How to Use Your Intuition to Root Out Your Money Hang-ups
Has going from employee to entrepreneur been harder than you thought?
Are you finding it difficult to charge what you’re worth?
Are you surprised at not getting the results you expected?
If you answered yes to any of these questions you’re not alone in fact, you’re in good company. Most entrepreneurs suffer a shock to the system when they go from employee to entrepreneur. Self-employment brings up all the unresolved issues you have about your worth, deserving and ability to receive. And, if possible it’s best to get these hang ups cleared out before you go solo.
Be prepared to suffer “growing pains” throughout the life cycle of your business. The truth is that in order for your business to grow you must also grow and develop the ability to achieve at higher levels. This means not only acquiring new business skills but the mental and emotional capacity to confidently be seen and take action on a bigger stage.
So how do you know if you have money hang-ups? If the money isn’t flowing in your business even though you’ve implemented all the right business and marketing strategies then it’s highly likely that money hang-ups are the culprits causing you to self-sabotage.
Money hang ups are tell tale signs that your internal growth hasn’t kept up with the challenges of your external growth and ambition. If the money you desire from all your efforts isn’t flowing into your business the first place to look is your internal beliefs around your worth, deserving and ability to receive. It doesn’t matter how much strategy you have under your belt either. Money hang ups do not discriminate on the bases of knowledge.
5 Questions to Intuitively Root out Your Money Hang ups
Instructions Step 1: Go somewhere quiet where you won’t be disturbed, take a few relaxing breaths and answer the following questions:
1. Do you feel there’s a mismatch between your plentiful education, training, certifications and what you’re earning?
2. Do you feel you should be farther ahead by now?
3. Are you applying all the right business and marketing tactics but still not getting the results you expect?
4. No matter how much you accomplish do you always focus on how much is still left to do?
5. Do you feel more comfortable giving (compliments/gifts) rather than being the recipient?
Go deeper with your intuition
Step 2: Record only the Yeses. Review each YES and ask yourself “Why?” As you do see what thoughts, feelings or memories come to mind. Go with the first thoughts, memories and associated feelings that come up. These will likely be big clues as to what the root of the problem is. When you work with intuition often your first thought is correct.
Change your story
Step 3: Once you have an intuitive feel for where your money hang ups are and what they are telling you change the story. Rewrite it with a better ending – the one you wish had happened. Forgive yourself for any mistakes you might have made. Look back with fresh eyes or perhaps through adult eyes if the memory was from childhood and see the truth about yourself as you are now, not the child you once were. Tell yourself now that you know better you’ll do better next time. Release your old story and free yourself.
Be an advocate for yourself
Step 4: Get clear on what needs to change in order for you to succeed. Ask yourself what you’re tired of putting up with? Take a stand for yourself and your business and take action.
Do you lack business strategy and marketing skills? Hire a mentor to help you work on implementing those aspects of your business.
Could you do with some energy clearing to finally remove the money hang ups for good? Hire a mentor to help you eliminate the psychological obstacles blocking your path to your success.
Celebrate how far you’ve come!
Money hang ups aren’t the end of the world because they don’t have to be permanent. They’re red flags that point to what aspects of yourself still need work, compassion and TLC.
What did you discover about yourself? What aspects of yourself do you need to focus on in order to clear your money hang-ups?
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Beyond the edge of your comfort zone is where you will find your greatness!
Is there a goal you’ve been struggling to achieve or a life change you long to make?
Have you tried and tried and yet nothing seems to change?
Are you so frustrated that you’re ready to give up because nothing is working?
Wait! Don’t walk away from your dreams yet. I have good news for you.
Hitting the invisible wall
The reason nothing has changed or seems to to work is because you’ve hit an invisible wall. The invisible wall is the place you reach when you come to edge of your comfort zone. So, don’t feel bad or as if you weren’t meant to achieve your goal. What is happening to you is normal and natural. You just need a bit of guidance.
Deconstructing the wall
The invisible wall at the edge of your comfort zone is what stops you from taking the big steps you need to take to bring your greatest dreams into being. Everyone including me has a comfort zone.
Your comfort zone is the place where you achieve things easily. Goals feel scalable because you’ve done similar things and accomplished them easily. You whip up and finish projects without a second thought because the process is familiar to you.
But when you reach the edge of your comfort zone and go to do something completely new you freeze. The smooth reaction that would normally take you to the next step doesn’t come naturally like you expect it to. Instead you feel confused and overwhelmed, flooded with doubt, anxiety and fear. Does this sound familiar?
Every time you attempt to take the new step the fears of not knowing exactly what to do or how it will turn out stop you. You feel like a deer caught in the headlights and panic and retreat. The more you “try” the more firmly you embed the fear and anxiety of taking the next step.
