Intuition: What to Do When Intuitive Insights Contradict One Another

Intuition: What to Do When Intuitive Insights Contradict One Another

Intuition: What to Do When Intuitive Insights Contradict One Another

Conflicting Intuitive Responses

Today I’m opening up the Powered by Intuition mail bag.

In the last few weeks I received several emails from readers asking very similar questions about what to do when their intuition seems to contradict itself.

Here’s an example of what readers have been asking:

Q. How am I supposed to trust my intuition when I keep getting different answers? One day I am being guided to do one thing and then the next day another. What can I do about this and why do I keep getting different answers?

A. For starters, I suggest you stop asking the same question over and over. Doing this will only confuse you and desensitize you to your intuition. Your rational mind will take over and begin posing as intuition and you won’t know the difference between the two.

Go back and review the first answer you got and try to recall how you “felt” about it in that moment? Were you aware of an emotional response to the answer? Was it positive or negative? Did you feel something physically in your body at the time. Was it a physically reassuring feeling or somewhat repellant? Remember, your first impressions both emotionally and physically are usually correct.

The other suggestion I have for you is to not be attached to the outcome. Many times the reason we ask the same question over and over is because deep down we want a certain answer. This happens when you are attached to following one course of action. If this is the case I suggest you just do what you keep wanting to hear from your intuition and stop asking. It just may be that this is “the answer” and has been the answer all along – so just do it.

Another way to interpret this is, if you are getting a different answer than the what you “want” not only are you attached to the outcome but perhaps, you are also on the wrong track! Your intuition is trying to tell you otherwise but you don’t/won’t accept this as the “truth” so you keep asking over and over and end up even more frustrated and confused.

The only way to deal with this is to surrender. Stop thinking about the problem and stop trying to get the answer. Just get the entire situation out of your mind and focus on something else for a couple of days. When you surrender and totally detach from one answer over another the answer will come to you. The answer will be very clear because your mind will no longer be cluttered and confused by all the distracting thoughts you had previously.

Regarding trusting your intuition – know that the more you follow your intuition and take action upon it the more you will trust. Trust comes from taking action and having a successful outcome based on following your intuition. It is normal not to feel 100 percent certain in the beginning but you must have the guts to follow the advice if you are going to become confident in your intuition. Trust comes later on as a result of listening to your intuition over and over.

My challenges come when I don’t trust these answers and I will keep asking the same questions over and over again. In the end, I get confused because the answers begin to contradict. Lesson learned: I find it much easier to get answers when I am not attached to the outcome. – See more at: http://www.poweredbyintuition.com/2013/07/06/intuition-is-intelligence-for-your-life/#sthash.tyGXctQz.dpuf
My challenges come when I don’t trust these answers and I will keep asking the same questions over and over again. In the end, I get confused because the answers begin to contradict. Lesson learned: I find it much easier to get answers when I am not attached to the outcome. – See more at: http://www.poweredbyintuition.com/2013/07/06/intuition-is-intelligence-for-your-life/#sthash.tyGXctQz.dpuf

Q. Another reader wrote the following reply to me after reading an article in my weekly newsletter.  In this article I assured readers that they didn’t have to “see, hear”  or believe that they were being guided by beings outside of themselves in order to receive intuitive guidance. The physical reaction of the body is just as reliable if not more so.

“I really enjoyed this newsletter and all of the previous ones as well. One thing that you mentioned helped explain much of the frustration I felt taking classes in the beginning. I would find myself getting tense or frustrated because I wasn’t “seeing” a person I could refer to as a spirit guide and therefore wasn’t tuning in very well. Apparently I put so much effort into focusing on a spirit guide that I ignored listening to what my body was telling me. You have given me a different way of looking at things and I thank you so much.” –Susan Reese

A. The important point is that you have access to an infinite amount of information. As I’ve mentioned here many times we are all connected and part and parcel of one vast intelligent organism. We cannot be separated from it or each other anymore than you can separate an individual wave from the ocean.

If you feel strongly that an ethereal being outside of yourself is guiding you and that works for you – great.

But, if you are having trouble tuning in know that you do not need to see or hear the voice of an intermediary. Some people never see or hear a guide yet they receive perfectly clear direction from their intuitive higher self. Know that all the wisdom and knowledge of the Universe is available to you directly. Just like any other belief system you are creating your reality even in matters of how you think you recieve intuitive insight.

