Do you hide from the spotlight?
Are you keeping your special gift under wraps?
There are many heart-centered entrepreneurs who are blessed with incredible gifts but struggle to fill their calendars with clients. The problem is not that they lack the skills but that they shrink from taking center stage with their gifts.
Why would someone with a wonderful gift to share shrink from stepping into the spotlight?
The biggest reason is because they have disowned their power. This is a huge problem I feel energetically around clients that no one is talking about. And, it is especially prevalent in women.
When you don’t own your power you will push away opportunities to be seen and heard and to grow into your true potential both personally and in your business.
The are many reasons awesome talented women disown their power and hide from stepping into their full potential.
These reasons run the gamut from low self esteem, low confidence, body image issues, perfectionism, people pleasing, fear of rocking relationships by outshining partners, siblings, parents or friends, to a belief that they are frauds and not worthy of declaring their expertise, talents and gifts. I completely understand and empathize with women who hide from their power because I was one those women.
I didn’t want to rock the boat with any of my relationships. I held myself back for fear of outshining others. I was a cheerleader for others to reach their full potential but shrank back from putting myself out there. It took me many years to outgrow this but I did and since then I have become an advocate for other women who are playing small to avoid stepping into their true power.
One of the greatest quotes I have ever read on this very topic was written by Marianne Williamson in her book, “A Return to Love.”
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
I remember reading that passage and being absolutely stunned by it. Tears spilled down my cheeks as I realized that I had disowned my power just so that I would not upset anyone. In that moment something happened inside of me and I vowed that I would never again play small so that others could feel okay with themselves. I realized that was not my job. My job was to be the best I could be.
Afterward I began graduate school and later left my marriage. I was determined to change my life and take back my power.
Are you running from taking center stage in your life? Do you play small?
There’s only so long you can continue splitting yourself off from your power. At some point the angst inside at being disconnected from your authenticity will turn to anger and then possibly depression. Anger is very dangerous. It’s a danger to your health and to your spirit. The best thing you can do is to accept your gifts, your expertise and your ability to impact and transform others lives and then let your light shine as bright as it was meant to shine.
If you’re not sure that you fall in this category check out these symptoms to see if you’ve disowned your power:
1. Sabotage yourself by not following through on promises to yourself, projects or programs.
2. Have shiny object syndrome which causes you to “switch gears” by being drawn to the next big thing.
3. Trust the wrong people, don’t trust your intuition and need a lot of validation from outside of yourself.
4. Habit of getting stuck in “overwhelm” which stalls your progress.
5. Downplay your accomplishments and never celebrate them.
6. Compare yourself to others and decide what to do based on what they do.
7. Feel you don’t measure up and need further certifications.
You were given your gifts to help others and make an impact. Keeping them to yourself denies the world of your talents and light. To fulfill your life purpose and reach your full potential you simply must share who you are fully. Your frustration at being unable to break out of your income plateau depends on owning your power and stepping out from the shadows.
The world needs your greatness. Are you ready to own your power? What will you accomplish when you do?
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