Do you ever feel uncertain and indecisive?
Take this short quiz:
Do any of these statements ring true for you?
1. Do you feel unsure when you have to make a decision?
2. Do you look to what other people are doing to help you make your decision?
3. Do you often feel unclear about whether you can trust your own instincts or inner guidance?
4. Do you procrastinate because you can’t come to a decision?
5. Do you frequently ask many people their opinions before you feel confident making your decision?
6. Do you believe you’re just not good at making decisions?
If 3 or more of these statements rang true for you than experiencing uncertainty around making decisions is something you need to address.
How to Overcome Uncertainty and Indecisiveness
Uncertainty around making decisions is really a fear of making a mistake.
This probably stems from a decision you made that was wrong that had tremendous consequences on your life. You might also have been scolded, punished or shamed because of a decision you made.Think back over your life, did an authority figure ever make you feel bad about a decision? Did something happen at school or with a sibling where you were made fun of? Was there a defining moment in your life when a big decision you made went horribly wrong? Any of these reasons could have left you with a deep wound and fear around making the wrong decision.
One of the worst effects of being so deeply wounded around your decision-making ability is the lack of self-trust that the incident instills. It’s this lack of self-trust and the resulting questioning of your instincts that leads many creatives, intuitives, sensitives, and heart-centered entrepreneurs on a journey of discovering how to turn up the volume of their intuition. We want reliable guidance to be sure we make the right decisions and to avoid problems in our lives and so, we embark on a journey to develop our intuition. And we all have a sense of intuition primarily for one reason – to keep us safe and help us navigate our lives.
When something traumatic happens in our lives that disconnects us from trusting ourselves and this voice within, our whole life suffers. Losing trust in our judgement makes us feel completely insecure and vulnerable. We lack the confidence to take action and our life stagnates. When we have the inner confidence to make quick accurate decisions we are more apt to take action. When we take action and things turn out well we develop a greater sense of confidence ourselves and in our intuition.
This is the secret of how to conquer uncertainty, doubt and fear around making decisions. The answer is to focus on developing your intuition. When you’re able to hear your intuition loud and clear you’ll finally kick that uncertainly to the curb for good. After you begin making good decision by following your intuition a number of times your self-confidence will improve tremendously. When you’re confident you’re uncertainty will disappear.
Follow these 5 Steps to turn up the volume of your intuition and conquer your uncertainty for good.
- Make time for quiet reflection each day. Go within, get quiet and listen to learn how to discern your intuition from your other thoughts.
- Go for a walk in nature. Listen to the natural sounds rather than music. Allow Nature’s soothing sounds to quiet your mind. A quiet mind allows your intuition to stand out so you can hear it.
- Write out your concerns in a journal. What’s troubling you about the decision you’re grappling with? What’s your desired outcome? Many time when we relax and get into the flow of writing the right answer comes to us.
- Ask your higher self to bring you the answer to “What can I do to ensure that this turns out positively for me and all concerned?” Let go and allow ideas to bubble up naturally during the course of the day. Be sure to write down any that inspire you.
- Write out your question on a note pad before going to sleep. Ask your higher self to work on this problem and bring you an answer in a dream. Be sure you write down any dreams you so you don’t forget them. Memories of dreams are notorious for slipping away very fast! Analyze it and you’ll see that the dream will contain the answer you’re looking for.
Once you learn how to listen and follow your intuition your uncertainty around trusting yourself to make decision will become a thing of the past.
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Tune into your intuition and you’ll be more successful in three very important ways.
Intuitive Development Increases Intelligence
All answers are already inside you. There is a part of you that is quietly witnessing and recording every moment of your life. This part runs 24/7 taking in incredible amounts of data that the conscious mind isn’t aware of. When you are faced with a decision all of this data is mined instantaneously and the answer catapulted at warp speed to inform the body. Science bears this out. In studies where skin conductance responses (measuring perspiration) on the palms were measured findings show that the body’s intelligence responds correctly to answers before the conscious mind ever forms an answer.
Once you learn how to pick up on these subtle cues from the body you gain access to a vast storehouse of intelligence for your life.
Makes Decision Making Easier
Listening for and hearing your intuition is skill that requires practice. Once mastered it’s a sign that you’re capable of rising above the din of your thoughts and the clutches of negative emotions. Most of our thoughts are dictated by what is outside of us and what we think we “should do” and this is is usually where we make our biggest “decision making mistakes. Negative emotions such as fear and anger reinforce limiting beliefs which is why being constantly whipsawed by these emotions results in making wrong choices and decisions as well.
Focusing on your intuition doesn’t mean that you no longer need your reasoning powers or to feel emotions. It shows that you are not at their mercy instead, you are in conscious control of how you react.
