“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”
Paulo Coelho, from The Alchemist
The Law of Attraction: Spending vs. Investing
Did you watch the movie, “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne or read her book? Most of the world now knows about the Law of Attraction thanks to her. Unfortunately, while Byrne did a huge service for the world the depth of the information wasn’t there to accurately convey how to bring more abundance to your life.
There’s a misconception that in order to attract abundance into your life you ought to prime the pump of the LOA by spending money. Perhaps you were told that in order to demonstrate your faith in the Law of Attraction you ought to “dig your ditches before the rain.” This idea originally comes from a passage in the Bible but I first read about it in Florence Scovel Shin’s book, “The Game of Life and How to Play It.”
What Shin meant was that if you’re praying for rain you must take action and dig the ditches to hold the water ahead of the rain. “Digging ditches” clearly communicates that you firmly and unwaveringly have faith in the Universe to bring about what you desire.
You might have misconstrued this advice by first buying the things you wanted as a demonstration that the money to pay for them would then show up. Unfortunately all this does is create debt. “Digging your ditches” symbolizes that you must have the faith and take action toward achieving your goals even when there isn’t a “cloud in the sky” to indicate that it’s going to rain.
There is a difference between spending and investing
Notice though, Shin did not say to go out and use up all the water you have as an act of faith that it would rain and then the water would be replenished. This is what you’re doing when you spend money you don’t have. You’re draining your resources. What Shin advises is to invest your energy and resources in creating a “ditch” or reservoir so that it will hold all the water you need whenever you need it. This is what “investing” does, it becomes a resource that pays you back again and again over time.
Spending money doesn’t garner the same results as investing
For example you see a gorgeous pair of boots and think,”If I buy the boots I’m showing the Universe I trust that the money is coming to pay the credit card bill.” But after you spend the money your life hasn’t changed. You have a nice pair of boots and nothing else to show for it.
When you invest money you take an action that ensures that the money will return a dividend, in other words, pay you back. For example you might be in a 401k retirement program at work. Over time with good investment strategies this investment will grow and be part of the money you live on in retirement.
You might invest in buying a home for the same reason; you anticipate that with time its value will increase so that someday when you sell it you’ll get back more than you spent to buy it. This is also the reason for investing in education. When you learn something useful it contributes to your ability to apply it in a way that the actions taken based on knowledge you received pays you back over time.
In general buying “stuff” for yourself is spending not investing. Clothes, furniture, cars and the like while needed are not investments. Buying something the goes up in value and returns a profit when you sell it is an investment. Examples of some good investments that will improve your life are education, coursework and coaching.
Investing in yourself is the entire premise of self-development. You are developing yourself for something, right? You probably want to learn how to be more successful at life which is to be happier, peaceful, self confident, more capable, loving and a better human being I would imagine.
Invest in yourself instead of spending on yourself
To unlock the power of the Law of Attraction invest in yourself. Investing in your education is one of the best investments you can make. Invest in a course that will help you learn what actions you need to take to create a better life. This will prime the pump of the LOA in your life much more than a one shot purchase such as a pair of boots. To invest in yourself is to dig a ditch and build a reservoir of resources that will pay you back handsomely over time.
Action demonstrates your faith in the Law. You must take the proper action steps. Wishing and visualizing are not enough. Action is how you “seed” the clouds for all that rain. And, if you don’t know what you want that’s a problem. You must know what you want in order to know the proper action steps to take.
Knowing what you want is key
If you aren’t sure of what you want your life to look like and all you think is that you want “abundance” you’re going to be disappointed. Abundance comes in many forms. You’ve got to be specific in order to come up with the action steps to seed your cloud.
Prime the pump of the Law of Attraction
Know what you want. Know your purpose and mission in life and then you will know what actions to take. After all you can’t get there until you know where “there is,” right? Knowing your purpose is having the map to get to your destination. As soon as you are clear on where you want to go the result of every action step taken will yield much more dramatic results toward your ultimate success.
If you are unclear of your purpose invest in yourself. Open the way and seed the cloud toward your abundance by investing not spending on yourself. Find a coach or take a course on how to find your life purpose, read a book on this topic or have a thorough astrological reading of your purpose done.
The sooner you know where you’re heading the sooner you’ll get there!
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Beyond the edge of your comfort zone is where you will find your greatness!
Is there a goal you’ve been struggling to achieve or a life change you long to make?
Have you tried and tried and yet nothing seems to change?