As you can see in Susan’s note to me she was getting tripped up because she assumed that the way she would know she was receiving intuitive guidance was by seeing her guide.

Here’s what I advise: Let go of all preconceived notions of how the guidance is to come to you and be open to all forms and you will not block this information from coming through to your awareness.

Another method for attuning to your inner guidance is to become aware of how your body reacts when you receive the guidance. The purpose of tuning into your physical body is so that you can interpret what your body is communicating to you.

If you feel anxious or nervous or your stomach tenses up this is a sign that you should exercise caution or not proceed at all. If you get a sinking feeling that could also be a “no.”

What questions or reactions do you have regarding getting conflicting information or how you receive intuitive guidance? Share with us in the comments section.

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Intuitive Guidance: 8 Tips to Help You Get Through a Crisis of the Soul

Intuitive Guidance: 8 Tips to Help You Get Through a Crisis of the Soul

An arrow can be shot only by pulling it backward. So when life is dragging you back with difficulties, it means that it is going to launch you into something great. –Author unknown

Intuition guide me out of darkness

Using your Intuition to get intuitive guidance for your life

For the last 6 months I have been going through a severe spiritual crisis of the soul-

It culminated by my almost taking a job I didn’t want but, thanks to my intuition – my inner guidance system – I stopped the madness.

Here’s what happened.

After working from home steadily for months to write and publish “The Intuition Principle” I showed up in the office in August. I have a financial sales position where I can work from home. In my heart, I no longer want to be a 100 percent commissioned salesperson but, this job gives me a lot of flexibility and freedom along with health benefits.

As much as I’ve racked my brain looking for other alternatives and sent out mountains of resumes – nothing has come up that gives me this much freedom so I’ve stayed there. The trouble is that after 30 years I’m tired of “selling.” I just don’t have it in me anymore. I cannot live my life to meet sales goals anymore.

A month ago I was offered a new sales job via a group of former colleagues I re-connected with at a Christmas party.

To make a long story short – they all remembered me as the “eager-beaver” who swiftly climbed the corporate ladder and had been a serious work-a-holic. Back then I was a regional sales manager with dreams of being a big time corporate executive but, I’m not that person anymore.

I interviewed with a bunch of group executives from this company and a few days later they offered me a great job.

The problem was and is that I don’t want to do that job! I was seduced by the flattery of being pursued so aggressively!

I was down with the flu and a fever when my cell phone rang. I picked it up and the HR person made me a formal offer which I accepted in a hoarse whisper and then, he began rattling off the hefty salary, signing bonus and benefits.

Honestly, all I was thinking while he spoke was how the money from the signing bonus could quickly replace some of the money I’d pulled out to live on over the last two years since I hadn’t been working – and nothing else.

He gave me a start date of three weeks and told me I’d have to be fingerprinted and drug-tested within 48 hours.

After the initial phone call everything else was a blur. I forced myself out of bed in the following days to get drug-tested and finger-printed even though I was really sick.

I felt like a zombie – just going through the motions. I was not at all excited about the job instead, I had a feeling of dread. I couldn’t sleep through the night either. Although I kept waking up with that horrible panicky “punched in the gut” feeling I kept telling myself that taking this job was the “sensible” thing to do. How was I going to make up for my lost income or prepare for retirement if I didn’t take it?

I kept asking my spirit guides and higher self for guidance but, nothing was coming to me. I was so frustrated. As the days went by and my start date loomed nearer and nearer, my panic level increased exponentially.

How I got in touch with my intuition and restored my soul and sanity:

1. Stop panicking and surrender to what is

After the fourth day of asking for guidance and getting nothing – I gave up. I was slightly delirious from the fever I had but, I heard myself saying, “I don’t care if I don’t wake up tomorrow,” and this startled me. At that moment I said to myself, “This is crazy! I give up – whatever will be will be. God I’m handing over the reigns to you. I can’t do this anymore. Please help me.” And that’s when I received the information clairvoyantly from my spirit guides.

Panicking shuts down your intuition. When you are panicked you are so caught up in emotional turmoil that your intuition cannot get through all that noise. If you read “The Intuition Principle” you will recall I go into great detail on all the ways you block your intuition. I was so panicked I forgot my own advice!

When I “gave up” I stopped thinking, “Oh no! What should I do? Am I turning down a great opportunity that I am supposed to take?,” over and over and my mind became still. When I surrendered and let go my mind became still my intuition presented me with the following scene:

A cute little girl of around 8 years old was walking backwards waving at me to follow her. She was at a country fair and there were throngs of people all around her. She turned around and then began darting through the crowds while I followed behind her.

