Do You Teach What You Most Need to Learn?

Do You Teach What You Most Need to Learn?

“My husband talks to me about his writing all the time, especially when I’m trying to watch TV – it drives me crazy! You know he reads and takes notes? Do you do that to?”

I can’t help but laugh as my beautician uses me as her guinea pig to try to make sense of her “writer” husband. She keeps talking without taking a breath, or allowing me to answer her question.

“What do you write about?” she asks combing my wet hair onto my forehead to trim my bangs.

“About learning to develop your intuition and to use it to-”

“To get the lottery numbers?” I see her light up over this as I watch her refection in the mirror.

“Well, not exactly, ” I say. “I write about how to use your intuition to solve problems and get guidance.”

“Oh, I’ve always wondered how all that worked,” she replied, but the gleam had gone out of her eyes when she realized I wouldn’t be sharing the secret to “getting the lottery numbers.”

After this we talk about her children, and other topics. I half listen as she continues talking, nodding appropriately when necessary. But, I keep asking myself, aside from it being a life-long passion, why am I so compelled to write about intuition?

On the way home in the car a thought pops into my mind:

*You teach best what you most need to learn

As I think about this, I realize it’s true. I do teach what I need to learn. My parents were Old World types and made most of my decisions for me. My father once quit a job for me – when I went in the next day I was surprised to learn I no longer worked there! Any decisions I was allowed to make for myself were constantly second-guessed, which undermined my confidence. This led me to stop trusting myself, particularly when it came to listening to my gut, or intuition. As time passed I learned to discount my intuition – to push it down where it was safely hidden. It was easier than trying to argue with my parents. This set me up in a life-long battle over making choices based on what others wanted me to do, versus following my instincts and passion.

I know now that I have to listen to my inner voice. When I look back over the biggest mistakes I’ve made they were all due to my making choices based on being practical, rather than on what I truly desired, or felt in my gut. For example, I’d chosen a career in finance rather than pursue writing, the subject I was truly interested in.

After this revelation I wondered if other bloggers felt compelled, as I did, to write about a topic because it was something they needed to learn as well? I decided to ask a few about this and here are their fascinating and generous responses:

Steven Aitchison:

Change Your Thoughts was born from an idea that my life experiences might benefit other people in some way.  I was socially awkward, didn’t really believe I was that intelligent, suffered from major self doubts and was depressed.  After waking up in hospital, after a failed suicide attempt at the age of 21 in 1990, I decided to change my life then and there.  From that day forward I made changes, lots of them, one of them being my thoughts.  As soon as I changed my thinking patterns my life started to turn around.

I was always interested in writing and wrote short stories across the net and in groups and was looking for something more.  Then in 2006, after gaining lots more new experiences and a degree in Psychology, I discovered  Steve Pavlina‘s blog, and thought he was amazing, and was doing exactly what I wanted to do.  That was it, I had found an outlet and Change Your Thoughts was born in August 2006 with a view to writing for anyone who would listen about the power of one’s thoughts, and their ability to change lives.

Karen Ruby of A Meaningful Existence:

I would definitely say that there are issues in my life that I need help with and one way to help myself is to learn from a variety of sources, including books, other blogs, and people. When I come across something that has helped me in my own life, I owe it to share with others so that they don’t have to struggle like I did. I think that’s definitely part of why I started my site, A Meaningful Existence. My life is not perfect and while I have figured out some things that work for me, there are other issues that I struggle with, just like everyone struggles. I have struggled to give my life meaning and to feel like life is more than ‘just existing’. I think most people who are drawn to self-development are drawn because we can all use some help in our own lives. I don’t know anyone who thinks that their life is perfect and that couldn’t use personal development techniques in some area of their life. Of course, it’s a life-long learning process. Not everything I read about directly affects my life, but I try and share what I’ve learned so that others don’t have to struggle as much.