When your mind is quiet and free of distractions you easily hear your intuition more easily. Think of the quiet mind like a still pond. When a pebble is thrown in the center of the pond you easily take notice of the ripples it sends out. If you were to throw a pebble in the water during a rains storm however, you would never be able to distinguish the rings from the raindrops. Someone who hears their intuition easily has learned how to still their mind like the quiet pond so that when an intuitive thought strikes they easily take notice.
Improves Your Confidence
Acting upon your intuition takes guts. If you have to make an important decision and all the data points you to another decision entirely you have to be pretty gutsy to follow your intuition anyway. Most highly successful individuals will say that some of their most celebrated decisions were based on following their gut instincts. And, that despite the data and advice from others they proceeded based on a “feeling” they had that this was the right way to go. This shows great courage and confidence.
The more you develop your intuition and trust it the more confident you will become in your own instincts. And, as a consequence the more confident you are in trusting your intuition the more often you’ll hear it and be accurate. Will you always be right? No, there are going to be times when you’re wrong most likely, when the rational mind puts its own spin and biases on the raw data of your intuition. Intuition and logic are not inherently compatible. You can’t measure the validity of a raw intuitive flash of inspiration by how rational it is. If your intuition appeals to your sense of logic it has most likely been tampered with by the logical mind.
The more you use your intuition the more you will perfect the art of distinguishing it from the other voices that compete for your attention in the mind. Your intuition is like any other “muscle” in your body. The more you use it the better developed it becomes and the more loudly it will “speak.”
Many of the mistakes attributed to intuition are really attributable to not having practiced enough to differentiate it from our other thoughts. What we followed wasn’t intuition but a thought, perhaps because we allowed the rational mind to slip in because we thought this idea was “logically” the right thing to do.
Intuition is Always A Shortcut To The Answer
That’s the trick you see, to understand that intuition has nothing to do with what is right or rational at all. Intuition doesn’t come from the rational mind that thinks sequentially and where thoughts are labeled as right or wrong. Intuition bypasses the thinking mind and travels the path of our feelings—and feelings arise fast!
Intuitive feelings spring forth at lightening speed from your memory banks. Stored data from “Column A” and bits of information from “Column C and B” are pulled from the mind’s storehouse and reformulated into a completely new and innovative idea or solution. Many new and innovative ideas never seem “logical” at the beginning, do they? This is the reason why you might label it as illogical but, that doesn’t automatically make it wrong.
The ego is concerned with being “right” so it will impose the test of “reason” upon an innovative idea and deem it illogical or wrong. When the ego and reason team up and tamper with your intuition you second guess yourself and think, “this is a crazy idea and it won’t work.” In its place you come up with another idea that you assume is also from your intuition and that is the idea that turns out to be wrong.
Intuition isn’t wrong it’s when we filter it through the lens of reason (what we think we should do) that creates the distorted idea which always turns out to be wrong.
Develop your intuitive listening skills and gain access to more intelligence for your life, better decision making ability and improved confidence.
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Intuition Stories of Guidance for Your Life
Everyone is intuitive.
Our intuition is a primal sense that has been with us since mankind stood upright. It is there to warn us about danger in our environment.
Have you ever had the feeling someone was following you? This feeling is the intuitive knowing you get to warn you that you may be in danger. Feeling that someone is there you turn round and see them and then RUN which saves your life.
Intuition does come through differently for everyone though and sometimes it can be confusing. Read these three stories to get a sense of how intuitive insight shows up for these writers.
The more you know about how intuition works the more likely you are to recognize it in your own life. And, the more you follow your intuition the more confident you will become in trusting it and the more successful you will be in your life.
Intuitive guidance for relationships:
My husband and I were having issues early in our marriage. We were butting heads and our arguments seemed to be getting worse.
I had reached the point where I had had enough and was ready to walk.
Just before I told my husband that I was done, something stopped me. I suddenly realized that I was following a pattern. I started to see how I had done this in every other relationship I had ever had.
I remember the voice of my intuition saying to me quite firmly, “Not this time. Stay. Learn something. You can always leave later. For now, stay.”
It was tough to stay but I did. For the first time in my life I realized that I had to work on myself. The problems in my life weren’t always someone else’s fault.
If I kept experiencing the same kinds of relationship issues, regardless of who I was with or where I lived, then I must be a big part of it. Like Jon Kabat-Zinn says, “Wherever you go, there you are.”
I put my relationship on hold while I saw a therapist and did some deep work on myself. The more I changed, the more my husband seemed to change into the person I had been looking for.
Our marriage improved. Since then, I’ve never stopped looking deeper into myself, seeking opportunities for changing myself into the person I’ve been looking for.
My intuition was right.
