Self-Sabotage: How Many Voices are Battling in Your Head?

Self-Sabotage: How Many Voices are Battling in Your Head?

Self-Sabotage, Indecision, Stuck

Are there TWO different voices battling in your head?

One voice says, “Go for it!  You can do it!” and the other one says, “Who do you think you are? Your’e not good enough!”

Sound familiar?

This is what self-sabotage sounds like.

Many purpose-driven coaches and entrepreneurs spend months and or, even years trying to make a real living from what they’re passionate about doing. They have a gift or talent they really want to share with the world but try as they might they don’t attract enough clients to be profitable.

Many people get caught in this traps and if you’re reading this I’m guessing it snared you too.

There’s no “magic” to making money with your products and services. It’s simple really. You create a product or program that solves a real problem and offer it to the people who need that solution and they buy it.

So why does it take some entrepreneurs so long to make it work? And worse still why do some awesome talented coaches and entrepreneurs never succeed?

The answer comes back to those two voices battling for control over you.

One voice is the voice from your true self. It’s connected to your intuition and following it empowers you. It’s the positive voice that “knows” you’re here for a purpose and urges you to live your purpose. This is the voice that knows your talents and abilities know no bounds. It urges you live up to your greatest potential.

The second voice is the voice of fear within you. This the voice that developed from seeing and hearing people in your life self-sabotage themselves or tell you that you weren’t worthy, capable or good enough. This is the voice of “misinformation” and it’s simply not true. Yet it is likely to be the loudest of the two battling in your head.

If you have these two voices pulling you in two different directions you will experience cycles of moving forward with your ideas and then cycles of self-sabotaging in order to stop the momentum.

Until you address the two voices and gain the upper hand over the fearful one you’ll stay locked in this cycle.

If you’re tired of being stuck and holding yourself back it’s time to allow your vision, your passion and the greatness that’s the “real” you to take center stage in your life. Right now. Today.

The only thing standing between you living up to your full potential is this demeaning voice. It is the teeniest part of you compared to how great you really are except that it has a mighty set of lungs and can yell the loudest. It’s loud voice drowns out the voice of your true self and intuition. This fearful voice undermines and sabotages you from making the quantum leaps you know you want to make.

If you could free yourself from grips of that fearful voice that saps your power and shrinks your courage you would share your great message with the world, wouldn’t  you? You would inspire people with your story of how you healed your life with your healing modality or healing product or service, right?

And the world needs healing so badly right now.

It needs you and your story and what you do to help others heal and feel empowered and connect to their own greatness.

Your greater self has been pulling you toward living your mission and purpose. When the voice of fear is in control it drowns out the sound of  your true self and intuition. It keeps you playing small and hiding from the spotlight that is meant to illuminate the path toward living up your highest potential.

To access this greatness in you that’s dying to get out you’ve got to see that voice and fear it creates in your life for what it is; an illusion. Think of it as being much like the “Great Oz” in the film The Wizard of Oz who was exposed for what he really was; a small man with a big microphone!

This illusion is just fear being projected into the future. It causes you to picture all the things that can go wrong and that stops you in your tracks from taking action so you stay stuck. But the thing is it isn’t real. It’s purely imagination and it’s 99.99 percent certain none of the scenarios that keep you frozen with fear will ever manifest!

When you shut down the babbling voice of fear you’ll hear the other voice and feel empowered, emboldened and excited about moving forward.

It’s time to shut down this fearful voice once and for all. Can you feel it?

When you override that fearful voice you will become whole again and connected to your inner power. The fractures created by the fear held your power and greatness at bay and siphoned off your energy and ability to rise up and live your bigger purpose. Being “whole” again allows your greatness to flow through you instead of staying trapped and frozen. When your greatness flows through you it can be felt by others and it inspires them rise above their own fears. It helps them connect to their own power and greatness and to step up and step out onto the path toward living their great purpose too.

When you heal and overcome the voice of fear you contribute healing to the rest of the world. We need more “whole” people who’ve overcome their own inner battles, conflicts, drama and trauma. The world is seeing an enormous spike in violence and it’s coming from the collective consciousness of all of us combined.