Tess Marshall:

The Bold Life teaches to serve, to love and to connect with others by being our authentic selves and acting on our dreams. When I inspire readers, I’m inspired as well. When I encourage readers to step out of their comfort zone, I’m encouraged as well. There are moments I want to give up, give in to fear and throw in the towel. Instead I hold myself accountable by taking small penguin steps. I can’t ask you to be something or try something I am won’t. Blogging gives me the opportunity to release my own fears, as I encourage you to release yours. My courage and bravery become yours and your courage and bravery become mine. In the process we become stronger. We are one.

Alex Blackwell writes:

The BridgeMaker is an honestly written blog that focuses on faith, inspiration and stories of personal change. These topics are important to me as I continue learning the past does not have to define my future. I believe to change or grow we must first acknowledge what needs to be healed.

As a child of an alcoholic parent, the biggest piece that needs healing is my sense of worth. When a parent chooses the bottle over a child, the wounds cut deep. My blog, however, allows me to explore what happened a long time ago and reframe it in positive ways. While I can’t undo the past, writing about these topics helps me see how far I have come as a parent, husband and person.

The BridgeMaker is my testament that real change can occur when we allow our faith to inspire us to discard feelings that no longer serve us and replace them with healthier ones.

Betsy Henry:

Prior to starting, The Zen Mama’s blog, my relationship with my three boys had changed. We’d gone from being able to talk about everything to my suddenly being shut out. I couldn’t sleep thinking about how everything was wrong! I was trying to let go of worry and get closer to my three boys again, and I knew the only way that would happen was if I changed. That’s when I started writing my Zen Mama ideas on paper as advice to myself that eventually turned into the book, How To Be A Zen Mama. My relationship with my boys changed once I embraced positive parenting. Two years ago none of the boys wanted to sit at the table with us – now all that’s changed.  Zen Mama made us positive parents who wait to get angry. When you wait you usually realize that there’s nothing to get angry about.

With the blog, I wanted to share this knowledge others. I wanted to help other mothers let go, too. What I didn’t realize is that the blog would take on a life of its own. I had started out by writing about things I knew and had already experienced.  Now I find that I’m writing about what I’m learning about. I’ve been exploring Buddhism over the last year, so I write about all sorts of Buddhist principles. I find myself following my own advice about positive parenting and I’m having great results with my children.

Marko V of Calm Growth:

Earlier in my life, I was always upset because of small things, and I was frustrated by the most common events. Then I discovered the basic techniques to achieve calmness of mind. I still think that calmness is the pillar for our growth and therefore in the name of my blog is the word “calm.” Soon after I started blogging, I discovered other techniques to improve productivity, communication and planning, and my whole life changed. Since then, the more I research about the principles of self-development – the more I grow. Whenever I’m interested in some principle, and I want to learn more, I explore and then write about it in my blog.

Manal Ghosain of One with Now:

One of the things I always desired in my life was to be at peace. My journey led me to realize that I cannot seek what’s within—I only need to uncover it. My writing is mostly inspired by what I’m trying to incorporate into my daily life to become more present and in harmony with life as it unfolds now. Sharing enforces the concepts I’m trying to learn and apply. I hope my readers find such ideas useful in becoming more aware and at peace in their everyday life.

After reading every one’s responses I realize I’m not the only one who is “teaching what they most need to learn.” I can already feel a difference within me in the eight months since I’ve been blogging. I’m much more in touch with my true feelings and desires. I never would have put my house up for sale, so that I could eventually live on earnings from my blog and readings had it not been for the focus that blogging about intuition gives me. It does seem that for many of us blogging is a healing activity of sorts – a way to grow past the ingrained patterns that have held us back in the past in order to reach our fullest potential.

What about you? Are you blogging/teaching what you most need to learn? How has it affected your life?

*You teach best what you most need to learn, is a quote from Richard Bach, the author famous for writing Jonathan Livingston Seagull.

