As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he. –Proverbs 23:7
Why aren’t you getting the abundance you want in life?
Have you been repeating affirmations and visualizing your abundance, to no avail?
So many of us struggle with getting what we want in our lives.
Most people want the same things; great health, loving relationships, spiritual growth, a satisfying career and stable finances.
None of these desires are unachievable or extraordinary in any way so, why do so many people try over and over and get no where?
I get email every day asking for answers to: “Why am I not getting what I want in my life?
This is what motivated me to start the Create Your Abundance Now! workshop series. I want to share what I’ve learned through my research and using my own life as a laboratory for the last three decades, and see you create the abundance and life you desire.
When the film, “The Secret,” came out in 2006 I was glad to see the teaching that, we create our reality with our thoughts going mainstream. What I was unhappy about was that it focused only on one spiritual principle, “the law of attraction,” to the exclusion of all the others.
There are numerous universal principles and sub-principles whose numbers change according to who you read. After years of searching through many confusing and arcane texts I found Raymond Holliwell, author of the 1939 classic, “Working With the Law: 11 Truth Principles for Successful Living. ”
Holliwel’s book clearly explains the other universal principles aside from the law of attraction, and how you create what you experience in life. I recommend it.
Here are the 6 most common reasons you don’t manifest what you want in life:
1. Unclear about what you want. If you are not clear, always changing your mind or choose something because you believe it is the “right thing” rather than what your heart desires, your ability to manifest will be handicapped.
The antidote: Become crystal clear about what you want. Write down your goal and describe it. Know what your life will look like and what you feel like when you manifest your desire. Do not be ashamed of what you want and substitute something else because you feel embarrassed.
2. Unresolved emotional issues. If you haven’t worked on self-love issues such as unworthiness and not feeling “good enough” they will undermine your ability to manifest. My friend Evelyn Lim has written an excellent book, Self-Love Secrets: How to Love Yourself Uncondtionally
The antidote: Do some work on yourself to uncover the negative messages you absorbed when you were in your formative years and release them. Emotional catches are like splinters sticking out of the paneling that pull your sweater when you walk by. How can you feel good when you’re constantly being “pulled” like this? When you feel bad you will not resonate to the good you desire. You’ve got to “feel good” about yourself to manifest your good.
3. Fears. If you fear change, being in the spot-light by becoming success or the shame of failure this too will hold you back from achieving your goals.
The Antidote: Embrace change. Often change is brought about by problems. When we face the problem and overcome it we grow more confident in our ability to deal with challenges. The confidence that comes with experience is also how we overcome fear of failure and success. You have to fail once in a while to not only learn what works but, to know that it is not the end of the world.
4. False beliefs. If you believe that there is “only so much to go round” or that abundance is difficult to attain you will push away the very things you desire.
The antidote: Listen to the voices in your head. Are they critical and negative? Are they yours or are they remnants of voices you heard growing up from parents and authority figures? Many times our lives run on unconscious beliefs. Look back and see if you absorbed a false belief such as, “money is the root of all evil,” and work on replacing these thoughts with something more constructive.
5. Withholding forgiveness. If you cannot let go of the past and forgive you will block new good from entering your life.
The antidote: Forgive, let go of the past and live with gratitude for the present. Past hurts that remain unhealed are like black holes that suck in our energy and joy like a vacuum. When we read that forgiveness is not for the other person but, for ourselves this is the reason. Forgive yourself and others then let go to move on in life.
6. Ingratitude. When we focus only on what we don’t have – we skew our perception of life from noticing abundance to seeing only lack.
The antidote: Gratitude. Focus on what you have now and give thanks for that. The more you notice the good in your life the more your abundance will grow. Keeping an abundance journal is a great way to train your mind to notice all the things you have to be grateful for.
This is only a short list of some of the reasons we don’t get what we want. There are more to be sure.
What’s holding you back from getting what you want in life? Can you identify with any of these challenges?
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I think you got to the heart of it here. For me, it’s unresolved issues and not feeling worthy. We don’t even realize we feel that way until we explore what is getting in the way. Maybe you can come up with a meditation or exercise the reveals the obstacle.
I find tip #1 as very important. When we are not clear in what we want, we manifest our confusion or find that we are stuck.
Also sometimes when I don’t get what I want, I’d like to believe that the Universe is holding out something better, I just need to trust and have faith 🙂
Practicing gratitude definitely helps! You have a great list of tips here! Thanks!
Hi Evelyn,
I’m so glad you enjoyed this post and found it useful.
I agree sometimes we are meant to wait for what we want.
