The #1 Mistake You’ve Been Making That Blocks Your Intuition
Have you ever made a decision based on a fear that if you didn’t do this one thing you’d miss out on something?
If you relate to this story you might be making this mistake too.
A coaching client* mentioned that she was having doubts about a man she was in the early stages of a relationship with.
This lovely woman was divorced and happy to be free from a terrible marriage. After her divorce she moved clear across the country to get as far away from her ex as possible. She loved her new home, neighbors and job and met a nice new man not long after moving.
Things seemed to be perfect at first. He was a widower with several grown children living near the Gulf Coast. He loved his family and spoke about how close they all were. They had many interests in common and he was respectful and took things slow which my client appreciated. He was worldly, having traveled to many different countries and had many stories to share. He loved the opera and the arts and volunteering at charity organizations.
She was in heaven! Who had sent this angel of a man to her?
Since meeting him she had been coaching with me to find her life purpose. She wanted to create a new life that she loved now that she’d escaped her unhappy marriage. During our sessions she’d been updating me on her progress with him.
Every session she asked me if I got any “vibes” about him.
I did. And, they weren’t good. I didn’t see it being a “happily ever after scenario.”
I got the feeling that he was hiding things from her and that he wasn’t what he appeared to be. I also got a strong feeling that she should be very cautious with him.
As it turned out one day he picked up and moved to the Gulf Coast. He told her via text that he missed his children and decided to move back to where they lived. She was disappointed but, I was relieved.
She attributed his inability to be open and share with her as a sign of caring for her feelings. She believed he had been planning on moving back to where his children lived for some time and that he hadn’t told her to spare her feelings.
I saw what he had done as devious and very controlling. He toyed with her and then left her flat. I didn’t like the vibes I got from that at all.
A few weeks later she told me that she’d been texting with him since he moved. He wants her to come and visit him but not right now……he is quite busy, he says, because the g-men are after him. Years ago he got into trouble with the law and ever since he has been hounded by the government so, he has to keep a low profile and keep on moving and cannot even see his children.
Okay, now I have to call a spade a spade right so I say, “This person is a paranoid weirdo. Cut off all contact – now!”
“But, what if it’s true? Except for this he is really nice.”
Now this is where the #1 Intuition blocking mistake comes in……
“Tell me,” I ask, “what does your gut say about him?”
“Well, it sounds kind of fishy to me too.”
“How fishy?” I ask.
“Mmm, pretty fishy – like whack job fishy.” She pauses and then says, “I texted him back after a couple of days of this stuff and told him I didn’t believe him.”
“So, then why are you considering keeping the lines of communication open?” I ask.
“‘Cause maybe, you know, he might be telling the truth and there are a lot of things about him I like.”
And there is the #1 Mistake: Fear of Missing Out on Something
What was happening was that my client was afraid that she was going to miss out if she let this guy go. She was letting her fear and belief in lack override her intuition – which was right on the money. Instead of believing in herself and her worthiness and that there are plenty of fish in the sea she is holding onto to this one stinky fish!
She knew what her gut was saying was true all along or she wouldn’t have kept asking me what my vibes were on this guy. She didn’t want to be right. If she was right she would have to walk away from someone who was paying attention to her.
See how we deceive ourselves when we make the #1 mistake that blocks our intuition: Fear missing out on something?
3 Tips to avoid making the #1 mistake that blocks your intuition:
1. Get clear on why you want what you want. Ask yourself if you’re attached to the outcome? If so why?
2. Trust your gut. It always knows! If you feel something is amiss it is, whether you can prove it or not. That’s your spidey sense.
3. Never do something because you fear that if you don’t you’ll miss out and never get another chance. When we make any decision from a place of fear instead of confidence and strength our judgement is compromised.
How have you been blocking your intuition by being afraid you’ll miss out. Is it really true? Will you miss out? Share in the comment section.
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*The client’s personal details have been changed to protect her privacy.
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