Are you so frustrated that you’re ready to give up because nothing is working?
Wait! Don’t walk away from your dreams yet. I have good news for you.
Hitting the invisible wall
The reason nothing has changed or seems to to work is because you’ve hit an invisible wall. The invisible wall is the place you reach when you come to edge of your comfort zone. So, don’t feel bad or as if you weren’t meant to achieve your goal. What is happening to you is normal and natural. You just need a bit of guidance.
Deconstructing the wall
The invisible wall at the edge of your comfort zone is what stops you from taking the big steps you need to take to bring your greatest dreams into being. Everyone including me has a comfort zone.
Your comfort zone is the place where you achieve things easily. Goals feel scalable because you’ve done similar things and accomplished them easily. You whip up and finish projects without a second thought because the process is familiar to you.
But when you reach the edge of your comfort zone and go to do something completely new you freeze. The smooth reaction that would normally take you to the next step doesn’t come naturally like you expect it to. Instead you feel confused and overwhelmed, flooded with doubt, anxiety and fear. Does this sound familiar?
Every time you attempt to take the new step the fears of not knowing exactly what to do or how it will turn out stop you. You feel like a deer caught in the headlights and panic and retreat. The more you “try” the more firmly you embed the fear and anxiety of taking the next step.
Overtime this reaction contributes to making the wall even more impenetrable. Your fearful reaction and retreat become a self-defeating behavior that holds you back. You internalize the belief that you “can’t do it” and feel deflated as your confidence level decreases. The more you repeat this process the bigger the wall becomes until you have talked yourself into believing that this goal you dreamed about was never meant for you anyway and you give up.
The trap of Try, Fear, Retreat
If you don’t know how to break the cycle, Try, Fear, Repeat will become an endless loop in your life. This behavior will burn such a deep neural pathway into your brain that it will become an unconscious behavior pattern. When a set of reactions is this ingrained within us the pattern takes over with lightening speed before we can consciously think about doing anything differently.
Here’s an example: Can you recall a time, perhaps many, when you drove somewhere and then later realized you had no memory of actually doing the driving? You realize that you drove there on “auto-pilot.” This is exactly what happens to us when we repeat a certain set of behaviors over and over; they become an auto responsive pattern. The pattern is so deeply imbedded that it bypasses your conscious awareness.
In the case of trying to go past the edge of your comfort zone, each time you try and feel the old fears kicking in and retreat you reinforce this self-defeating pattern. And the worst part is that you end up feeling like a failure.
The good news!
Hitting this wall is normal and happens to most people. There is nothing wrong with you. There is a way to breakthrough the wall of your comfort zone. And success awaits you on the other side.
You can break the cycle of Try, Fear, Retreat with this 5 step system:
1. Write it out. List the exact steps you need to take. This is an important part of breaking through the wall of your comfort zone so don’t skip it. You need to create an outline so that you will be familiar with the next step and not freeze with fear. After you have the list chunk it down into daily actions so that it isn’t overwhelming to you. Read over your list and be completely familiar with it. If you want more information on this I wrote extensively about this process in, The Intuition Principle: How to Attract the Life You Dream Of.”
2. Deflate your fears. The best way to let all the air out of your fear is to ask yourself, “What’s the worst thing that could happen here?” followed by, “So how can I prepare so that this doesn’t happen?”
For example say you want to quit your job and pursue your writing but you’re scared to give up your steady salary. Ask yourself, “What’s the worst thing that could happen?” You respond with, “I’ll go broke, lose my house and end up homeless.”
Then ask yourself, “How can I prepare so that this doesn’t happen?” In response you say, “I’m going to save up the amount of money I’ll need to pay my mortgage for one year before I quit. I will give myself eight months to get my writing career started. If after eight months I don’t see things working out I will start looking for a job.” When fear paralyzes you go back to this step.
You get the picture. You’re answers will be different but the outcome will be the same. You will nip your fear in the bud before it can paralyze you into not taking action on your dream.
3. Visualize. Use your imagination to create a vivid 5 minute movie at least twice a day. I suggest once in the morning and before going to bed. See yourself living out your goal in every detail. What you’re doing is rehearsing and slowly erasing the negative pattern you previously embedded. Burn this positive outcome into your brain so that it creates a deep neural pathway and a new pattern of success!
4. Push yourself. Repeat this mantra, “I can and I am!” with conviction. Focus on one step on your outline and take action every day. No great thing was ever created without effort, overcoming fear and pushing through barriers. Just do it! Each time you take a step toward your goal you are taking a brick out of the wall at the edge of your comfort zone and you’re building your confidence.
