“How do I know if I’m using real power or force? I read your articles about how to raise your vibration and I want to raise mine but sometimes I’m not sure if really wanting something and pushing for it is okay or not? Is that force?”
This is a really great question S.J., thanks for submitting it.
Power vs. Force
The easiest way to know the difference between real power and force is to look at your life and notice where you’re frustrated. Wherever you experience frustration is where you’re likely to try to “force things.”
When we’re frustrated it’s normally due to our expectations not being met. We expect something to take place in the way we’ve imagined it would and when it doesn’t we feel frustrated. Frustration usually results in us trying to “make it happen” anyway. In some cases frustration results in violence. That’s a very obvious sign of using force.
If the frustration is due to something within your control then by all means try to correct the situation; that’s not “pushing” its persevering. If it’s out of your control you need to “let go” and let things work themselves out. If you keep trying to “push” and make it happen despite it being out of your control then you’re using “force.”
Real or “true” power never stems from forcing others to do things. Actually, its quite the opposite. When you’re using true power you are empowered with a magnetic presence that pulls people toward you because you’re aligned with the highest good of all concerned. “True power” is an innate quality to the most charismatic and successful people. Just think of how we gravitate toward babies, puppies and kittens. In their innocence they exude the power of pure goodness and we are irresistibly drawn toward them because of it.
When we use force things don’t flow and have a way of backfiring on us later. When we are using “true power” we will attract people, situations, solutions and support as needed to accomplish our goals. Using true power puts us in the “flow” of life rather than in opposition to it.
Any time we are in opposition to something we create a “see-saw” effect because it pits us against something. For example, for one person to be “right” another person has to be “wrong.” So we are always on the see-saw, either up or down but in any case, going nowhere and stuck in this counterproductive repetitious pattern.
Deal with Challenges
This is not say that you will never have challenges when you are using true power. Nor does it mean you sit back and do nothing. You must still take action even when you face challenges but make sure it’s the right kind of action.
You will know what the right action is when you’re using true power because you won’t be stuck on only one solution. You will be able to disengage from the narrow viewpoint of what is frustrating you and let go. This stepping back and releasing the fixation on what’s not working allows for other solutions to come to you via your intuition. And, when you allow this to happen you are using “true power” and the solution is “intuitively inspired.”
This happens because true power comes from higher intelligence, or what some people call “Source,” life energy or God. When we insist on using sheer force we are relying on our “small selves” and the limited information stored in the brain. Force cuts us off from the elegant solutions that Source can provide us.
Listen to Your Intuition
We are always connected to this source of higher intelligence but in our frustration we feel cut off and separate. When we allow ourselves to step back from the problem and open up to this source of higher intelligence we will receive answers via our intuition that are far better than anything we were stubbornly fixated on before. This is because we are receiving answers from the intelligence that created us and everything in the universe.
Our limited brain is no match for higher intelligence. We are using true power when we are in alignment with higher intelligence and do what is good for all concerned. To do this we need to step back from insisting that things be one way, or our way and reset our attitude in the situation to “neutral.” When we are neutral the answers will come to us via our intuition. To know if you are using true power check if you feel calm, secure in the belief that the right answers will appear and that everything is working out for your highest good.
Get in The Flow
When we are aligned with true power we don’t feel compelled to force people to do things or to make things happen. We take action and move toward our goal and receive answers and intuitive guidance along the way so that we can make course corrections if necessary. Then we are in flow and using true power.
You’re Intuition is a Valuable Signal that Change is Needed
Your intuition is signpost that should help you sense that a shift is coming in your life. When it’s time for a new chapter you’ll start to feel it and “know it” even before anything has changed. Signs will appear and your mind will open to these new possibilities. The vision of this “new life” or change will appeal to you and you’ll feel a pull towardit. This is very common and most everyone has experienced intuition as the harbinger of change.
What happens when you’re not ready to change?
Your intuition will try to get your attention even if you choose to ignore that changing your life is necessary.