She laughed and turned back to look at me a few times. Each time she did she morphed into a different little girl who at times was eating cotton candy or popped corn. She skipped with abandon through the crowds – nimbly weaving in between the adults’ legs. I remember thinking how confident, joyful and happy she appeared. I was surprised that she showed no fear of getting lost in the crowd or being separated from her family.

She was just having fun and not at all worried about being lost.

What my spirit guides or higher self presented to me was that I was taking my life too seriously. I was being advised to play more and to do what makes me happy in life. I should skip through life with abandon and not be afraid to change my mind. Don’t worry about getting lost and not taking this opportunity – or being separated from this group of former colleagues which, years ago had been like family.

2. Remember there are no wrong decisions – there are only choices in life

The other point my spirit guides or higher self was trying to make was that there is no actual path each of us must follow. You are not “supposed” to do anything.

I wrote extensively about this in “The Intuition Principle” – which again, I’d forgotten until I stopped worrying so much about whether I was making the right decision or not. My fears about missing “a great opportunity” kept me locked in panic mode where the “voice” of intuition could not get through.

We have free will. The path appears before each us as we make our choices and take a step forward in the direction of our dreams.

Before that choice, or next step there is nothing only a multitude of potential futures – that become forks in the road if we choose to take one of them. If you make one choice your life will go in this direction and if you make another your life will take that direction. But remember, there is no “right or wrong choice.” It’s all just potentiality – so there is nothing to be afraid of!

3. Contact a trusted adviser and have them “talk you down”

When I need advice I turn to my intuitive adviser colleagues just like you might reach out to me for my intuitive advice. The morning after I received the clairvoyant vision from my guides I connected with Lisa Claudia Briggs of Intuitive Body, and she talked me down from the ledge I was ready to jump off of.  I recall my first words to her were:

“I woke up today feeling like I’m facing a death sentence.”

Intuitively, Lisa knew and was able to make me see that it was not “knowing that I didn’t want the job” that was tying me up in knots but, the fear that I might be turning away a great opportunity – that was “meant to be.” I realized I was reliving a vicious cycle that had drawn me back into financial sales over and over each time I’d gone to great lengths to get out in the last three decades.

I was afraid I wouldn’t be taken “seriously” if I came out of the closet and fully embraced my abilities as a clairvoyant and medium. I was plagued by the constant fear that the companies I worked for would find out about who I really was and fire me so, I never really put myself “out there” 100 percent. Consequently, I always felt that I had no choice but to return to the security of working in finance in order to support myself in an abundant lifestyle.

Lisa made me see I had been pushing away my own good all these years. By clinging to the security of this career and having to “hide” who I was I was creating the very thing I didn’t want!

4. Never make a decision based solely on money

Money can hypnotize and seduce you. It can distract you from exploring the underlying issues around a decision. Don’t let that happen.

Speaking to Lisa helped me to “snap out of it!”

The money was only a quick fix and would become my “golden handcuffs.” And, the money would not be handed to me for nothing. I’d have to actually show up and do this job to get it – and I didn’t want to. Taking it would lock me into forcing myself to do something I dreaded each day. Once I was there it would be hard to “get out.” I’d feel obligated to all those people who spoke so highly of me and recommended me for the position.

Never go for the “quick fix.” It will only create more problems down the road.

5. Trust your gut

If it doesn’t feel right – it’s not for you

Always always go by your feelings. This is what it means to “trust your gut.”

The moment I said to Lisa, “I’m going to call up and tell them I cannot take the job,” I felt incredible relief.

The relief was immediate and complete. I felt as if a ton of bricks had been lifted from my shoulders. I felt crazy happy and as if I could walk on air.

To check on your feelings and get clear on what the right decision is try this:

Imagine you have made the choice to do this thing (whatever it is) and create a scene in your mind as to how your life would be and feel if you had done it. Now, take the opposite decision and imagine how you would feel in this scenario.

Which scenario “feels” better; feels right; feels good or gives you relief? Trust your gut. That is the right decision for you.

6. Love yourself enough to give yourself what you want

In the next few days I mustered my courage to call the hiring manager and tell him I couldn’t take the job.

While meditating I heard this:

“Love yourself enough to give yourself what you want.”

