So, why aren’t you living your purpose and fulfilling your potential?
We might even question why we are stuck in jobs we hate and work with people with whom we can’t relate, when some people seem to find something they love to do and appear to love their lives. The answer is that we are either afraid to listen to our intuition and take that leap of faith, or we truly haven’t heard our intuition our whole lives. p. 11 The Intuition Principle
Answering the intuitive call
If you feel that you’re not living your purpose, fulfilling your potential and that there has to be more to life, then your Intuition is trying to get your attention. You’re feeling this because it’s your Truth. You’ve got to tune into that unique thing in you that wants to be expressed. And if it continues to elude you find out what’s blocking it from surfacing.
Fear is the reason why most people don’t live their purpose and fulfill their potential. Fear keeps them stuck in their comfort zone. It’s also the reason behind the lack of clarity about their purpose.
When someone says to me, “I don’t know my purpose and I don’t feel drawn to anything.”
The very next question I ask them is this, “What would you be doing if money were not a concern?”
Of course asking this hypothetical question opens the flood gate of desire within them and out comes the purpose they’ve suppressed for years!
Why? Because, the fear of going past the edge of their comfort zone produced so much anxiety that it was much easier to suppress their desire and intuition and think they “didn’t know their purpose.” If you don’t know your purpose there’s no way you can actualize it, right?
Your purpose isn’t hiding from you
Ask yourself what you would be doing if money were no object and you’ll see you do have desires. It’s just that all the fearful voices about living it drown out your intuition. When you have that dream well up inside of you and feel excited that’s an intuitive pull toward living your purpose. Living your purpose means changing your life in some way, and for most people that’s really scary. Your fears about change are what keep you stuck not living your purpose.
Fear is a powerful emotion
You’ve got to be clear on which fears are stopping you. Once you locate the exact fear you can breakthrough it and deflate it. If you don’t consciously deal with your fears you allow them to dictate your reactions, behavior and life in general. And that’s how people get stuck not living their purpose and fulfilling their potential.
How to overcome fear in three steps
- Identify your specific fear(s) by asking yourself, “What am I afraid of?”
- Deflate them using logic.
- Keep doing this on every fear that comes up until no more come up.
Here are three examples:
Fear – You’re going to fail.
All people who set out to do something fail at some point. Thomas Edison said, “I have not failed. I just found 10000 ways that don’t work.” Sure you might fail but so what? Isn’t it better to strive toward actualizing your purpose than to sit around cowering in fear and do nothing? Plus, you don’t know what wonderful things may befall you because you got out there and tried. Sitting home in fear isn’t going to bring new people and experiences into your life is it?
Fear – You’re too old.
If you can read you’re not too old to learn about a subject that interests you. If you have the desire you can go back to school or take courses to learn what you need to. Most people who say this are really thinking about how long it will take and how old they’ll be when they’ve fully integrated this “purpose” into their lives. But the truth is however old you are now you will eventually be XX years old anyway. So isn’t it better to use the next couple years getting to where you want to be?
Fear – You won’t make any/enough money.
This is a common fear that stops a lot of people. Who says you have to quit your job? Pursue your purpose on the side. Do it for the sake of feeling fulfilled and satisfied. If you later feel that there is a path toward making your purpose your full time gig go for it. There are no rules when it comes to living your life purpose. Doing what you love on the side doesn’t make it any less of a life purpose.
Stop putting so much pressure on yourself
I want to clear up a notion about life purpose….many people think their purpose has to be grandiose in order to “qualify” as a life purpose but that’s not true. And that may be the reason some people go in circles for years searching for their purpose.
Your life purpose satisfies something in you.
It’s the thing that lights you up and you cannot help but be drawn to doing it. It doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with any specific job, making money, fame or being viewed as successful.
Your life purpose is a unique expression of you
Perhaps you are a fabulous host or hostess and your dinner parties are legendary. You’re a born nurturer and love bringing people together over a home cooked meal at your home. That’s a purpose because it’s satisfying something in you and that’s why you do it.
To actualize your purpose and fulfill your potential you have to overcome the fears that stop you first. Once you’re free of the fear that suppresses your purpose it will come to light and you will start living it and living up to your potential.
What fears are holding you back? Will you apply logic to deflate them? Share with us in the comments.
P.S. This article came about in response to the many emails I received from PBI subscribers who asked why they weren’t living their purpose and fulfilling their potential after reading my previous article. If you’d like to ask me questions directly subscribe here.
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