Intuition and uncertainty are like oil and water.
You can shake them up and it would appear that they blend quite nicely. But, given a short amount of time the two will separate again. This is the process we undergo when we do not trust and follow our intuition.
Uncertainty is the biggest obstacle of all to developing our intuition.
I can’t tell you how many emails I receive from readers with the same concerns: How to recognize their intuitive guidance and how to trust it? Unfortunately, there is no easy fix.
To recognize your intuition when it speaks you have to commit to practice and to daily meditation.
You simply can’t skimp on the basics. By practice I mean do exercises that strengthen your intuition, and by meditation I mean – meditate – daily. Meditation is important simply because it helps you begin focusing on your thoughts. You can find numerous exercises to practice developing intuition and to learn to meditate in my ebook, “The Intuition Primer,” which you can download directly from here for free.
Intuition comes through in one of two basic ways in the beginning. It will either be a thought that stands out, or apart from your other thoughts, or it will be a feeling you get.
The thought will catch you by surprise in that it’s an idea that appears fully formed in your mind. It isn’t generated in a linear fashion. When this intuitive thought stands out you will HEAR IT more loudly, over and above your other thoughts. It may make you cock your head and look up momentarily. You may even bring your hand to your chin for a moment while you contemplate this insight. The whole point of it “standing apart” from your other thoughts is to make you stop and take notice of it because it’s important.
When you get intuitive guidance directly as a thought heard in the mind pay attention. The idea contained in this thought is direct knowledge about the decision you are trying to make.
For example, say you’ve just had a job interview and you’re thinking about what it might be like to work for the company. While on the subway ride home you read through the human resources package you were given and think about how you like the benefits they offer, and that the location is good, and that you also like the hours and salary range you discussed. In the midst of this thought process another thought that you didn’t generate appears in your mind: There’s something off about that manager.
You stop. Where did that come from you think? You weren’t even thinking about the manager who interviewed you, but he did make you feel kind of uncomfortable you recall. You decide the manager seemed pleasant enough and that it was just interview jitters and ignore this strange notion that seemed to pop out of nowhere. You accept the job. A month later you hate it! The manager turns out to be horror show.
If your intuitive guidance comes through as a feeling it could present itself to you as uncertainty, nervousness, hesitancy, disgust, repulsion, or even agitation. The point of the feeling is the same as the intuitive thought. It is trying to get you stop and focus on the information that’s “encoded” within the feeling. If you’re contemplating taking a job and you feel hesitant, or somewhat “put-off” by something you need to decode the feeling and find out what it’s trying to tell you. It’s the same as in the earlier example only in this case you need to discover exactly what the reason is behind the feeling.
Lets say you’re at the interview with the manager and during the interview you start to lose your train of thought because this feeling comes over you. Something about the manager’s face and his voice agitates you. You get a strong feeling that he’s putting on an act and that underneath he doesn’t know what he’s doing. You push the feeling aside and try to focus on the interview again. Later on while on the subway you’re reading the human resources brochure but your reaction to the manager keeps resurfacing. Again, you ignore it and accept the job with the same outcome as before. The manager turns out to be the nephew of the president of the company and doesn’t know his ass from his elbow – and consequently working for him is a nightmare.
What could you have done differently?
In both cases the answer is the same. When you got home you should have gone into a meditation where you asked for more information regarding the intuitive hunch your received. The best way is to place your hands along your abdomen once you’re totally relaxed and ask: How would I feel if I accepted this job?
Wait. Breathe. Focus.
What feelings are you aware of?
Do you feel turned off to the job?
Do get an “icky” vibe?
Notice if you’re cringing.
Are you feeling stressed?
Or, do you feel light, buoyant, happy and excited?
Your feelings never lie. Only the thinking mind rationalizes and therefore “lies.” When we “rationalize” that it’s just interview jitters, or think our reaction to the person is really nothing etc., we are lying to ourselves.
(Three years ago I took a job that I knew intuitively I was going to hate. I walked into the interview with the manager and regional sales manager and didn’t like their tone or the way they looked at me. I felt very strongly that I wasn’t going to get along with them, but I needed the money at the time so I told myself to buck up and take it. I quit four months later!)
How do we develop trust in our intuition?
The only way to develop trust is by either remembering times when you’ve ignored your intuition and recalling how the intuitive insight manifested, or to jump in with both feet and commit to following your intuition from the get-go.
I’ll be honest though, most people don’t jump in from the beginning. Most of us have to get burned a few times before we realize that “sneaking suspicion” we ignored was our intuition – and realize that next time we should listen to it.
One more thing you could do is share your concerns with someone who is very intuitive that you trust. Let them tune into the situation and tell you what feeling they’re getting about it. If it matches what you’re feeling than that will help you build trust in your intuition. Sometimes we just need to know that what we’re feeling is real to get us over the edge of distrusting our intuition. I know many intuitives who check with other intuitives to validate their feelings when making a major decision.
Learning to work with intuition is a bit like allowing yourself to fall backwards and trusting that there is someone back there who is going to catch you. Once you’ve practiced this enough you won’t hesitate to let go and fall – and it’s the same with intuition.
What obstacles have you encountered when working with your intuition? Have you found it confusing to differentiate between the voice of your ego and that of your intuition? What do you plan to do to overcome this stumbling block?
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