Intuition is subtle and fleeting
To become attuned to your intuition make a habit of paying attention to your feelings. Ninety-nine percent of the time intuition is quiet and understated. Think of it as if it were a guitar and only one string was plucked. You must be able to pick up on that note.”
See if any of these examples strike a chord with you:
After your husband throws you a surprise birthday party that your best friend helped him plan, you find thatyou feel uncomfortable around her at times.
You get a strange vibe but you can’t put your finger on it. It’s like she’s not telling you something but you brush it off and attribute it to your imagination.
You come home from work and find the bed you made undone. It strikes you as odd but you pay no attention to this fleeting impression. Your husband works from home and on the rare occasion he takes a nap it’s always on the family room couch. When you ask him about it he answers without turning away from his computer, “I wasn’t feeling well so I got into bed.”
Something feels off….but you ignore it.
While visiting the gynecologist for a check-up the nurse asks if you want to be vaccinated against HPV? Your answer is “no” but you’re aware of the tiniest impulse to say “yes.”
When your tests come back from the lab your doctor calls to say you tested positive for the virus. She tells you it’s quite common and can be dormant for years before it shows up. But you can’t help but think, How could I have the virus? I’ve been married for 20 years?
You wake at 3 am with a fragment of a dream still vivid in your mind. Your best friend is taking a huge roast out of the oven in your kitchen. She looks startled to see you and shouts, “What are you doing here? Get out!”
You feel upsetby the way your friend took over your kitchen in the dream. You wonder what it means but then fall back to sleep.
A few months later your husband announces he’s leaving. He’s in love with your best friend and she’s leaving her husband for him!
While it shocks you and you’re hurt by the betrayal the thing is, you hadn’t been happy in your marriage for a long time. You stayed because nothing was really wrong that you could cite as a reason to leave. The truth is though that you never quite adjusted to moving cross country after your husband got transferred. You went along with it but it never felt quite right. When you think about it now you recall that you had considered letting him move on his own and splitting up back then but, leaving him scared you and decided to stick it out instead.
It’s time for a change and for you to face your fearsand learn how to live on your own.
Intuition is very subtle especially in the early stages of trying to get your attention.
Getting “strange vibes,” not feeling “quite right,” or finding something “odd” is a signal from your intuition that you need to examine things more closely.
Here’s another example that it’s time for change in your life:
You have good news about something and share it with a new work colleague you recently befriended. Instead of being happy for you they go off on a tirade and have a tantrum. “Why doesn’t that ever happen for me?”
You’re shocked by this reaction. You hear a faint murmurinside your head, “This is not a real friend” but the next moment your colleague is apologizing and you try to overlook the incident…but nothing feels the same between the two of you again.
Over the course of the year there are other behaviors from this colleague that make you question the friendship where you hear the same internal murmurings. When the colleague goes behind your back and tries to turn your office mates against you it finally dawns on you that you were being played to help this person pretending to be a friend, compete against you!
When you review what happened you realize that you have a pattern of ignoring your instincts about people throughout your life. It’s time for you to change and stop being a “people pleaser.” This incident is a big learning experience about listening to your own internal guidance and trusting your gut in relationships.
Pay attention to those quiet “murmurings.” Your intuition was sounding the alarm about the jealous colleague not to be trusted, but you chose to overlook it.
Can you recall feeling something “wasn’t quite right” or “off?” Did you ever have those “murmurings” inside that you ignored? Share your story in the comments.
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There are so many good reasons to develop your intuition in addition to hearing your own inner guidance more clearly.
Setting the intention to connect daily to your intuition leads to a reduction in the distracting, fearful and often sabotaging voices in your mind. That allows the true voice of your own inner wisdom to surface above the noise.
Tuning in to your inner wisdom helps you find your purpose in life, develop better boundaries and say “no,” feel joyful and more satisfied, reduce stress levels, have better focus, less worry and more peace of mind and improve memory and decision-making to name just some of the benefits I wrote about in my best selling book,“The Intuition Principle.”
Another benefit of developing your intuition is gaining a greater sense of your own power.
Developing your intuition brings clarity around who you really are and what you were meant to do in this life. When you’re aligned with your purpose you become clear on your value and that leads to to greater self empowerment.
