Gifted by Grief: A Catalyst to Full Potential Living

Gifted by Grief: A Catalyst to Full Potential Living

Today I have the pleasure of sharing a fascinating interview with Jane Duncan Rogers, author of “Gifted by Grief.” 

Gifted by Grief

“Gifted by Grief” is an inspiring story. Dealing with grief and loss after the passing of her beloved husband Phillip, was the catalyst that helped Jane find herself and connect more deeply to her purpose and passion for living her own life. It’s an amazing book that motivates people to live up to their full potential and a guide to help those who are grieving navigate those dark waters. –Angela Artemis

Read the full interview or listen to it. To listen click on the Audio Player below: Audio player

  1. Jane, what led you to write “Gifted by Grief?”

I always knew I would write about this experience. Well, I was already writing about it in my journal, from day one of Philip’s diagnosis, just like I’d been writing in my journal since I was in my teens.

I also knew I needed to wait until the time was right – and I knew that the time would be right when I felt utterly compelled to do it. Sure enough, that’s what happened, and one morning on holiday when I was ill and had to stay in bed, I created a MindMap of the outline. It surprised me when I got home that I didn’t immediately start writing!  But I trusted that I would know, and sure enough, in a few months, again on holiday, I woke one morning and just knew the time was right.

2. How did you feel when Philip was diagnosed, and you found yourselves coming face to face with the possibility of death?

It was a huge shock initially. It prompted a long conversation between us which led to us feeling closer than we had done for ages. Philip made some significant changes in his life which I could see were benefitting him but they benefitted me too. That’s why in the end we were able to be grateful for what cancer had brought, even though by that time we knew he would die from it.  Strange paradox that, but it’s true.

  1. There’s a story in the book about The List – can you tell me more about that? 

We’d received an email from a friend of ours insisting we address various questions about the end of life. They were quite pointed some of them, like what kind of coffin do you want, what personal items do you want to leave to anyone in particular, and did I know Philip’s user names and passwords.  We resisted doing this for quite a while but eventually I pinned Philip down and we answered them together. It was hard, but in the end, after a couple of hours we were done, and we felt great. It was another thing that created great intimacy, which was wonderful.  It felt like our last project together – although now I think this book is the last project!

  1. For most people their journals are very private. Yet you have shared intimately from them. How do you feel about that now it’s in print? 

Well, I feel very strongly about bringing grief out of the closet, so to speak. As baby boomers get older, there is quite a lot around now about death and dying, but not so much that focuses on grief, and the effects of that.

One of the effects of the book is that you get an insight into the minds of both myself as the carer and survivor, and Philip as the patient (through his blog entries). I hope this will help readers to understand that though the feelings may be strong, you CAN get through this. Also I hope it will help people who are grieving to not hide away. I read about so many people who feel they have to pretend that they are all right. I rarely did that, and I was lucky in that I had friends who encouraged me to express how I felt in the moment. That’s how I discovered that if you just let whatever feeling be there, it will go, and usually quite quickly. It’s the ‘trying not to have it’ that actually keeps it there.

6. Tell me about “The Listening?” 

The Listening was a kind of channeled writing that had been coming through me for several years previously. One day I was out walking, railing at God because I wasn’t able to have children. Suddenly I heard a ‘voice’ telling me ‘You are not meant to have children in this life; your life is purely a spiritual one’. I was amazed. Over time a relationship with this voice developed, and I discovered it was easiest to hear it if I was writing the words down. By now these were words that I saw in my mind’s eye. I have journals full of them, and they are always, unfailingly, loving and truthful. Here’s an example from my book, about 15 months after my husband had died:

“Death is but a passing from one form to another without fear or clinging. As easy as moving through a doorway from one room to another, and as lacking in fear. So come to this doorway when you are ready to anoint and bless your true Self. Stillness is the secret passage through which this journey is made, and indeed is what life is made of, in essence.”

As you can imagine, I found The Listening very helpful during this time.

  1. There was a very strong impact for you when Philip actually died, and you saw only a ‘dead body’. It’s not like that for everyone, is it? So how can you relate to others who maybe still see their loved ones as being a body?

It shocked me, that. I had seen one dead body before and I knew from that experience that you can see the life force has disappeared. But what was really amazing about that time was how disinterested I was in his body. That helped in then exploring what IS in this body that is sitting talking to you now. Which as you know set me off on quite a journey!