I understood how unkind I had been to myself for the last thirty years. I had “forced” myself to take jobs that I didn’t really want and accept promotions I didn’t want when all I ever wanted to do was be a writer. I felt as if “I had no choice” but to take them because I was good at what I did and I made an really good living at it.

I also realized that I had been discounting my feelings my entire life. I felt like a round peg in a square hole at these jobs. I was constantly telling myself to, “Buck up and get over it. Don’t be a big baby everybody has to do things they don’t like.” That’s not very loving, is it?

My dear friend Daylle Deann Schwartz from How Do I Love Me has a fantastic self-love campaign going on this month. She has a free book offer, “How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways,” that you can download too. While I was perusing her Facebook fan page I came across this great banner:

The Self Love Movement

Seeing this banner was just what I needed to help me gather the courage to make the phone call I had been putting off. You see how the Universe supports you? The “signs” are always there you just need to be open and ready to receive them.

It was time love myself enough to give myself what I wanted in life – finally.

7. Choose Happiness

After I made the phone call I felt as if I could fly! It was the same feeling of elation I’d felt when I quit my job 18 years ago to go back to school. I’d taken control of my life and it felt great!

I no longer had any fears about “making a mistake.” I knew the happiness I was feeling was the “sign” that I had made the right decision.

And you know, the hiring manager couldn’t have been nicer. He said I would always have a place there if I changed my mind. Wow!

As I hung up the phone I heard myself saying over and over,

“I choose happiness! I choose happiness!”

It was in that moment I felt the “shift.” I knew my life would never be the same again. I had a major breakthrough in  my thinking and I could feel that I was now transmitting different vibes to the Universe.

What makes you feel like jumping for joy or, high fiving all your friends? That’s what you should do.

When you feel down-trodden, burdened and obligated that is a huge sign that you must review your decision. In my case, I felt as if I had been handed a “death sentence.” That can’t be good, right?

When you are happy you send out “happy vibes” to the Universe saying “I feel good. Send more of this!” When you are trembling with fear and paralyzed by panic your vibes pull in more situations that resonate with fear and panic.

Always, always opt for what makes you happy. The Universe is impartial. It will give you whatever you want based on the signals it receives from you.

8. Be grateful for everything

After hearing that “click in my head” and becoming aware that my thinking had shifted I found myself so grateful for my life – just the way it is now. I felt like George Bailey felt in the film, “It’s a Wonderful Life,” after he said, “I want live again!”

I was grateful for every challenge I’d ever encountered, for my ten year old car and grateful to have a roof over my head and the flexible job I have now and health insurance and on and on and on…..

I realized that everything is perfect just as it is. This is my life and love it and I wouldn’t trade it in for another for all the money in the world.

I was jumping for joy and couldn’t sit still. I was doing a happy dance of gratitude and it felt great!

And, I couldn’t wait to write this post and share with you how wonderful life can be when we accept who we are and embrace our lives bumps and all just like George Bailey did in “It’s a Wonderful Life.”

“I love you drafty old house!” says George.

“I love you perfectly imperfect life,” says me.”

It’s going to be a wonderful life. I can feel it in my intuitive bones. 🙂

Are you in the midst of a crisis of the soul? Are you ready to surrender to what is and then listen to your inner guidance? Are you ready to love yourself enough to make the rest of your life the best it can be?

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Questions about Hearing Your Spirit Guide?

Questions about Hearing Your Spirit Guide?

Questions about hearing your spirit guides?

Carl Jung

Carl Jung (Photo credit: o admirador secreto)

 

I get a lot of questions about spirit guides. I think the topic could use some clarification.

Question: I’ve never heard my spirit guides. I keep asking for them to speak to me but, I don’t seem to hear anything.

Answer: You don’t have to “hear” your spirit guides to benefit from their guidance.

Not everyone has clairaudient ability. Clairaudience is the ability to “hear” within the mind. Some who are exceptionally gifted with clairaudience actually hear the spirit world with their physical ears but, this is one of the rarest of the psychic abilities. So, do not beat yourself up if you don’t “hear” anything.

Question: What can I do to hear my spirit guides?

Answer: To develop clairaudience you can sit in the silence and listen. Practice active listening to attune your mind to listening to the ambient noise around you. See if you can hear the sound of the electrical hum in your home or a train whistle from a distant town. Sharpen your hearing and focus your attention to hearing all sounds around you.

Meditate daily. Learn to listen to your internal dialogue. Most of the time our intuition comes through via our own thoughts in our own voice. This is why we get so hung up on thinking we cannot “hear” our guides. We expect that we will hear a voice that is different from our own inner voice.