It’s time to shut down this fearful voice once and for all. Are you ready?

The way to shut the fearful voice is to realize your return to wholeness and contribution is needed. You would not be alive at this time if that were not true. If you inspire even one person to rise above their fearful voice and return to wholeness, who are you to withhold that from the world?

Listen to the “real” voice and do whatever it is your heart has been yearning for you to do.

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5 Intuitive Questions to Root Out Your Money Hang-ups

5 Intuitive Questions to Root Out Your Money Hang-ups

Success is not a destination Zig Ziglar

How to Use Your Intuition to Root Out Your Money Hang-ups

Has going from employee to entrepreneur been harder than you thought?

Are you finding it difficult to charge what you’re worth?

Are you surprised at not getting the results you expected?

If you answered yes to any of these questions you’re not alone in fact, you’re in good company. Most entrepreneurs suffer a shock to the system when they go from employee to entrepreneur. Self-employment brings up all the unresolved issues you have about your worth, deserving and ability to receive.  And, if possible it’s best to get these hang ups cleared out before you go solo.

Be prepared to suffer “growing pains” throughout the life cycle of your business. The truth is that in order for your business to grow you must also grow and develop the ability to achieve at higher levels. This means not only acquiring new business skills but the mental and emotional capacity to confidently be seen and take action on a bigger stage.

So how do you know if you have money hang-ups? If the money isn’t flowing in your business even though you’ve implemented all the right business and marketing strategies then it’s highly likely that money hang-ups are the culprits causing you to self-sabotage.

Money hang ups are tell tale signs that your internal growth hasn’t kept up with the challenges of your external growth and ambition. If the money you desire from all your efforts isn’t flowing into your business the first place to look is your internal beliefs around your worth, deserving and ability to receive. It doesn’t matter how much strategy you have under your belt either. Money hang ups do not discriminate on the bases of knowledge.

5 Questions to Intuitively Root out Your Money Hang ups

Instructions Step 1: Go somewhere quiet where you won’t be disturbed, take a few relaxing breaths and answer the following questions:

1. Do you feel there’s a mismatch between your plentiful education, training, certifications and what you’re earning?

2. Do you feel you should be farther ahead by now?

3. Are you applying all the right business and marketing tactics but still not getting the results you expect?

4. No matter how much you accomplish do you always focus on how much is still left to do?

5. Do you feel more comfortable giving (compliments/gifts) rather than being the recipient?

Go deeper with your intuition

Step 2: Record only the Yeses. Review each YES and ask yourself “Why?” As you do see what thoughts, feelings or memories come to mind. Go with the first thoughts, memories and associated feelings that come up. These will likely be big clues as to what the root of the problem is. When you work with intuition often your first thought is correct.

Change your story

Step 3: Once you have an intuitive feel for where your money hang ups are and what they are telling you change the story. Rewrite it with a better ending – the one you wish had happened. Forgive yourself for any mistakes you might have made. Look back with fresh eyes or perhaps through adult eyes if the memory was from childhood and see the truth about yourself as you are now, not the child you once were. Tell yourself now that you know better you’ll do better next time. Release your old story and free yourself.

Be an advocate for yourself

Step 4: Get clear on what needs to change in order for you to succeed. Ask  yourself what you’re tired of putting up with? Take a stand for yourself and your business and take action.

Do you lack business strategy and marketing skills? Hire a mentor to help you work on implementing those aspects of your business.

Could you do with some energy clearing to finally remove the money hang ups for good? Hire a mentor to help you eliminate the psychological obstacles blocking your path to your success.

Celebrate how far you’ve come!

Money hang ups aren’t the end of the world because they don’t have to be permanent. They’re red flags that point to what aspects of yourself still need work, compassion and TLC.

What did you discover about yourself? What aspects of yourself do you need to focus on in order to clear your money hang-ups?

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7 Steps to Triumph Over Sabotaging Beliefs

7 Steps to Triumph Over Sabotaging Beliefs

Triumph over sabotaging beliefs

Are there some goals you just can’t achieve no matter how hard you try?