If others are relating still to their loved ones as if they were a body that is no longer here, that’s fine, so long as it isn’t causing complicated stress or stopping them from thriving in their lives. It’s too easy with grief to get stuck, and when that happens you need a helping hand to get you out, even if you feel ambivalent about it.

  1. What should people do if they feel they are stuck in grief?

When you’re hit by grief, it’s often a shock even if you knew what to expect (that happened to me) and then you have to adjust to a new situation. Eventually you get used to that situation, even if you don’t like it much. That in itself then becomes familiar over time, and when something has become familiar it can be easy to want to stay there, even if you are hurting still.

If you’re stuck and you know it, then that is the most important thing. Because then little by little you can take steps to get out of the hole of grief.  But you may have become used to this new situation and its become familiar, but you know you’re not happy and thriving. Well, the obvious answer to this is that you want your loved one back and then everything will be all right.

I had personal counseling and coaching which helped me, but I also had my own background of therapeutic training which helped me realize what was going on.  I never wanted to join a group – the others’ pain was too much for me, and then when I began to feel stronger, I didn’t have the need for it.  So – get support is my answer in short! 

  1. Tell me more about the shift that happened for you when you realized you are peace itself.

Well, everything looks the same and yet is experienced quite differently. Not all the time, but most of the time. Result – I am much more relaxed, at peace, able to move easily throughout life, have relationships with people.

The effect of it is that the dramas of life simply are not so important any more. People who are bereaved often say this, but in this case, it’s nearly 4 years now and they are still not very important. It’s like the dramas of an individual life are stories in a story book – to be read, enjoyed, but not really believed as the truth. When you can view your own life and that of others like that, and you know that you really are the peace that underlies all these stories, then you become much less attached to how the story turns out. Which makes for a much more peaceful life! 

  1. Most people would think that a happy ending to the death of a spouse would be meeting someone else that you can fall in love with (without forgetting your previous spouse, of course). That’s not your happy ending – or is there something you’re not telling us?!

When you’re dependent on something or someone outside of you, then there will inevitably be loss at some point. What you think you can get from the outside and bring to your inside is always, by definition, transitory. It’s only when you turn that upside down, and focus on coming from inside towards the outer, that you discover experiences and a sense of who you truly are. And who you truly are has never begun, never ends, is always there. It flows through a body called Jane or Angela, for instance, but it never goes away.

That seems to me to be much more valuable than meeting another man!  And yet – I’m living at a practical level too, and so it would be great to meet someone.

  1. What can listeners do if they want to know more about you and your work? 

Buy the book!  Gifted By Grief: A True Story of Cancer, Loss and Rebirth.

Jane Duncan RogersVisit my website www.giftedbygrief.com where they will be able to download the prologue and first two chapters.  And then buy on Amazon, where it is discounted for your readers only from Monday 19th October – Friday 23rd, making it just $2.99 instead of $8.80.

Join my Facebook group – go to Facebook and put in Gifted By Grief and you’ll find it

 Email me jane@wildwisdom.co.uk to tell me if you are interested in joining a group to get your own copy of The List done.

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Grief, Mourning & Loss: How a Father Found his Mission in Life

Grief, Mourning & Loss: How a Father Found his Mission in Life

Woman in MourningIf you have ever lost someone close to you then you are no stranger to grief, mourning and the feeling of emptiness that comes with losing a loved one.

The emptiness has been likened to feeling that there is a hole in your soul that will never again be filled or as if you have lost a piece of you.

Claudio Pisani, MD from Laurio, South Italy and his wife went through the traumatic loss of two of their children. Claudio’s pain and suffering led him to spiritualism (belief that our essence survives physical death) and healing from grief. Over time through his research and direct experiences with mediums he went from skeptic and atheist to a huge promoter of the doctrine of spiritualism in his native country.

Claudio’s website:  La Pagina degli Amputee translated to English: THE AMPUTATED PARENTS’ PAGE is an enormous wealth of information on the subject of dealing with loss, understanding how we survive physical death and mediumship. Claudio has been curating information from all over the Internet for years. Even if you do not read Italian you can visit his site and have Google translate it for you.

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Today I’m happy to introduce you to Claudio, The Amputated Parents’ Page and his body of work:

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1. Please tell Powered by Intuition readers about how you came to start your website, The Amputed Parents’ Page?http://WWW.AMPUPAGE.IT

I WAS ONCE A “COLD CATHOLIC” NOW I AM A CHRISTIAN SPIRITUALIST AND THIS HELPS ME TO BEAR WITH THE TROUBLES OF MY EVERYDAY LIFE. NOW I KNOW THAT “NOTHING HAPPENS BY CHANCE”, ALSO DEATH.