Question: Am I doing something wrong? I never seem to get anything.

Answer: No, you’re not doing anything “wrong.”

If you are getting “feelings” about decisions you need to make then “Higher Intelligence” is guiding you.

I believe most of the intuitive guidance we get is from “Higher Intelligence” or what we call our “higher selves.” (To read more on this topic see the section devoted to this in, “The Intuition Principle.”)

Carl Jung talked about what he called the “Collective Unconscious.” He likened the collective unconscious to “a universal library of human knowledge, or the sage in man, the very transcendental wisdom that guides mankind.”

We are no different than Dorothy was in the Wizard of Oz – we have always had the power within us to connect directly to the source of all wisdom and higher states of consciousness. That is why we have our intuition. It is the inner technology that connects us as physical beings to Higher Intelligence/Collective Unconscious/God/Spirit Realm. (Patti Foy of Lightspirited Being. has a great article on this topic).

As Jung pointed out, all the answers can be found in “Higher Intelligence.” So, don’t focus so much on where the answers are coming from but, on the information itself.

Ask yourself, “Is this information helpful? Does it solve my problem?” If so, that is really all that matters.

Questions: I’m confused about the subject of spirit guides. What is the best way to work with a guide?

It is confusing to many people because in the last 20 years or so there’s been this huge influx of information about working with your guides. The trend it established is that we should contact them whenever we need help in our lives.

I actually do not agree with this. Looking to something outside of yourself for all the answers is a way of deferring responsibility for your decisions. It also reinforces the notion that we are all “separate beings.”

I believe that since we are all ONE – and interconnected – even a guide’s consciousness is part of your own consciousness. So, whether the information comes from one entity or the collective unconscious is immaterial because it’s all the same consciousness.

Deferring to a guide also creates a barrier between people and the source of all knowledge. It’s like saying that we cannot speak to God directly but, must go through an intermediary. (Melody Fletcher of Deliberate Blog has a great article on this topic.)

My assessment is this: If you believe that you need a guide to get the answers – you will.

And, if you believe that you can obtain the guidance you desire directly from Higher Intelligence – you will.

Scientific studies over the last thirty years point to the fact that our experience of reality is malleable. We are, in fact, creating what we experience through our beliefs and this applies to our belief in guides as well.

The best way to work with guides is to decide for yourself which way you feel most comfortable and make a personal choice. If you find that working with a guide works for you then, by all means, work with your guides. If you are happy just asking for guidance and trusting what you get then that is what you ought to do.

I produced “The Intuition Principle Guided Meditations,” to help readers get intuitive guidance to solve problems in their lives.

The Intuition Principle album contains guided meditations to help you connect to your guides and meditations to teach you how to get intuitive wisdom directly.

The reason I created both types of guided meditations is because, I believe very strongly that some people are better able to get intuitive guidance directly from Higher Intelligence and other people feel more comfortable using a guide. There is no right or wrong.

Question: How can I tell the difference between my own intuitive guidance that of a guide?

I agree with Anna Conlan of Psychic but Sane on this; many times you will not know the difference between “guidance” that comes from your own intuition/Higher Intelligence or from your guides.

If you’re in meditation and ask for an answer and then an hour later while driving to work are “struck” with a lightening bolt of an idea that solves your problem – who is to say that this came from a “guide” or your own connection to “Higher Intelligence?”

That is why it’s best not to get so hung up on “labels.”

Focus on the results not the mechanics of where the info is coming from.

Question: Sometimes I just feel as if I’m making all this stuff up. How can I change that?

Answer: That’s very common especially in the beginning of working with guides/intuition. You have to trust what you get and relax.

If you notice I use guides/intuition interchangeably. This is because I don’t want you to get so obsessed over where the information comes from.

Answers can come from anywhere. They can manifest through signs and even through the miraculous works of other people as Julie Barrett from A Clear Sign points out in her hilarious article.

You can grow past the feelings of “making it all up” with practice and experience. The more you practice with your intuition the more you will learn to discern between when it’s your imagination and when it is intuition.

Also, stop judging yourself. Allow yourself to experience whatever you experience. When you judge yourself to be “making it all up” you inhibit the flow of intuitive guidance. Don’t worry about being wrong, try to have fun with it and not take it so seriously.

What questions do you have about working with spirit guides? Share them with us. Are you more drawn to developing a direct connection to your intuition or would you rather work with a “guide?”

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