Or if you do achieve them it doesn’t last or something happens and it all falls apart? If you said yes then it’s time to use your intuition to uncover your sabotaging beliefs.

Most goals fall under these common categories: Career, Finance, Health & Wellness, Relationships.

What’s most frustrating is when you are able to create success in a few of these areas but not all.

For example you might excel in the areas of Career, Finance and Health but not at experiencing the joy of happy, deep, meaningful relationships. Or perhaps you have wonderful loving supportive relationships and enjoy perfect health and fitness but you can’t for the life of you seem to create lasting financial prosperity. It may be that you have great relationships, financial success and great health but not a career you love….it’s just a paycheck albeit, a healthy sized one. In another example it may be you experience success in all areas except for your health; perhaps you just can’t lose the weight no matter how hard you try?

Does this sound familiar?

These are not an uncommon patterns. When we are not experiencing joy and fulfillment in one area of our lives this is big blaring SIGN that we need to pay closer attention to it. It’s likely that this is an established pattern in our lives.

If you resonate to having one or more challenging categories right now think back over your life and review your experiences in these particular areas. Is it a pattern? Yes? Then something’s going on under the surface that you need to examine now in order to experience success in this area in the future.

It’s likely you have some deeply ingrained limiting beliefs running in your consciousness that sabotage your success in this area of life.

Example of a Sabotaging Belief in Operation:

You’ve taken a new job. It’s a great next move in your career. Based on your previous accomplishments the divisional manager promised you a team manager position as soon as it opens up. You work diligently and do all the right things but you can’t seem to close a deal no matter how hard you try even though you brought in new business constantly at your old job. Every time you’re close to getting a new customer the deal disintegrates. You’re falling behind on your numbers and this is taking a toll on your confidence. Now you fear you won’t get the promised promotion when it opens up.

What’s going on? You ask for intuitive guidance and meditate on the issue.

After getting still a memory surfaces that helps you get to the heart of why you seem to be sabotaging your career.

Suddenly you “see” yourself back in grammar school. You’re running for class president of the sixth grade. It’s your turn to get up in front of the class and give your speech about why they should vote for you. You created a presentation that includes writing your campaign promises on the black board for emphasis. As you back up toward the blackboard you crash into the plant stand next to your teacher’s desk and fall backward knocking it over spilling dirt on yourself and everywhere. You’re mortified! And you’re not elected to 6th grade class president.

This memory leads to a realization that you are afraid to take a leadership position because you might embarrass yourself. You recall thinking at that moment that, “It’s safer not to stand out. From now on I’ll never volunteer to go in front of the class again!”

You go back into this memory and rewrite it. You see your eleven year old self stepping backward toward the blackboard but being aware that the plant stand was there. You avoid the plant stand, easily maneuver around it, write your campaign promises on the blackboard without a hitch and you become the next class president.

Now you can think about what happened without wincing in embarrassment. Your free to step up and stand out! The unconscious fear that held you back is gone.

The next week at work you close several new deals and a few months later when the team leader position opens up you’re promoted.

See how this decision to “not stand out” made decades earlier still runs the show?

How to Root Out A Sabotaging Belief:

1. Go within. Go somewhere you won’t be disturbed and get quiet and still. When you feel calm and ready ask your higher self or God, the universe, guides (whatever feels right to you) to help you tune into what’s going on under the surface.

2. Ask for memory about this pattern. Relax and listen to the first thought you have or watch the pictures that surface in your mind. Some people are more attuned to “listening” and others to “seeing.” Neither is right nor wrong.

3. Grab onto the memory. What happened? Who was involved? How did it make you feel? What snap decisions did you make as a result of this experience?

4. Do you experience a high degree of emotional upset when reviewing this past event? If so this is a sure sign you’ve correctly identified the right memory.

5. Review the decision you made. Did you make a promise to yourself in that moment? Ask for intuitive guidance about this decision. What feels right is usually correct. The decisions you made in the instant you were experiencing emotional turbulence are likely to have become the sabotaging beliefs that are now preventing you from achieving success in this area.