I WANTED TO KNOW “WHERE” WAS MY SON NICOLA AND THE OTHER LITTLE ONE, SANDRA, WHO DIED 7 DAYS AFTER HER BIRTH, TEN YEARS BEFORE NICOLA.

I DIDN’T TRUST PRIESTS AND RELIGIONS, BUT I KNEW THAT DEATH IS NOT THE END, BECAUSE I’D ALREADY READ MANY BOOKS ON THIS TOPIC BEFORE I WAS MARRIED. THAT NOT FORGOTTEN KNOWLEDGE, POPPED UP IN MY MIND DURING THOSE TERRIBLE DAYS AND I BEGAN MY SEARCH FOR THE TRUTH, THANKS TO INTERNET.

IT WAS IN NOVEMBER OF 1999 WHEN I BEGAN TO WRITE MY WEBSITE, AFTER HAVING READ A LOT ON NDE’s (near death experiences), ADC’S (after death communication) AND AFTER MANY CONTACTS WITH MY SON, THANKS TO A TALENTED AMERICAN MEDIUM, NATALIE WHO WAS ABLE TO DO READINGS BY E-MAIL AND CHATROOMS….  UNLUCKILY SHE CROSSED OVER SOME YEARS AGO…

I THOUGHT THAT THE INFORMATION IN ITALY ABOUT THE SPIRITUALITY WAS TOO SCARCE AND THAT A WEBSITE DEDICATED TO THOSE NEW POINTS OF VIEW OF MANY SCIENTISTS, MEDIUMS, EXPLORERS OF THE AFTERLIFE COULD HAVE BEEN USEFUL FOR ALL THE “AMPUTATED PARENTS” LIKE ME. THEN I HAD ALSO AN ENGLISH VERSION OF IT, BUT AFTER  A FEW YEARS , I CLOSED IT BECAUSE THE TRANSLATION JOB WAS TOO HUGE FOR ME.  SINCE THEN, I HAD A LOT OF CONTACT WITH OTHER “AMPUTATEES” AND ALSO MET MANY OF THEM DURING THE INTERNATIONAL CONGRESSES OF PARAPSYCHOLOGY I USED TO ATTEND, BOTH AS A LECTURER AND AS A GUEST.

 NOW, WITH THE HELP OF SOME FRIENDS, I DO MINI MEETINGS WITH LOCAL GRIEVING PEOPLE, TOO

2. Please tell readers why you use the word “amputee” in your website title.

BECAUSE TO LOSE A SON IS LIKE TO MISS AN ARM, AN EYE….!

3. How has believing in an afterlife changed you? Your life?

TOTALLY!!!   I DON’T FEAR DEATH ANYMORE, EVEN IF I FEAR OF “HOW” WE COULD DIE.

(Being a doctor, I cope everyday with long and  horrible maladies of older people)

SO, EVERYDAY I ASK MY SON -WHEN MY TIME WILL COME- TO DO IT FAST AND IN THE BEST WAY, NO MATTER WHEN IT WILL BE, EVEN TOMORROW! BTW MY FAVORITE SONG IS “THE SPIRIT CARRIES ON”(DREAM THEATER), DO YOU KNOW IT?

4. As a doctor do you share this information with patients? How receptive are they?

NOT WITH MANY. MOST OF MY PATIENTS ARE ILLITERATE NOR SURF THE WEB. ONLY FEW OF THEM CAN UNDERSTAND MY NEW WAY OF LOOKING AT DEATH. SUPERSTITION IS STILL VERY COMMON HERE AND WHEN YOU DARE TO SPEAK OF DEATH, THE MAJORITY -HOW CAN I EXPLAIN TO YOU…KNOCK ON WOOD (EVEN IF WE ITALIANS DO ANOTHER GESTURE CALLED “CORNA” -HORNS)…..     Italian Horns gesture from ClaudioTHE VERY FEW WHO READ MY WEBSITE DON’T COME OUT WITH EASY TO SPEAK ABOUT THOSE TOPICS. REMEMBER THAT CATHOLIC CHURCH USED TO BURN ON THE STAKE THOSE WHO TRIED TO CONTACT THE DEATHS!