Overtime this reaction contributes to making the wall even more impenetrable. Your fearful reaction and retreat become a self-defeating behavior that holds you back. You internalize the belief that you “can’t do it” and feel deflated as your confidence level decreases. The more you repeat this process the bigger the wall becomes until you have talked yourself into believing that this goal you dreamed about was never meant for you anyway and you give up.
The trap of Try, Fear, Retreat
If you don’t know how to break the cycle, Try, Fear, Repeat will become an endless loop in your life. This behavior will burn such a deep neural pathway into your brain that it will become an unconscious behavior pattern. When a set of reactions is this ingrained within us the pattern takes over with lightening speed before we can consciously think about doing anything differently.
Here’s an example: Can you recall a time, perhaps many, when you drove somewhere and then later realized you had no memory of actually doing the driving? You realize that you drove there on “auto-pilot.” This is exactly what happens to us when we repeat a certain set of behaviors over and over; they become an auto responsive pattern. The pattern is so deeply imbedded that it bypasses your conscious awareness.
In the case of trying to go past the edge of your comfort zone, each time you try and feel the old fears kicking in and retreat you reinforce this self-defeating pattern. And the worst part is that you end up feeling like a failure.
The good news!
Hitting this wall is normal and happens to most people. There is nothing wrong with you. There is a way to breakthrough the wall of your comfort zone. And success awaits you on the other side.
You can break the cycle of Try, Fear, Retreat with this 5 step system:
1. Write it out. List the exact steps you need to take. This is an important part of breaking through the wall of your comfort zone so don’t skip it. You need to create an outline so that you will be familiar with the next step and not freeze with fear. After you have the list chunk it down into daily actions so that it isn’t overwhelming to you. Read over your list and be completely familiar with it. If you want more information on this I wrote extensively about this process in, The Intuition Principle: How to Attract the Life You Dream Of.”
2. Deflate your fears. The best way to let all the air out of your fear is to ask yourself, “What’s the worst thing that could happen here?” followed by, “So how can I prepare so that this doesn’t happen?”
For example say you want to quit your job and pursue your writing but you’re scared to give up your steady salary. Ask yourself, “What’s the worst thing that could happen?” You respond with, “I’ll go broke, lose my house and end up homeless.”
Then ask yourself, “How can I prepare so that this doesn’t happen?” In response you say, “I’m going to save up the amount of money I’ll need to pay my mortgage for one year before I quit. I will give myself eight months to get my writing career started. If after eight months I don’t see things working out I will start looking for a job.” When fear paralyzes you go back to this step.
You get the picture. You’re answers will be different but the outcome will be the same. You will nip your fear in the bud before it can paralyze you into not taking action on your dream.
3. Visualize. Use your imagination to create a vivid 5 minute movie at least twice a day. I suggest once in the morning and before going to bed. See yourself living out your goal in every detail. What you’re doing is rehearsing and slowly erasing the negative pattern you previously embedded. Burn this positive outcome into your brain so that it creates a deep neural pathway and a new pattern of success!
4. Push yourself. Repeat this mantra, “I can and I am!” with conviction. Focus on one step on your outline and take action every day. No great thing was ever created without effort, overcoming fear and pushing through barriers. Just do it! Each time you take a step toward your goal you are taking a brick out of the wall at the edge of your comfort zone and you’re building your confidence.
5. Get support. It’s okay to ask for help. When you get support be it through a mentor, friend or with a coach you increase the likelihood of your success. Working with a someone who believes in you to achieve your goals will significantly increase your chances of attaining it over those who try to go it alone. (If you have a burning desire to get where you want to go contact me for a life purpose reading to discuss your vision.)
Are you stuck in the loop of try, fear, retreat? Would you benefit from support? Share with us in the comments.
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Introducing an exciting new course, “30 Days of Bold,” from Courage Coach, Tess Marshall.
Tess, for readers who don’t know you, please introduce yourself.
I currently work as a writer, speaker, and courage coach and have a master’s degree in counseling psychology. I love to inspire people to overcome their fears and live-out-loud. I blog at The Bold Life, for an amazing and growing community, that I love dearly. My work has allowed me to reach people all over the world.
My passion is to help others grow through their fears and take the action needed to create and live a meaningful and inspired life. I’ve written three books and created a brand new course, 30 Days to Bold.
Tell us more about 30 Days of Bold
30 Days to Bold is an interactive and live course that begins on Monday February 18th. It allows us to support and personally get to know each other. We overcome our fears and grow through our courage.
The course is designed to take one beyond excuses, procrastination, worries and doubts…from fear to freedom. You’ll gain the confidence to take bold action.
• Every Monday you will receive in your inbox a password that will give you access to the course on a private page at The Bold Life where you’ll find all the material, videos, ebooks and more.
• Access to a private live long Facebook page with myself and other bold people in the 30 Days of Bold community.