Gratitude works for a lot of things!
xoox,
Angela
Angela – Your words continue to teach- I love your ‘down to earth’ common sense approach. I just went on line to check out Holliwell’s book. It’s on Kindle which is great news. I bought it because of you~ will let you know my thoughts…and experiences!! xxoo-Fran
Hi Fran,
I’m so glad you enjoyed this article.
Holliwell’s book is a treasure. It was given to me in the 1990s by my late aunt. As soon as I read it resonated with me.
I just repurchased it on Kindle too! I like being able to take it with me and reference it so conveniently.
Please let me know how you like it.
xoxo,
Angela
Angela – Your words continue to teach- I love your ‘down to earth’ common sense approach. I just went on line to check out Holliwell’s book. It’s on Kindle which is great news. I bought it because of you~ will let you know my thoughts…and experiences!! xxoo-Frna
Hi Angela, this definitely resonates with some issues I’ve been thinking about — what I’ve been seeing is that, on some level, I’ve been working against myself. There is a part of me that, for a long time, has not been totally okay with the fact that I exist and I take up space in the world. I am still working with it and attending to it, but I feel like that part is much more integrated these days than it once was.
Hi Chris,
I’m so glad this post resonated with you. One of the hardest challenges to overcome is our own self-sabotage. We don’t see it – we’re pretty much blind to it.
If you have a feeling that you “don’t belong or shouldn’t be here” that will definitely undermine your goals.
I’m so glad you’re working on that.
You are so talented and have so much to share with the world with your musicals.
I love finding out about a book or author I haven’t read yet, and Raymond Holliwell is one. 🙂
Great insights and suggestions.
With forgiveness, many may feel they don’t have a anyone to forgive they feel clear – yet they need to forgive the self. That’s often over looked.
Hi Aileen,
I’m glad you found out about Holliwell’s book too.
Great point about forgiveness. We definitely need to forgive and be kind to ourselves too. Thank you!
Hi Angela,
I love this line – “If you cannot let go of the past and forgive you will block new good from entering your life.” Living in the moment helps us focus on what we want to accomplish now and helps us to take the necessary steps to get there. Great post with good tips.
Take care.
Hi Cathy,
I’m so glad you enjoyed this post.
Forgiveness is more powerful than we realize!~
Hi Angela
Being grateful is crucial to one’s abundance- my saying is “Abundance flows from the wings of gratitude”
If we all followed these 6 steps we would see and feel more abundant. I also find keeping an abundance journal helps us keep our vibes raised whuc makes us feel good which brings abundance. Thanks Angela a very thoughtful post that will benefit many
Hugsxxoo
Hi Suzie,
I love that: Abundance flows from the wings of gratitude.
Beautiful!!
Hugs back,
Angela
Love this Angela. And how funny you should mention Raymond Holliwell’s book – I studied this as part of the year long Bob Proctor course and it’s currently sitting on my table because like you I’ve been very aware of the other unspoken laws that have a huge impact on our life, and he did such a great job lo those many years ago.
I think #5 is so important. Without forgiveness we’re stuck in a prison of our own making…not such a good thing.
Elle
xoxo
Angela,
Right on target! Just what I needed. Today I will start with gratitude and change to CLEAR about what I want!
Thank you for this inspiration!
Hi Betsy,
I’m so glad this was a timely post for you! Gratitude is always a big factor but, so is clarity.
You’re welcome.
xoxo
Terrific. The first thing – being unclear about what one wants is absolutely right, Angela. It is like leaving home purposefully and not knowing the destination, and so, ending up wandering aimlessly because the path is unknown.
I would love to read a “finding your purpose” post 😀
My addition to this post would be “courage to follow through with your purpose” and “self-confidence”
I love how you always address the exact issue.
Hugs! Vidya
Dear Vidya,
Thank you. I’m so glad you found this post helpful.
I love how you describe not being clear about your goal like leaving home without a plan and then wandering. Great analogy!
Thank you for suggesting a post about “finding your purpose.” I think that would be fascinating to write about – and I will. Thank you!
The topic and sub-topics you suggest are perfect for me since I am the “poster child” for this issue. 🙂
Hugs back to you dear Vidya.
xoxo
Dear Vidya,
Thank you. I’m so glad you found this post helpful.
I love how you describe not being clear about your goal like leaving home without a plan and then wandering. Great analogy!
Thank you for suggesting a post about “finding your purpose.” I think that would be fascinating to write about – and I will. Thank you!
Hugs back to you dear Vidya.
xoxo