ONLY FEW PATIENTS ARE ENOUGH OPEN MINDED AND MANY ITALIANS ARE VERY FUNDAMENTALIST ON THESE TOPICS.

5. What do you hope that sharing this information on your website will accomplish?

ABOUT 400 PEOPLE/DAY COME TO READ MY WEBSITE, I HOPE TO CHANGE THEIR MINDS ABOUT DEATH, GRIEF AND SORROW CAUSED BY A BIG LOSS. MANY READERS SEND ME EMAILS TO GIVE THANKS AND/OR FOR ASKING ADVICES OR INFORMATION ABOUT THE AFTERLIFE, VERY RARELY SOME DON’T AGREE WITH MY POINTS OF VIEW ABOUT REINCARNATION AND THE MANY “LEVELS” OF THE AFTERLIFE.

I’M IN CONTACT WITH MANY SCHOLARS ALL OVER THE WORLD (FOR EX. VICTOR ZAMMIT, ANTHONY BRAGAGLIA, MIKE TYMN, MICHAEL PRESCOTT GARY SCHWARTZ,KEVIN WILLIAMS, BRUCE MOEN, ETC.) AND…LAST BUT NOT LEAST, YOU, ANGELA!

ALL OF THEM CAN REPUBLISH MY ARTICLES FOR THEIR WEBSITES AND VICE-VERSA, BECAUSE I HATE THE COPYRIGHT, AT LEAST IN THIS FIELD OF RESEARCH.

MY JOB IS AT DISPOSAL OF ALL THE WORLD FOR FREE AND I’D LIKE THAT EVERYONE WOULD DO THE SAME…

6. What can we do to be prepared at the moment of our own transition?

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FIRSTLY, BEAR IN MIND THAT THE CONDITIONS (ENVIRONMENT, LEVEL, PEOPLE WITH WHOM WE’LL SHARE THE SAME PLACE, ETC.) DEPEND A LOT ON OUR LIFE’S BEHAVIOR. “LAST MINUTE” REPENTING CAN’T SEND US TO THE HEAVEN INSTEAD OF TO THE HELL! WE’LL REAP WHAT WE’VE SOWED BUT I’M SURE THAT WE DON’T NEED TO BE HEROES TO GAIN A COMFORTABLE LEVEL OF EXISTENCE AFTER DEATH.

SPIRITS SAY THAT EVEN A SMILE, A WARM FEELING OF LOVE CAN BE ENOUGH TO BE SAVED. MORE WE SHOULD TRY TO “IMAGINE” OUR PLACE, PEOPLE WHO WOULD MEET AGAIN, ETC., VISUALIZING EVERY DETAIL OF OUR NEW “HOME.” IMAGINATION (NOT FANTASY) IS A POWERFUL TOOL TO BUILD OUR PERSONAL “FOCUS” AND WE MUST SHARE THIS PLACE WITH OUR LOVED ONES, INVITING THEM TO GO THERE AFTER TRANSITION. BE GENTLE WITH EVERYONE, ESPECIALLY THOSE WE DON’T LIKE, SOMETIMES OUR ENEMIES ARE OUR MASTERS!

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 7. What’s next for you? What projects or goals are you working on?

TO GO ON UNTIL THE LAST DAY OF MY LIFE, HOPING TO HAVE GIVEN HELP AND SOLACE TO MANY PEOPLE AS POSSIBLE!

Claudio thank you so much for honoring Powered by Intuition with this interview. –Angela

Have you ever experienced loss so deep it was as if you had lost a piece of yourself? How did you cope? Share your experience with us.

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Claudio Pisani, MD is a general practitioner who works for the Italian National Health System. He is also a writer, published author and publisher of content intended to help parents who are coping and healing from the loss of a child. Claudio covers topics such as spiritualism, mediumship, scientific studies on parapsychology and life after death on his website: THE  AMPUTATED PARENTS’ PAGE. He lives with his family in Lauria, Region Basilicata, South Italy.You can find out more about Claudio and his work by visiting his website or follow him on Twitter:
https://twitter.com/CLAUDIOPISANI

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Readers’ Stories of Encountering the Spirit of a Loved One

Readers’ Stories of Encountering the Spirit of a Loved One

Life after death evidence

Life after death

Today, I’m excited to share submissions from Powered by Intuition readers about encountering the spirit of a deceased loved one.

These stories illustrate what I believe: We’re all connected in spirit and naturally intuitive.  Each of these readers is a mediumistic in their own right. Communication with the spirit of a loved happens spontaneously and requires no preparation such as, the need to study psychic development or mediumship..

