I can’t help but laugh as my beautician uses me as her guinea pig to try to make sense of her “writer” husband. She keeps talking without taking a breath, or allowing me to answer her question.
“What do you write about?” she asks combing my wet hair onto my forehead to trim my bangs.
“About learning to develop your intuition and to use it to-”
“To get the lottery numbers?” I see her light up over this as I watch her refection in the mirror.
“Well, not exactly, ” I say. “I write about how to use your intuition to solve problems and get guidance.”
“Oh, I’ve always wondered how all that worked,” she replied, but the gleam had gone out of her eyes when she realized I wouldn’t be sharing the secret to “getting the lottery numbers.”
After this we talk about her children, and other topics. I half listen as she continues talking, nodding appropriately when necessary. But, I keep asking myself, aside from it being a life-long passion, why am I so compelled to write about intuition?
On the way home in the car a thought pops into my mind:
*You teach best what you most need to learn
As I think about this, I realize it’s true. I do teach what I need to learn. My parents were Old World types and made most of my decisions for me. My father once quit a job for me – when I went in the next day I was surprised to learn I no longer worked there! Any decisions I was allowed to make for myself were constantly second-guessed, which undermined my confidence. This led me to stop trusting myself, particularly when it came to listening to my gut, or intuition. As time passed I learned to discount my intuition – to push it down where it was safely hidden. It was easier than trying to argue with my parents. This set me up in a life-long battle over making choices based on what others wanted me to do, versus following my instincts and passion.
I know now that I have to listen to my inner voice. When I look back over the biggest mistakes I’ve made they were all due to my making choices based on being practical, rather than on what I truly desired, or felt in my gut. For example, I’d chosen a career in finance rather than pursue writing, the subject I was truly interested in.
After this revelation I wondered if other bloggers felt compelled, as I did, to write about a topic because it was something they needed to learn as well? I decided to ask a few about this and here are their fascinating and generous responses:
Change Your Thoughts was born from an idea that my life experiences might benefit other people in some way. I was socially awkward, didn’t really believe I was that intelligent, suffered from major self doubts and was depressed. After waking up in hospital, after a failed suicide attempt at the age of 21 in 1990, I decided to change my life then and there. From that day forward I made changes, lots of them, one of them being my thoughts. As soon as I changed my thinking patterns my life started to turn around.
I was always interested in writing and wrote short stories across the net and in groups and was looking for something more. Then in 2006, after gaining lots more new experiences and a degree in Psychology, I discovered Steve Pavlina‘s blog, and thought he was amazing, and was doing exactly what I wanted to do. That was it, I had found an outlet and Change Your Thoughts was born in August 2006 with a view to writing for anyone who would listen about the power of one’s thoughts, and their ability to change lives.
Karen Ruby of A Meaningful Existence:
The Bold Life teaches to serve, to love and to connect with others by being our authentic selves and acting on our dreams. When I inspire readers, I’m inspired as well. When I encourage readers to step out of their comfort zone, I’m encouraged as well. There are moments I want to give up, give in to fear and throw in the towel. Instead I hold myself accountable by taking small penguin steps. I can’t ask you to be something or try something I am won’t. Blogging gives me the opportunity to release my own fears, as I encourage you to release yours. My courage and bravery become yours and your courage and bravery become mine. In the process we become stronger. We are one.
Alex Blackwell writes:
Prior to starting, The Zen Mama’s blog, my relationship with my three boys had changed. We’d gone from being able to talk about everything to my suddenly being shut out. I couldn’t sleep thinking about how everything was wrong! I was trying to let go of worry and get closer to my three boys again, and I knew the only way that would happen was if I changed. That’s when I started writing my Zen Mama ideas on paper as advice to myself that eventually turned into the book, How To Be A Zen Mama. My relationship with my boys changed once I embraced positive parenting. Two years ago none of the boys wanted to sit at the table with us – now all that’s changed. Zen Mama made us positive parents who wait to get angry. When you wait you usually realize that there’s nothing to get angry about.
With the blog, I wanted to share this knowledge others. I wanted to help other mothers let go, too. What I didn’t realize is that the blog would take on a life of its own. I had started out by writing about things I knew and had already experienced. Now I find that I’m writing about what I’m learning about. I’ve been exploring Buddhism over the last year, so I write about all sorts of Buddhist principles. I find myself following my own advice about positive parenting and I’m having great results with my children.
Marko V of Calm Growth:
Earlier in my life, I was always upset because of small things, and I was frustrated by the most common events. Then I discovered the basic techniques to achieve calmness of mind. I still think that calmness is the pillar for our growth and therefore in the name of my blog is the word “calm.” Soon after I started blogging, I discovered other techniques to improve productivity, communication and planning, and my whole life changed. Since then, the more I research about the principles of self-development – the more I grow. Whenever I’m interested in some principle, and I want to learn more, I explore and then write about it in my blog.
Manal Ghosain of One with Now:
One of the things I always desired in my life was to be at peace. My journey led me to realize that I cannot seek what’s within—I only need to uncover it. My writing is mostly inspired by what I’m trying to incorporate into my daily life to become more present and in harmony with life as it unfolds now. Sharing enforces the concepts I’m trying to learn and apply. I hope my readers find such ideas useful in becoming more aware and at peace in their everyday life.
After reading every one’s responses I realize I’m not the only one who is “teaching what they most need to learn.” I can already feel a difference within me in the eight months since I’ve been blogging. I’m much more in touch with my true feelings and desires. I never would have put my house up for sale, so that I could eventually live on earnings from my blog and readings had it not been for the focus that blogging about intuition gives me. It does seem that for many of us blogging is a healing activity of sorts – a way to grow past the ingrained patterns that have held us back in the past in order to reach our fullest potential.
What about you? Are you blogging/teaching what you most need to learn? How has it affected your life?
*You teach best what you most need to learn, is a quote from Richard Bach, the author famous for writing Jonathan Livingston Seagull.
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