When you’re self empowered you take action toward your goals and become an advocate for yourself to ensure that you live a fulfilling and meaningful life and living up to your full potential. You stop looking outside of yourself and relying on others to advocate for you or to make you happy or fill you up. You become self reliant, self sufficient and completely whole in every sense of the word. You take responsibility for every aspect of your life.
Realizing that your purpose benefits others helps you become more confident in yourself. Having more confidence means you falter less in your decision making and make progress more easily toward achieving your goals.
Confidence also comes from hearing your inner guidance clearly and successfully following it. Each time you follow your intuition and it leads to a successful outcome you develop greater faith, trust and confidence in yourself.
More Confidence and Self empowerment
When you feel empowered you take more action to achieve your goals and taking more action is what leads to success. Your less “confused, and stuck in overwhelm” because you have a clear sense of where you want to go and the confidence that you can get there. You’re not held back by insecurities of “not knowing what to do.”
Self empowerment gives you the confidence to know that you’ll take the right action to learn how to do what you need to do to get it done. You’re not always waiting for something outside of yourself to “get started.” When you lack confidence and feel disempowered you’re always in a “getting ready to get ready mode” instead of actually starting something. “Getting ready to get ready” is the illusion of thinking you’re doing something.
When you’re not clear on your purpose and the value you bring to the world you feel indecisive and shaky when making decisions.You do all sorts of things like “busywork” that don’t actually amount to anything because you’re unsure of what to do. This lack clarity and confusion on what action to take next is a vicious cycle of not being sure and either doing the same things over and over again or suddenly changing directions without putting any real thought into it. This cycle of feeling so unsure of yourself and doubting your direction, purpose and value are really disempowering and just ends up making you feeling worse.
The way out of this vicious cycle is to go within and build a strong connection to your inner wisdom; your intuition and letting it guide you. Working on your intuition is a practice of staying ever present and being mindful.
11 Reasons to Develop Your Intuition:
1. Reduction in the distracting, fearful and often sabotaging voices in your mind.
2. Tuning in to your inner wisdom helps you find your purpose in life
3. Develop better boundaries and be able to say “no.”
4. Feel joyful and more satisfied with your life
5. Reduced stress levels
6. Have better focus
7. Less worry and more peace of mind
8. Improved memory
9. Better at decision-making
10. Increases confidence
11. Become more empowered
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There’s a big difference between intuition & wishful thinking. And the differences are maximized to the 10th power when your heart is broken.
Wishful thinking is trying to manifest a particular outcome in which you have very little influence.
You know it’s wishful thinking if you vacillate between faith that it’s going to happen and fear that it won’t. The fear stems from your attachment to the outcome and from not wanting to hear your intuition, which may be telling you otherwise.
When you’re attached to seeing only one outcome you will block your intuition from coming through. No matter how many times you ask for intuitive guidance you’ll find yourself unsure of whether your intuition was saying yes you’ll get back together or if it was just your wishful thinking. (Watch the video at the end about why wishful thinking blocks your intuition).
Don’t confuse wishful thinking for faith
Having faith is when you are confident that things are going to work out for the best and for your highest good, for all parties concerned—no matter what.
You know it’s true faith if you’re able to relinquish the need to control the outcome, meaning you practice non-attachment to how your desire will manifest or even if it will manifest at all. You have faith that a power greater than you knows what it is doing.
Understanding where the confusion comes from
What I’m referring to is what can be most confusing about knowing that we create our reality. So many people think that if they just maintain a positive outlook and visualize and keep seeing that something has worked out the way they desire it, that it will eventually.
The good thing about more people knowing about the LOA is that it expanded our collective consciousness to realizing that we can and do create our reality with our thoughts and emotions. The dark side is that many people may be “holding thoughts” believing that this is what you’re supposed to do to make LOA work.
When you “hold thoughts” you focus intently upon one specific outcome without allowing the Universe to provide an even better outcome or what might be in your highest good.
Say your greatest desire is to be reunited with your ex.
Or playing the lottery and hitting it big.