Their stories prove that the love that connects us to one another survives physical death and is all we need to receive a communication from the spirit world. Your loved ones want to let you know they are okay. They want to let you know they still love you and will always be with you. All you need to do is stay open to receiving their message.

These four personal encounters are great examples of the variety of ways your loved ones communicate their presence to you.

Seeing a spirit

When I was a young girl approximately 8 or 9 years old my favorite uncle passed away from a heart attack. I was devastated by his death, he was always the one who was there for my brother, sister and I. Our favorite ritual if you will, was heading down back to the lower part of our property to build a camp fire for roasting marshmallows and hot dogs. My uncle Bill would tell us stories, make us laugh and couldn’t get enough of those roasted marshmallows. Ha.
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On the morning of the funeral, we all went to say our goodbyes to a great man. Upon walking up to the casket and looking at my uncle, I knew he was no longer there. The only thing I saw was an empty body, I knew his spirit had moved on. The hardest part was knowing I would never see him again, not in this life anyway. I went home and cried myself to sleep that night.
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The following morning I awoke and sat up on the edge of the bed, when I looked up my uncle Bill was standing in the doorway looking down at me. There he was in his black pin stripe suit that he loved so well. I knew he came back to let me know that everything was alright and that his spirit would always be near.
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I wasn’t able to tell my parents about this experience because I knew in my heart they would never believe me. We were taught that there are no such things as spirits or ghosts and of course would have been punished had we ever spoke of such things. I pray that parents of today will be more open and receptive of things their children see and hear. I can tell you from personal experience that there is a spirit world and it isn’t something to be feared.
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–Susan Reese

Clairaudience – Hearing from the spirit world

A few years ago I was living in Florida and my aunt, who lived in Detroit area, was very ill and in the hospital.  I was very close to her and my sister called to say she was dying.  I immediately made a plane reservation to return to Detroit before she passed.

While on the plane I suddenly heard, “It’s all over now.”

Don’t know who said it to me but, it did not sound like her.  When I landed my sister said she died and gave me the time 8:50 p.m. which was the exact time I had received the message.

While babysitting for my grandchild and doing my nails I heard my aunt, whom had passed say, “Bow, what in the world is going on?”   I explained to her that she had passed and was now in the spirit world.  She didn’t reply but, did not return to visit me again.

–Clara Sifers

Smelling the presence of a spirit

My eldest son passed away 3 years ago.
It was my father`s 70th birthday recently.
We live 16,000 km apart on different continents & hemispheres.
They live in a mountainous area and don`t often have satellite reception.
I just sent a text message birthday wish.
Later that evening, in a specific area, I `smelled` my son’s scent.
A couple of days later it happened again.
I`m not sure, maybe it`s him making his presence known & acknowledging
this special time for his grandfather.

–Xanele Talbot

Spirit Visitation in a Dream

When my father died, I was very shocked, and there was one thing I was really sorry about. I felt I mistreated him in one way, on a specific occasion, and I really felt sorry for hurting him (emotionally).
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It was maybe about a year after he had passed, that I had this dream:
I was in a graveyard of some kind, or larger field, other ‘people’ helpers were there (maybe angels), and then a floor door (or a door on the ground) opened, and out came my father, he came up the steps. I was so happy to see him, we hugged and embraced, and I told him, that I was so sorry about what happened, and that I didn’t want to hurt him. He told me, that all is fine, and that he had no hard feelings, and he completely understood, and didn’t take it personally. That all is well.
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I was so relieved and so happy, and then we had to say goodbyes , and he had to go down those steps again and retreat under ground.
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I wasn’t sad seeing  him leave, it was all right.
I know he was fine and that all is well.
This very vivid dream helped me tremendously
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I really believe he came and visited me from the other side…
–Caroline Cameron
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I want to thank these wonderful Powered by Intuition readers for sharing their private stories with us. The more openly we share the more educated we all become on the topic of life after death and the survival of consciousness after physical death.
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Encounters with the spirit world are not scary or spooky or unnatural. It’s just love doing what love does….reaching out and saying, “I miss you, I love you, I’m okay – just wanted you to know.”
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When we die we leave our body behind but, not our intelligence nor ingenuity.
Do you see how these four spirits used different means of communicating with their loved ones? Have you ever encountered the spirit of a loved one? What happened. Share your story in the comments.
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