is going to move the fastest.
3. While driving to work ask yourself if you should take the “normal” route or vary it because of traffic?
4. Before getting to a busy intersection ask yourself if the light will be green or red?
5. On your way to the coffee shop ask yourself if you’re going to see someone you know?
These are simple questions you can ask or you can make up your own little tests too. The simpler the test the better it is because there is nothing at stake here. It’s not a life or death thing so you’re not going to tense up and shut down your intuition. Just relax go with your first impression. You’ll see within a few minutes if you’re right or wrong. The more you do this the better you’ll get and this will help you begin to trust your intuition.
Are you ready to begin to trust your intuition?
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Today I’m celebrating the 10th anniversary of Fran Sorin’s groundbreaking book, “Digging Deep.”
I loved “Digging Deep” and can’t recommend it enough if you are searching for the roots of your own creative genius.
The updated 10th Anniversary Edition of Digging Deep: Unearthing Your Creative Roots Through Gardening is a powerfully uplifting and transformative self-help book for the creatively and spiritually challenged. Overflowing with tips, exercises, and resources, Fran shares the lessons she’s learned from gardening over the past thirty years. If you’re yearning to cultivate more meaning and connection in life, the 7 Stages of Creative Awakening mapped out in the book will help you extinguish the stifling inner voice that says, “I’m not creative,” and replace it with strategies that will help you harness your instincts and live a life filled with joy and creativity.
1. What inspired you to write Digging Deep?
I was on all fours in the garden weeding one day when out of the blue, I realized that the transcendent state that I frequently experienced in the garden was similar to what I used to experience while playing the piano throughout my childhood and into adulthood. It is what Maslow calls ‘peak experience. It is this sweet spot—where you lose any self criticism or restraint, let your imagination run wild, take risks, improvise, and play – all the while being mindful of what you’re doing. This extraordinary state of being is where your creativity has an opportunity to jump in and take over.
Once I put the pieces together, the light bulb went off: I saw that this is how I had been creating my gardens for the past several years and wanted to share my passion for the creative process in the garden- and life- with others.
2. In Digging Deep you ask the question, “What does it mean to be creative?” So let me ask you, “What does it mean?”
Creativity is simply the energy of making something new where there was nothing before. We have the potential to do this in so many unmarked ways—from designing our schedules to fashioning our ‘look’, writing birthday cards, to building a business from the ground up. Lawyers create arguments, decorators create ambiance, and parents create everything from learning to a sense of wonder. Every time we get dressed, make dinner, or wrap a gift, we can be creative. In almost everything we do in life, we have the possibility of conjuring up the spirit of inspiration, imagination, innovation, and resourcefulness.
Creativity is not something we do; it’s something we embody. I believe the ultimate goal is not to be more creative, but to learn how to live creatively.
3. What would you say to someone who thinks they’re not creative?
The first thing I would do is ask them why they feel that way. And then I would listen to their story of why they are living with this ‘non-truth’.
I would then ask them to share a time with me in their childhood when they remember using their imagination and being creative. It could be acting in a play, designing their own Halloween costume, decorating an Easter egg—children are so naturally creative that when a person starts remembering wonderful times from their childhood, some awareness of the ‘playful self’ begins to break through.
Once the ice is broken and an individual opens up, there’s an opportunity for them to look at how they may already be creative in certain areas of their life that they’re not even aware of. It also allows for an opening to discuss ways that they might want to awaken their senses and learn more about living creatively.
And finally, I would leave them with the following: that even if they don’t think they’re creative, every day remind themselves that they are. Write some affirmations and place them around the house and work place about your creative essence…..something simple like “Every day I am creating a joyful and beautiful life.”
4. In Digging Deep you talk about the 7 Stages of Creative Awakening. Could you tell us a little bit about them?
Sure. The 7 Stages of Creative Awakening is a term I developed that leads someone step by step through what I consider to be the creative process. The stages are: Imagining, Envisioning, Planning, Planting, Tending, Enjoying, and Completing. Although I developed them with the garden in mind, in truth, they can be used in all areas of life.
For example, Stage One is Imagining: The Sparks of Creativity. Within the framework of that one stage are chapters on Observing, Discovering, Remembering, Exploring, Opening to Possibility, and Playing. In each chapter, I break down the behavior being discussed, share personal stories, and include hands-on-exercises so that the reader can begin practicing and integrating these new elements into their daily life. I call it exercising your ‘creativity muscles’.
5. What simple steps can someone take, right now, to be more creative in their daily life, as well as in their garden?
I would suggest that you do something new every day. I use a phrase ‘Try it new.’ If you’re used to driving to work one way, go another. If you ask your kids the same questions every day after school, come up with some new questions (believe me, they’ll be surprised). If you’re in the habit of dressing conservatively at work because you think you should—well, gosh darn it, go out and buy the purple silk scarf or bright red tie that you’ve been yearning for and wear it—with a big smile on your face.
Make a pact with yourself that you’re going to do something new every day and follow through on it. It doesn’t have to be a big thing at all. But bit by bit, day by day, the small changes add up.
FRAN SORIN is the Author of Digging Deep: Unearthing Your Creative Roots Through Gardening – Special 10th Anniversary Edition. Fran is a Renowned Gardening Expert, Passionate Gardener, Deep Ecologist, Inspirational Speaker, Ordained Interfaith Minister, Soul Tending Coach, and CBS Radio News Contributor. CONTACT INFO: For Media Queries & Event/Booking Info Email: Fran.Sorin@gmail.com Visit her website at: www.FranSorin.com
Do you hide from the spotlight?
Are you keeping your special gift under wraps?