5. Get support. It’s okay to ask for help. When you get support be it through a mentor, friend or with a coach you increase the likelihood of your success. Working with a someone who believes in you to achieve your goals will significantly increase your chances of attaining it over those who try to go it alone. (If you have a burning desire to get where you want to go contact me for a life purpose reading to discuss your vision.)
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5 Mistakes to Avoid When Setting New Year Resolutions
by Brendan Baker
I absolutely love this time of year. I like to call it the season of dreams. It’s when most people take a step back, reflect on their life and check-in with their inner-self to see whether they are living their most inspirational life.
Unfortunately, most people realise that they are not living their most inspirational life and realise that something needs to change in order for them to move forward. The great thing is, the New Year is full of possibility and so New Year resolutions kick in to get them back on track and move them forward to their most inspirational life. The thing is, this energy, commitment and focus on their goals normally only lasts a couple of weeks as other priorities start to come in again and take over.
Does this sound like you?
Well, you’re not alone. It happens to most people. And there are some common reasons why this happens.
To ensure you set yourself up for success in 2014, you want to avoid these 5 mistakes people make when creating and pursuing their New Year resolutions.
Mistake #1: Your New Year Resolution is Not Linked with Your Values
Believe it or not, most New Year resolutions are not achieved because it’s not important to you. You might be thinking this sounds a little strange, as otherwise why would you be setting the resolution in the first place?
Simply put, it’s most likely that you don’t value what you’re trying to achieve with your New Year resolution as much as what you value in other areas of your life. That’s why you spend your time and energy on doing those other things.
As an example, you might have set a resolution to lose weight. However, this may not be a high core value for yourself. At least, there will be other values that you have which are higher than your value for losing weight. If this is the case, ask yourself why you have set this New Year resolution? If it’s because of social stigma, friends or family etc, realise that it’s not actually of value to you but of value to others.
For New Year resolutions to stick, you need to value them. To get around this, ask yourself the question ‘how can this serve me in other areas of my life’? This can lead you to gain awareness that losing weight might actually have its advantages in other areas of your life in which you do value more highly.
Mistake #2: Your New Year Resolution is Not Written Down
One of the most common mistakes that people make when it comes to setting New Year resolutions is that they don’t write them down.
The simple act of writing down your New Year resolutions can do wonders for your focus and motivation. Writing down your resolutions will force you to structure and organise your thoughts and commit to something in the physical form.
Having it written down can act as a stronger, visual reminder of what it is that you are trying to achieve.
Mistake #3: Your New Year Resolution Has No Action Plan
When setting New Year resolutions, most people set the goal but they don’t take the time to work out how they are actually going to achieve it.
Knowing the end game is just a part of the battle. Unfortunately, I need to break some news to you… you do actually need to take action and make it happen. The first part to this is creating your step-by-step plan on achieving your New Year resolution.
When you have a plan mapped out, make sure you actually schedule it in your diary and commit to it. Make it a habit to work towards your New Year resolution. It will be hard at first but it will always become and more motivating as you progress, get used to the process and start to see results.
Mistake #4: Your New Year Resolution Has No Time-Frame
Another mistake that most people make when setting New Year resolutions is that they do not set a specific time-frame to realise it.
New Year resolutions are just like goals. They need a time-frame to be completed in. When no given time-frame is involved, you will have the opportunity to procrastinate and put off achieving your resolution.
Make sure you set yourself a time-frame to realise your New Year resolution and this should be a clear part of your plan.
Mistake #5: Your Don’t Have the Support You Need to Fulfill Your New Year Resolution
When you’re battling something alone and don’t have the support of others, it can be very hard work.
Surrounding yourself with the right people (being those individuals who are also passionate and interested in what you are trying to achieve), this can have a massive effect on your overall success. These people will hold you accountable to a higher standard, they will motivate you and push you towards reaching your goals.
Thinking about your own New Year resolutions, who in your life will have the biggest positively impact to your success and how can you engage with them more frequently?
This is the season of dreams. Ensure that the dream becomes reality by avoiding the 5 key mistakes above.
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Brendan Baker helps people who feel stuck doing work they don’t like start to make a difference and an income doing what they love. He writes over at The Start of Happiness and has created the Launch Your Life Academy to support people gain clarity of their goals in life and stay focused and motivated in achieving them. Feeling stuck? Check out Brendan’s new course here.
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