Let us forgive each other – only then will we live in peace. –Leo Nikolaevich Tolstoy
I’m sorry. Forgive me. Thank you. I love you.
Ho’oponopono is an ancient healing practice of forgiveness from Hawaii practiced throughout Polynesian cultures.
“Ho’oponopono” is defined as “mental cleansing: family conferences in which relationships were set right through prayer, discussion, confession, repentance, and mutual restitution and forgiveness.”(Wikepedia)
I first heard this mantra, “I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you,” in a book by author Joe Vitale titled, “The Awakening Course: The Secret to Solving All Problems.”
Vitale wrote about how he’d heard of therapist who worked for the Hawaii State Hospital for the mentally ill who had used this mantra to heal almost all the inmates. The therapist did not see the patients he merely read their charts and constantly repeated the mantra. After two years most of the inmates were released.
Vitale was so fascinated by this story that he tracked down the therapist, Ihalekala Hew Len, to find out all he could about his method.
Len believed that we are individually responsible for anything and everything that comes into our lives. His belief is that if you create your own reality, and a mentally ill patient shows up in your experience, you created the experience of that person.
In order to restore their mental health Len had to ask the Divine to forgive him for whatever he had done to co-create that person in his life.
While reading the charts of these mental patients, many of whom had committed extreme violence, Len would become angry and upset. He would take his “feeling” and offer it the Divine to be healed.
Vitale describes how he used the mantra:
“He’s taking the feeling to the Divine, and he’s kind of offering a prayer. He’s offering a petition. He’s saying to the Divine, “I’m sorry. I have no idea what in me co-created this person, but I’m accepting that the person is in my life. Please forgive me for whatever I have done in my life, in my past, in my present. I’m not aware of what I did, but please forgive me for that.” He goes on to say, “Thank you. Thank you for taking care of this. Thank you for cleaning this. Thank you for taking care of this whole situation.” He ended it by saying, “I love you,” which, as I found out, were the three most powerful words you could say. He’s saying, “I love you,” not to himself, not to the person that he’s thinking about, not to his file. He’s saying it to the Divine. He’s saying it to God. He’s saying, “I love you,” and by doing so, he’s going into a state of surrender.” (p.71-72)
After I read this I started using the mantra whenever I felt upset by anyone or any situation in my life.
And, you know what? It worked.
I found I was no longer upset nor could bringing up the person or the problem trigger those feelings in me again.
I was free!
What a wonderful feeling.
Why does this mantra work?
When we realize that we are part of the problem even if we don’t know how – we say, “I’m sorry.”
If it’s as simple as having an argument with a friend, you are part of the problem. If it is something less obvious such as when Len felt he somehow co-created the mentally ill patients; take responsibility for drawing this situation to yourself, even if it is not technically your fault.
We always have thoughts cycling through our minds whether we realize it or not that are not in alignment with our highest intentions. Be repeating the mantra over and over we neutralize those negative thought patterns.
Ask the Divine to forgive you for whatever thoughts within you drew you into or created the situation.
When we as to be “forgiven” it humbles us. It brings down the ego. When you remove the ego’s attachment to “being right and who was wrong,” you can move past the problem and release those negative feelings much more easily.
Thank the Divine for forgiving you.
We acknowledge that we have received the divine blessing of forgiveness and give thanks for being freed from this negativity from the bottom of our hearts.
Tell the Divine, “I love you.”
Saying, “I love you,” says that you are most thankful for the grace of being forgiven. It also says that you are thankful for being given the gift of life and for another day to get it right!
Whenever you find yourself getting upset start repeating this mantra and see how your world changes around you.
If you have ever used this mantra what were you experiences? If not, are you willing to try it?
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