–Paige Burkes – Simple Mindfulness
Intuitive guidance about your life path:
I’ve been getting a lot of signs and synchronicity lately about what to do next with my business for the next 3 months while I’m visiting home. I’m not sure of the outcome yet because it’s still in the making, but I got invited to be a co-author in a book series about soulful relationships or conscious business. When I checked it out, the buy in price just didn’t seem worth it. I knew that I could invest in myself for cheaper and probably make more money. My intuition was telling me this is a gentle nudge to write my OWN book instead.
Then, I received a random email from someone who saw my website. Those emails are few and far between… It’s been months since I’ve received one. He mentioned how my involvement in past client work with Cheryl Strayed lead him to her book “Wild” and thanked me for the (indirect) connection. I took that as another synchronous sign that it’s time to write my own memoir about my walking journey, which is all about my soulful relationship. Tie that in to ‘conscious business’ and I’ve got an Eat, Pray, Love-ish memoir + biz guide! This feels like the energetically right next thing to do.
Intuitive guidance simplifies everyday life:
My niece is getting married in a few weeks and I’ve been putting off shopping for a dress.
I’m not one of those women who enjoys shopping or shops as a pass time. I usually spend time in a mall at a department store only when I absolutely must.
I told myself months ago not to panic and that when the time came to buy a dress I would feel the urge or get a sign
that it was time to go to the mall.
With only a few weeks to spare I was starting to get nervous. The “urge” to shop had not yet descended upon me!
Last weekend – it finally came. I had an urge to go to Macy’s Department store – which is funny as I had been thinking all along that I would go to Lord & Taylor’s to find my dress. But no – it was a very clear urge to go to Macy’s so I went.
On the way there I suddenly heard this very clear directive, “Go with the navy blue dress!”
Again this was funny as all along I had been picturing myself in a completely different color; a shimmery copper long dress.
Well, don’t you know that the first dress I saw when I reached the fancy dress department was a navy blue cocktail dress? I liked it right away and “knew” it was going to look well on me.
I also saw a beautiful long copper colored dress and took that one and an armful of other dresses into the dressing room with me. Although I tried them all on – nothing could beat that navy blue cocktail dress which had been the first one I tried on.
I was actually a bit disappointed as the copper dress was exactly the kind of dress I had been imagining all along but it didn’t flatter me at all – not like the blue dress anyway.
I ended up buying the short blue cocktail dress and a great pair of comfortable black patent leather heels and now I am all set for the wedding that is just six weeks away. What a relief.
While I did spend three hours at the mall had I listened to my intuition from the beginning and tried only the navy blue dress I would have been in and out of there in less than an hour.
–Angela Artemis – PoweredbyIntuition
Never argue with that little voice you hear. It always steers you right!
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How To Use MindMapping To Stay Creative & Intuitive Everyday
By guest contributor Virginia Cunningham.
Humans are by nature creative. Sometimes, however, we need a little help to unlock our true artistic potential.
Using mind mapping can not only help you get a clearer picture of your ideas, it can also encourage you to focus and expand on those ideas. As an enhancing tool – mind mapping enhances your creativity, your intuition and problem solving skills. On top of all of that, it enables you to better understand yourself and your strengths.
Essentially, mind mapping is a technique that uses a diagram to map out information in a visual manner, in which there is a main category in the center of the map, branching out into subcategories in a hierarchical form.
Thus, you can relate and group information together efficiently; it is a structural format to force you to think outside of the box. As it is visual, it keeps you engaged to concentrate on your thoughts.
Mind mapping is a great way to brainstorm, organize and keep track of goals and objectives, and make those artistic connections.They can spark breakthrough ideas and intuitive connections of where content should be and how content relates – you can visually see if your thoughts are in the right place.
Sometimes your mind doesn’t follow the conventional way to solve a problem; however, at times, following the norm can become repetitive and mundane. If your gut or intuition tells you to do something in a different and innovative way, perhaps you should follow that instinct.
With the help of a mind map, we can better understand our ideas and develop solutions. In understanding our ideas, we learn and know more about ourselves and our place in life.
Just like our intuition, sometimes our creativity can be elusive because we don’t pay attention to it or use it often enough. Your creative spirit may be dormant; however, you can awaken it through the use of a mind map.
A mind map can help you obtain a better grasp of your creativity, pull experiences from the past and present, and utilize your overall physical, mental and emotional resources. The end result of your mind map focuses on the roots in your intuition – your creativity and intuition combined provide you with that unique angle and approach to your work to creatively solve problems in your life.
With a mind map, you can take a moment to look at a visual depiction of your thoughts, make sense of it and pay more attention to the right side of the brain we refer to as the more creative and intuitive side of our brain that we tend to ignore.
A mind map is a creative connection of the intangible to the tangible. Mind maps provide visual confirmation to the thoughts running through your mind. When you flex your creative muscles, you put your feelings to paper and your perceptions are expanded. You can step away or hone in on external stimuli and turn random thoughts into an actual process.