Is there a chance your ex could see the “error of their ways” and return to you? Yes, of course.
Is there a chance you could pick the winning lottery numbers? Yes, of course.
The two key questions though are – is it in your best interest to focus all your attention on trying to force this outcome and can you exert any influence upon the situations you desire to manifest? In other words what recourse do you have, what actions can you take to co-create the future you desire?
Obsessively trying to win the lottery or on getting someone else to do something is futile. The lottery is a game of chance. Nothing you do can change the odds. Even if you were to sell your house and use the money to buy 350,000 lottery tickets and try 350,000 number combinations there is no guarantee you would win (and people have done that and lost).
Holding thoughts about the return of someone who has broken up with you and moved on is also futile. If the person won’t speak to you, see you, answer your calls or letters and has made it clear that it is over then you are expending all your energy on something that is beyond your control to influence.
If you enter a sweepstakes where the winner is chosen based upon an essay or jingle or slogan you must create then you have an opportunity to take an action that could help you win.
If your ex is speaking to you, going to couples counseling or open to the idea of working things out and will see you then by all means exert every positive effort you can to get back together.
Plus, what other opportunities are you missing and perhaps walking right past that don’t see because you’re focused on holding thoughts about this one thing working out the way you want? The truth is opportunity exists all around us all the time it’s only our perception that limits us from seeing these doorways.
Understanding why we want certain things
If we examine our desire to “win the lottery” we will see that what we truly desire is financial security. If you truly believe you’re lucky there’s no need to obsess about winning, is there? You probably already “win” at things often.
When we are heart-sick over the loss of the love of our lives and continually focus on bringing them back what we really are pining after is “how we felt” when the person was in our lives. We felt “whole and complete.” We believe our happiness will return when this person returns when really what we’re missing is the “feeling” of happiness we had.
“Holding thoughts” holds up our future
When we wish for one outcome so intently we are telling the Universe that we believe we have all the answers. We are broadcasting that we don’t trust the stuff of the Universe to mix and meld properly unless we are in control.
To be overly attached to a single outcome impedes the creative spark of the Universe. Are you not impressed with the way the Universe “engineers” things and delights you with the surprising ways they manifest? Wishing for only this one outcome means that what you will get is likely to be devoid of the “creative spark.”
What is the Creative Spark?
It’s that magical spark that is created when the Universe orchestrates events in our lives. It is an act of creation that is above and beyond our small human control. It is when the Universe pours through us using us as a vessel to create.
It’s the synchronicity of bumping into a person by sheer coincidence at the dog groomer’s and falling madly in love. It’s sitting down at the computer and having an inspired piece of writing come through you. It’s an inspired idea for a business or new service that literally falls from the sky into your mind one day. This is the “creative spark.”
We can never recreate that – it just happens, courtesy of the Universe. It cannot be forced by sheer will. Your will is not creative and it will never be creative. True creativity is channeled through human beings from a higher power, what I refer to as Greater Intelligence. It never comes through using the rational mind or through the use of sheer will. Inspiration or true creativity is communicated to you from Greater Intelligence via your intuition.
Holding thoughts snuffs out the Creative Spark
If you “hold thoughts” about having the love of your life return you might “make it happen” but, like trying to bring back the dead you might end up in soulless zombie-like relationship. A zombie is “soulless” simply because when the witchdoctor brings them back to life they have no soul.
You cannot force your will upon another person, even if you think you’re only working the “laws of attraction” and not holding them by physical force. The act of focusing so intently upon one outcome, especially when it involves another human being, is an act of bondage. Why does a witchdoctor create a zombie in the first place? Because he wants a slave.
When you acquire anything through forcing your will you are creating bondage. Anything you acquire by this method will not be what you had hoped. It will be devoid of soul – devoid of the creative spark of life.
The only way to bring back the love of your life is to completely let them go. If they are meant to return to you they are going to return of their own free will. Only then will you have the happiness you desire.
When we’re attached to one outcome, especially when it involves love we ought to examine why we feel so empty with out this person. We need to look inside and develop self-love, more self worth and confidence. There is nothing outside of us. Everything emanates from within.