6. Rewrite the past. At any given moment there are innumerable possibilities to step into. You could have chosen differently in the past and that would have resulted in an entirely different future. Tell yourself that you made the best choice you could back then but it’s time to let it go. Thank your younger self for trying to protect you but tell him/her you’ll take over from here. Now go back now and change the memory.

Choose a different reality. See yourself making different decisions in that moment. Erase the old memory and replace it with the new one in which you made positive choices. Tell yourself that is now what you’ll remember about that day.

7. Test out the new memory. Replay the new scene you installed a few times. How do you feel now? Try to recall the old memory. If you feel removed from it and the high level of emotion you experienced earlier has subsided you’ve successfully collapsed the memory. You should now feel free and more energized and you’ll begin to notice things changing for the better in that area of life.

Do you have one area of life where things aren’t working? What limiting beliefs are holding you back? 

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Do You Hide From the Spotlight?

Do You Hide From the Spotlight?

Hiding from the spotlight

Do you hide from the spotlight?

Are you keeping your special gift under wraps?

There are many heart-centered entrepreneurs who are blessed with incredible gifts but struggle to fill their calendars with clients. The problem is not that they lack the skills but that they shrink from taking center stage with their gifts.

Why would someone with a wonderful gift to share shrink from stepping into the spotlight?

The biggest reason is because they have disowned their power. This is a huge problem I feel energetically around clients that no one is talking about. And, it is especially prevalent in women.

When you don’t own your power you will push away opportunities to be seen and heard and to grow into your true potential both personally and in your business.

The are many reasons awesome talented women disown their power and hide from stepping into their full potential.

These reasons run the gamut from low self esteem, low confidence, body image issues, perfectionism, people pleasing, fear of rocking relationships by outshining partners, siblings, parents or friends, to a belief that they are frauds and not worthy of declaring their expertise, talents and gifts. I completely understand and empathize with women who hide from their power because I was one those women.

I didn’t want to rock the boat with any of my relationships. I held myself back for fear of outshining others. I was a cheerleader for others to reach their full potential but shrank back from putting myself out there. It took me many years to outgrow this but I did and since then I have become an advocate for other women who are playing small to avoid stepping into their true power.

One of the greatest quotes I have ever read on this very topic was written by Marianne Williamson in her book, “A Return to Love.”

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

I remember reading that passage and being absolutely stunned by it. Tears spilled down my cheeks as I realized that I had disowned my power just so that I would not upset anyone. In that moment something happened inside of me and I vowed that I would never again play small so that others could feel okay with themselves. I realized that was not my job. My job was to be the best I could be.

Afterward I began graduate school and later left my marriage. I was determined to change my life and take back my power.

Are you running from taking center stage in your life? Do you play small?

There’s only so long you can continue splitting yourself off from your power. At some point the angst inside at being disconnected from your authenticity will turn to anger and then possibly depression. Anger is very dangerous. It’s a danger to your health and to your spirit. The best thing you can do is to accept your gifts, your expertise and  your ability to impact and transform others lives and then let your light shine as bright as it was meant to shine.

If you’re not sure that you fall in this category check out these symptoms to see if you’ve disowned your power:

1. Sabotage yourself by not following through on promises to yourself, projects or programs.

2. Have shiny object syndrome which causes you to “switch gears” by being drawn to the next big thing.

3. Trust the wrong people, don’t trust your intuition and need a lot of validation from outside of yourself.

4. Habit of getting stuck in “overwhelm” which stalls your progress.

5. Downplay your accomplishments and never celebrate them.

6. Compare yourself to others and decide what to do based on what they do.

7. Feel you don’t measure up and need further certifications.

You were given your gifts to help others and make an impact. Keeping them to yourself denies the world of your talents and light. To fulfill your life purpose and reach your full potential you simply must share who you are fully. Your frustration at being unable to break out of your income plateau depends on owning your power and stepping out from the shadows.

The world needs your greatness. Are you ready to own your power? What will you accomplish when you do?

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