Use a mind map everyday when sorting out thoughts to serve as a visual guide to the connection between your creativity, your intuition and intuitive guidance. Creativity and intuition are linked so, working with a mind map will not only help expand your creativity it will also help you to develop your intuition as well.
What tools and techniques do you use to enhance your creativity? If you’ve tried mindmapping how has it worked out for you?
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Virginia Cunningham is a freelance writer from California whose writing covers a range of different topics, including health and supplements, dining and travel and business and marketing.
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Intuition is the supra-logic that cuts out all the routine processes of thought and leaps straight from the problem to the answer. Robert Graves
What is stress?
Stress is the reaction we feel when our life becomes overwhelming and too much for us. For some people it takes very little to feel stressed while others can handle mountains of burdensome issues before they crumble under the stress. It doesn’t matter which category you fall into. When you have reached the point of feeling that you can’t take it anymore, it’s time to do something about it to cut the stress.
Intuition strengthening exercises will decrease your stress levels
There are many practical benefits of strengthening your intuition that I cover in my book, “The Intuition Principle.” Some of the many benefits include increasing your creativity, problem solving abilities, confidence, competence, empathy and compassion, memory, luck, health, decision-making and focus but, the top two on the list are stress reduction and peace of mind.
Have you ever taken a video of your child on vacation say, at an amusement park like Universal Studios?
The camera captures the image of your child and all the people who are passing by plus, all the details of Universal Studios in the background.
Had you taken that same video with the zoom lens on you would see more of your child in the video and very little of Universal Studios.
Developing your intuition changes what you focus upon very much like using a zoom lens changes the focus of the video in the example.
When we narrow our focus from a “wide lens” to a “zoom lens” we remove distractions that pull our thinking off in many directions and this reduces stress and increases peace of mind.
Causes of stress
Often stress is caused by having too many thoughts competing for your attention at one time. For example, your attention might be splintered by thoughts of everything you need to accomplish that is on your to-do list; how little time you have; fears of doing an inadequate job; worries about your children, spouse or aging parent and a myriad of other things all at the same time. No wonder you feel stressed. You are allowing your thoughts to take over and send you on a wild goose chase by every thought that enters your mind.
Meditation increases intuition and peace of mind
One of the best ways to heighten intuition is to make meditating part of your day. When you meditate regularly you begin to hear your intuition more often and to identify it more easily. When you slow down the thinking mind by going within you turn on your own “zoom” lens. Turning on this inner “zoom lens” also puts your thoughts in “slow motion.”
When you eliminate distracting thoughts and slow down the pace of thoughts, you automatically become calmer. A calm mind is a better environment for fostering intuition than a frenzied one. When thoughts and intuition don’t fly through the mind as quickly, they can be captured and remembered more easily by your mind.
This is the real secret of hearing your intuition. You are already more intuitive than you are aware of. It’s just that all the stress producing thoughts have been drowning out your intuitive thoughts.
Develop your intuition to increase confidence and competence
Once you have begun to develop your intuition not only do you clear your mind of distracting thoughts but, you also become more confident and competent. The reason for this is that you begin to hear the guidance of your intuition more often. This wisdom that surfaces in your mind has always been there but, it was drowned out by the wild band of thoughts that had taken over your mind. Now that your mind is calm and focused this wisdom stands out among your thoughts when it surfaces.
Having the answers to problems you’ve been struggling with surface in your mind is calming and reassuring. After a few times of seeing how elegantly this works you begin to relax and trust that the answers will always come to you when you need them. This “trust” translates to confidence in your ability to solve problems in your life and in your own competence. And, the confidence you now exude emerges as a higher level of competency in everything you do.
Use these three steps to develop your intuition and increase your peace of mind, confidence and competence:
1. Commit to a practice of meditation each day. It takes just 20 hours of cumulative meditation practice to make lasting changes to your brain’s physiology. Meditating for as little as twenty minutes each day will result in an increase in your intuition and peace of mind in just 60 days. If you want to speed up your results meditate for ½ hour day so you see results in 40 days or practice ½ hour twice per day to see results in 20 days.
2. Exercise your intuition daily. Before meeting friends at a restaurant for a meal close your eyes and ask yourself what your friends will be wearing or what they will order from the menu. When the phone rings, stop and ask yourself who is calling. While in meditation each day visualize yourself “receiving” the answers to problems in your life. Feel how happy and excited you are to have the answers come to you.
3. Put the power of affirmations to work in your life. Affirmations help focus your mind. Whenever you feel yourself getting stressed by competing thoughts which pull you in 100 different directions immediately begin repeating this affirmation: I am calm, focused and in control of my thoughts. I choose now to relax and focus on the task at hand. All is well. Or, create your own affirmation.
Follow these simple steps and soon you will see your peace of mind increase along with your confidence and competence in everything you do.
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