If we don’t have enough love for ourselves we will never truly find love outside of ourselves with another person. It will never be enough. We will consume the other person in an attempt to fill the void within ourselves and eventually push the other person away.
Holding thoughts means we aren’t living in the present
When you “hold thoughts” about something happening your aren’t living in the present moment. You’re postponing your happiness until this “thing” happens, whether it is the return of your soul mate or the winning of the lottery.
When you aren’t living in the present moment, you aren’t really living. Examine your desires and if you believe you are attached to a particular outcome and “holding thoughts” about it let them go. One big clue that you are holding thoughts is constant vacillation between faith and fear. One minute your positive you’re getting back together and walking on air and the next minute you’re completely down in the dumps.
Allow the Universe to provide you with your highest good or something better
Focus on the feelings having what you desire would bring to your life such as joy, love and abundance instead of upon one specific outcome. Let the Universe do its job, infuse your future with the “creative spark” and be delighted by the outcome.
Intuition is information that spontaneously appears in our awareness without any conscious effort on our part.
Intuition is our own inner wisdom and guidance. It is a small voice we hear often like a whisper, that gently nudges us to make the right choices and decisions in our lives.
It can tell us when we should be wary of a person or warn us against doing something and when we should act on an opportunity. It comes to us spontaneously and many times feels like an “aha” moment.
Intuition can also be the sense you have that someone is staring at you or walking behind you, before you even turn around and meet their gaze. In this application intuition is a sensory experience about the environment around you. It’s no different than the other five senses we rely upon – it’s just more subtle which is why some people are not aware of it.
Where does intuition come from?
Your mind searches for the answers hidden in long forgotten memory banks. When it locates the answer it deposits the solution in its entirety into your awareness, which is why often when the answer comes to us we experience intuition as a “light bulb moment.”
How to tell the difference between the voice of intuition and other thoughts
Intuition makes you “feel good” about doing something. You will experience a sense of “certainty” about it. The matter will feel “settled.” It will feel right and give you sense of connecting all the dots. Always go back to how this “voice” makes you feel.
Once the answer comes to you, if it came from your intuitive mind you won’t have any lingering doubts. You’ll trust it and feel sure and, you’ll feel it directly in your gut.
Deep down inside we always know
It’s only after we screw up by ignoring our intuition that we admit that we did in fact, “know.” Before we are forced to admit it, we’ve usually been in denial with our heads in the sand pretending everything was going okay. Does this sound familiar?
A sure sign you’re in denial is if you keep asking yourself the same question over and over and get the same answer but, respond with a lot of “yeah, buts.”
What you need to do is get radically honest with yourself. Put aside all your rationalizations and excuses and ask to connect to the “truth” of the matter. You’ll recognize when you’ve connected to the “truth” because your gut will feel as if its been “stabilized.”
Rationalizations are akin to lies we tell ourselves to make things “okay.” Rationalizing is not “real” therefor it has no weight, no real substance and cannot make your gut feel as if you are standing on stable ground.
Where most of us get tripped up
When our intuition gives us an answer we don’t like our ego tries to confuse us by making us doubt our intuition.
When you don’t like the answer you got usually it’s because you haven’t yet assimilated the lesson you need to learn from the situation that you’re looking for answers about. Intuition is often a “shortcut” to answers you need so, if you ask for intuitive guidance you’ll get the answer whether you’re ready to act upon it or not.
When a thought comes from the ego, often you’ll feel as if you “should do” it. You’ll be aware of your rational mind recounting the reasons why you ought to do it – why it “makes sense.” Keep track of the “yeah buts” that’s a big clue that you are rationalizing.
If you feel the voice is advising you to do something out of fear, or lack or that you should do this over that – it is NOT your intuition. This is the clearest way to know the difference.
It is never our intuition that is wrong but, what we mistake for our intuition.
The key is this…
They key is your gut. You’ve got to feel it in your gut. If you don’t feel it in your gut it’s not your intuition – it’s your mind rationalizing. Keep this in mind and you’ll distinguish between your thoughts and your intuition.
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