There are many heart-centered entrepreneurs who are blessed with incredible gifts but struggle to fill their calendars with clients. The problem is not that they lack the skills but that they shrink from taking center stage with their gifts.
Why would someone with a wonderful gift to share shrink from stepping into the spotlight?
The biggest reason is because they have disowned their power. This is a huge problem I feel energetically around clients that no one is talking about. And, it is especially prevalent in women.
When you don’t own your power you will push away opportunities to be seen and heard and to grow into your true potential both personally and in your business.
The are many reasons awesome talented women disown their power and hide from stepping into their full potential.
These reasons run the gamut from low self esteem, low confidence, body image issues, perfectionism, people pleasing, fear of rocking relationships by outshining partners, siblings, parents or friends, to a belief that they are frauds and not worthy of declaring their expertise, talents and gifts. I completely understand and empathize with women who hide from their power because I was one those women.
I didn’t want to rock the boat with any of my relationships. I held myself back for fear of outshining others. I was a cheerleader for others to reach their full potential but shrank back from putting myself out there. It took me many years to outgrow this but I did and since then I have become an advocate for other women who are playing small to avoid stepping into their true power.
One of the greatest quotes I have ever read on this very topic was written by Marianne Williamson in her book, “A Return to Love.”
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
I remember reading that passage and being absolutely stunned by it. Tears spilled down my cheeks as I realized that I had disowned my power just so that I would not upset anyone. In that moment something happened inside of me and I vowed that I would never again play small so that others could feel okay with themselves. I realized that was not my job. My job was to be the best I could be.
Afterward I began graduate school and later left my marriage. I was determined to change my life and take back my power.
Are you running from taking center stage in your life? Do you play small?
There’s only so long you can continue splitting yourself off from your power. At some point the angst inside at being disconnected from your authenticity will turn to anger and then possibly depression. Anger is very dangerous. It’s a danger to your health and to your spirit. The best thing you can do is to accept your gifts, your expertise and your ability to impact and transform others lives and then let your light shine as bright as it was meant to shine.
If you’re not sure that you fall in this category check out these symptoms to see if you’ve disowned your power:
1. Sabotage yourself by not following through on promises to yourself, projects or programs.
2. Have shiny object syndrome which causes you to “switch gears” by being drawn to the next big thing.
3. Trust the wrong people, don’t trust your intuition and need a lot of validation from outside of yourself.
4. Habit of getting stuck in “overwhelm” which stalls your progress.
5. Downplay your accomplishments and never celebrate them.
6. Compare yourself to others and decide what to do based on what they do.
7. Feel you don’t measure up and need further certifications.
You were given your gifts to help others and make an impact. Keeping them to yourself denies the world of your talents and light. To fulfill your life purpose and reach your full potential you simply must share who you are fully. Your frustration at being unable to break out of your income plateau depends on owning your power and stepping out from the shadows.
The world needs your greatness. Are you ready to own your power? What will you accomplish when you do?
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The Intuitively Inspired Life & the Hero’s Journey
Do You feel Called?
A week ago I spent the weekend with Oprah, that is me and about 2000 other people who attended her “The Life You Want Weekend” event in Newark, New Jersey.
The topic of living the life you want and following your life’s purpose is extremely relevant for me. I left two major careers to follow my bliss; I hope to get it right this time. As you can see, I’m passionate about exploring, writing and sharing this especially as it relates to intuition so I was really excited to attend the The Life You Want Weekend.
Oprah spoke for two hours about her own journey to discover and live her purpose. Her life story is and has always been inspiring and she is a moving speaker. I’m a long time fan so it was no surprise that I was transfixed and, judging from the silence in the stadium so were my fellow attendees.
The second day she presented a line up of great speakers from Mark Nepo, Elizabeth Gilbert and Rob Bell to Iyanla Vanzant to further explore the topic of living your purpose and living the life you want. Each of them were inspiring in their own way.
Light bulb moment
I had a major ‘aha’ when Elizabeth Gilbert spoke about Joseph Campbell‘s life work studying mythology and the universality of the “hero’s journey” which he wrote about in, “The Hero with A Thousand Faces.”
The myth of the hero’s journey pervades every culture
In countless stories throughout the ages mythical ordinary people follow the plot line of transformation to overcome fear, challenges, obstacles, and slay monsters to emerge as the hero.
The myth of the hero’s journey lives on because of all the everyday people, like you and me, who continue to embark on this journey.
To live this journey is to be transformed from the ordinary to extraordinary. It isn’t something you can assimilate intellectually. It has to be experienced and it is the only way to truly reach your peak potential.
My “aha” moment took place when I realized that the “intuitively inspired life” is living the hero’s journey. I wrote about living an intuitively inspired life in, The Intuition Principle: How to Attract the Life You Dream Of.
Living an intuitively inspired life is:
When you feel that pull inside that you were meant for something greater and allow your intuition to guide you toward it. Following it you will be led on a journey to places you never dreamed of, you will meet with incredible people and opportunities that you never dreamed of and in the end what you will discover is your authentic self, your true greatness and your life purpose.
Face your fears and leave the land of your comfort zone, no matter the cost.
Answer “the call” to be more, to live a bigger life, to fulfill your potential and greatness by being the hero in your own life and by doing what everyone else secretly wishes to do.
You will return from this journey a changed person and….
You will become a person who now dwells in the land of possibility
You will become a person who says “I can do it and I will do it.”
You will become a person who says, “Why not me?”
You will become a person who leads rather than follows.
And, you will become the fearless hero in your own life story.
So let me ask you, “Do you feel called?” How long will you wait to answer the call?
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