• A series of personal and heartfelt videos from my awesome and courageous friends. They share their own stories and expertise on how they have overcome fear and how you can too.
• A Series of Video Interviews with myself and other courageous experts.
• 4 LIVE group-coaching calls with me.
• My stories/guidance/wisdom gleaned from helping thousands of people through my work as a psychologist, life coach, and professional speaker.
• Weekly, worksheets, lessons, activities, encouragement and support.
• Over $100 in bonuses and other goodies from my fearless friends.
•Plus a copy of my Ecourse Take Your Fear and Shove it if you sign up before January 14th.
Why did you create it?
I understand what it is like to be paralyzed by fear. In the past, I made mistakes, I spent my time freaked out, playing small, denying and hiding from fear.
I sunk into depression and I hated my life. One day, when I couldn’t stand the pain, craziness or drama any longer… I reached out for help. I hired a therapist, attended a support group, found a mentor, hired a coach and put into practice what I learned.
Little by little, I turned my life around. I created a new story. The payoff of my post-fear life…I raised my family, I saved my marriage, became a successful therapist, a coach, an author, a professional speaker, a blogger, a writer…I achieved things I never would have thought possible.
It’s the culmination of everything I’ve learned. I’m still asked, “How do you do it?” 30 Days of Bold is my answer. You only need to apply it to your own situation. Not only does 30 Days of Bold offer the tools to move beyond fear, it offers a map to self-love, faith in oneself, risk-taking, to positively anticipate your future and achieve a deeper appreciation of life and everything in it. We often look up to brave, bold and successful people. It’s time to become one of them!
In the end, I’ve been blessed with very loving and brilliant mentors and teachers throughout my lifetime. It’s my turn to give.
Who is 30 Days to Bold for?
Anyone who is tired of false beliefs, facades and wants to live authentically.
Anyone needing practical tools and concrete tips on how to grab hold of their fears—with a sense of power, excitement and bold.
Anyone who is interested in joining a community of people who are not waiting for “someday” to change their lives.
Anyone who wants to overcome excuses, rejection and failure and move from victim to creator.
Anyone who wants to loosen the grip of doubt and tap into their inner resources.
Anyone who is sick and tired of paralyzing fear and is ready for greater and deeper success, love and happiness.
If you are ready to:
Get clear and commit to what you really want for yourself. Make fear work for you instead of against you. Go from imagining the worst to expecting the best. Unearth your innate strength and freedom. Find a sense of safety while living in a world of fear. Step beyond your limitations and experience your true self. Be confident. Live without apology, explanation or apprehension. Receive encouragement and friendship from a supportive community. Then this course is for you!
What are the benefits for those who enroll and participate in 30 Days of Bold? Is it life changing?
It is life-changing if you do the exercises, watch the videos, get involved in the community and apply what you learn.
Anais Nin said, “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
Once you change your life, there is no going back. You may fall back but you can’t stay back. It’s impossible.
When you learn how to walk through your fears you become unstoppable. 30 Days of Bold is an invaluable opportunity for you to increase your confidence, speak your truth and make the decisions that will improve your life and put you in harmony with your deepest desires.
The course will lead you out of the pitfalls of fear and insecurity and into the power of freedom an innate courage. Change your life and find freedom. Don’t delay. Join us today.
How did you become so bold?
I grew up on a produce farm with nine siblings. We were all very competitive for our parents love and attention. It was speak up or lose out. We also began working in the fields and at the Farmer’s Market as young children. At the market, we learned how to sell and turn our customers into friends! We became experts in sales by age 13! That’s a childhood of bold action.
How can we develop courage?
Be willing take action. Make a difference and use your talent and gifts to make the world a better place. Things will go wrong. So what? You’ll make mistakes. So what? You will be rejected. So what?
Keep going, ask for help, find support and be willing to do what it takes.
“I have gone ahead despite the pounding in the heart that says: turn back.” ~Erica Jong
30 Days of Bold offers you the safety and support of a loving community. You don’t have to go it alone.
What do you hope that people will take away after completing the course?
I want them to see that they are not alone and that there is nothing wrong with them. We all fail, we all make mistakes and we all have flaws. I want them to own their power and innate goodness. I want them to use their innate courage and have faith in themselves. I want to see them use their gifts, talents and to offer them to others along the path. When one of us succeeds, we all succeed in making the world a better place to live!
Where could you use a shot of “bold” in your life? What would you like to change and where do you feel stuck? Share with us.
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Tess Marshall is a Courage Coach and the creator of, The Bold Life. Her blog is a mix of inspiration, spirituality, and personal development. She will inspire you to follow your heart, unearth your bold, and create a meaning and love-filled life. She can help you be more courageous and step beyond your fears. She believes we’re here on planet earth to grow in kindness and love. In order to do so we need to let go of fear and take bold action. Check out her new bold course – 30 Days of Bold.