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Learn to Listen To Your Intuition and Never Miss An Opportunity Again!

Learn to Listen To Your Intuition and Never Miss An Opportunity Again!

Synchronicity abounds when you follow your intuition

Some years back I read a book that made a huge impression on me. It was about a young woman who let her intuition lead her in every decision she made. (Unfortunately, I can’t remember the name of it or the author.) This  young woman followed her inner promptings which resulted in a series of serendipitous events; she went back to school, then moved out of state, met her perfect soul mate, and ended up working for the Edgar Cayce Foundation in Virginia Beach – her dream job. I remember thinking as I read, Why doesn’t my life flow like that?

Looking back now, I know exactly why my life never flowed like hers. This young woman let her gut guide her – I never did. I was too scared of making a mistake, instead I played it safe and dismissed the many urgent promptings of my intuition.

Physician heal thy self

A year ago I decided that I needed to start practicing what I preached. Here I was an intuitive easily able to dispense advice for others, but when it came to myself not able to trust my own intuition. I decided I would allow my intuition to lead in my decisions from that point forward. And, when I did start to base my decisions on my gut and not my rational mind – my life began to improve immediately.

At the time I was also miserable in my job. Soon after a great job appeared for me, and after checking in with my gut I jumped ship leaving the old place behind. As soon as I returned from new hire training business started heating up and my finances improved. And, all it took was giving that intuitive voice the respect it deserved.

Intuition is easy to overlook

Intuition is very subtle, which is exactly what makes it so easy to miss and overlook. It can come as a feeling in the gut – one that tells you that something is right or wrong, or it can come as a warning and a feeling of dread. Just as frequently, it’s quiet like a whisper, or the flitting of a butterfly that touches down ever so lightly in our consciousness before disappearing.

With intuition, until you start paying attention you may not be aware of these flashes. Although once you begin to notice them it’s a bit like buying a new car you start seeing that model everywhere. When you put yourself on alert to be aware of these stirrings the same thing happens; the frequency of your intuitive insights increase. After that once you begin using your intuition to make decisions, it takes no time at all to see serendipitous events begin to appear in your life.

The serendipitous events are proof positive that you’re hearing and following your intuition. When we receive this direct knowledge we’ve tapped into the source that keeps the planets in their orbit, and the earth spinning on its axis. This infinite intelligence doesn’t make mistakes. By plugging into it and using these intuitive insights our lives flow and all the details come together seamlessly.

Most people don’t recognize or trust their intuition

The biggest hurdles most people face in putting intuition to use are in recognizing the voice of intuition and differentiating it from their own thoughts, and trusting what they get. Intuitive thoughts stream through the mind more rapidly than our own thoughts. Not only that, but when they do appear they’re usually complete ideas. In many cases they feel as if they were downloaded whole into the brain. As far as trust goes, only jumping in with both feet and following hunches enough times to know that it’s real will build that trust.

Here are 5 easy tips to help you hone your intuition and put it to work for you:

1. Create the intention to begin noticing your intuition. Tell yourself that you want to become aware of your intuitive insights and that you will become aware of them.

2. Keep a small notebook with you at all times where you can jot down any thoughts that appear to have been downloaded whole into your mind without you generating them.

3. Give yourself many opportunities to practice. Before answering the phone ask yourself who it might be. When meeting with friends see if you get any impressions about what they will be wearing. For 25 tips to hone your intuition read this post.

4. Make it a habit to meditate every day. Meditation is the most powerful way to boost your intuition. If you don’t know how to meditate read my post.

5. When you’re faced with a decision close your eyes and clear your mind. Ask yourself what you should do – then stop thinking. See what comes to mind no matter how silly it might be. It could be an image, a word, or a thought. Examine this closely. It’s usually your answer.

Work on incorporating these tips into your life and I guarantee you’ll see a huge rise in your intuitive insights and the number of seemingly miraculous coincidences that occur in you life.

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