Do you struggle when it comes to making hard decisions in your life?
Bill Gates once said, “Often you must rely on intuition.” I can understand why Gates said this. If you’re trying to make a hard decision too much information can paralyze your ability to make it. When there’s a mountain of never-ending data pouring in that can change quickly using your intuition to make the final call makes perfect sense. At some point you have to decide “to decide” and stop asking for more and more information, stop analyzing and stop reviewing the bottom line. You’ve got to pull the trigger and say, “Go!” And that’s exactly what a good decision-maker will do.
The elegance of intuition
Intuition is like a shortcut through the mountain so you don’t have to go all the way around it. And this is the elegance of intuition. By definition it’s defined as a grasping of the whole at once. When you have reached the point where more data and analysis confuses you that is the time to tap into your intuition and let it “sift” through all that data and spit out the answer. Often you already “know” what the right thing to do is but you ignore it and keep looking for more validation via information instead.
Becoming a great decision maker
A great decision maker will use reason and logic to consider all the information plus their sense of “inner knowing.” When their “inner knowing” concurs the decision will be made. An insecure decision maker will keep asking for more information because they never get that concurring sense of “inner knowing” or if they do, they don’t trust it. Their drive for more information and certainty will cause them to put off the decision and miss opportunities.
Greatness is having that inner knowing, trusting it, making a decision based upon it and then taking action on it without hesitating. This doesn’t mean that a great decision maker will never fail at one time or another but in general making decisions and taking action more often ensures you will make greater strides in your life toward achieving your goals. The ability to make decisions despite uncertainty is what separates the good from the great.
Stop chasing certainty
Nothing in life is 100 percent certain. Life is risky and anything can go wrong. The more comfortable you become with taking risks despite the uncertainty you feel the greater strides you’ll make and the more successful you’ll be. And the more you learn to tap into your intuition the better decision maker you’ll become.
“Intuition becomes increasingly valuable in the new information society precisely because there is so much data.” —John Naisbitt
Intuition is a sense that’s available to us, in addition to the five physical senses we normally use to navigate our lives. We can pump-up our intuition and learn to rely on it more if we choose to. We can listen to our heart, follow our excitement, heed our gut and be pulled by our passion. It just takes an intention to do so, focus and consistent practice; consistent practice being the key point. You can’t try to tune into your intuition one time and think, “It didn’t work for me,” just like you can’t lift a weight once at the gym and say that didn’t work to make you a buff god or goddess either.
The pesky little problem with intuition and decision making…
That said, there’s a problem I see with attuning to your intuition. The problem is that intuition is based on “feelings and trust.” Intuition calls for tuning into feelings of “inner knowing,” or “certainty.” Most people are so distracted that they have difficulty tuning into their “feelings” let alone trusting them! This is a definite problem when it comes to intuitive decision making.
And I know this because the top question I’ve received from readers over the seven years since I started Powered by Intuition has been, “How can I trust my intuition and know it’s not just wishful thinking?” Sometimes it’s pretty tricky to know the difference and you will make a wrong decision because of it. If you can discipline yourself to “go within” on a daily basis you can overcome the distractions and tune into your feelings more directly but the problem of feeling uncertain and not feeling confident enough to trust your intuition may still derail you. And then, there’s the lingering problem of attachment to the outcome. Many times the inaccuracy with your intuition comes from your attachment to the outcome. When you’re fixated on a particular outcome you can easily be misled.
Detachment is key
Intuition is much more accurate when you’re detached from the results. But that leads us to the next problem which is how to be detached from the results of your decisions? It’s much easier said than done especially when there’s a lot riding on the decision. If your decision is a life or death decision or can bankrupt you if you choose incorrectly you’re going to have a difficult time staying detached.
How to reconcile the dilemma of intuition and uncertainty in decision-making
The way to reconcile this dilemma is to verify your intuitive feelings, instincts and hunches with a process that ensures detachment from the outcome and validates the correct decision.
3 Step Verification Process to be certain your decisions are correct:
- Research the data about the problem you want to solve and review it. Do the research and analyze it and come to a decision. If you’re having trouble feeling certain about your decision choose the best logical option and move forward. The longer you delay making a decision the more chance you have of being “late to the party” and missing the window of opportunity. You’ve got to build your decision making muscle!
- Formulate your conclusion. Next, hand it off to your intuition to see if you get the “go” signal. You may feel the matter is “settled” or a have a calm certainty about it. If you still feel unsure and have the urge to ask other people for their opinion or constantly change your mind and vacillate between one decision or another the next step is a must for you.
- The last step is to use an intuitive verification process. The entire problem of not feeling sure of your intuitive feelings or whether you’re making the decision based on wishful thinking can be overcome with this process because the process itself ensures objectivity and detachment.
What is Intuitive Verification™?
Intuitive Verification™ is a process using the language of archetypes and symbolism to verify or disqualify the decision you’ve chosen before taking action upon it.
There is no better way to feel certain about a decision than to use the intuitive verification process because “seeing is believing.” This process works for any decision but it’s particularly well suited to major life decisions where there is a lot at stake. It’s best used for thoughtful decisions that are being made for the long term so, for this reason it’s a natural fit for entrepreneurs, business-owners and executives who need answers.
I’ve been using this process and it works extremely well to give you concrete answers that you can rely upon without second guessing yourself. With the practice of Intuitive Verification™ you’ll become more intuitive and a better decision-maker and it will also enhance your creativity and problem-solving skills.
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The new year has arrived with all the promise of a new day. This is your chance to start over and avoid the pitfalls that thwarted you last year because now you’ve learned from your mistakes. Congratulations.
Greater success with greater ease is what you want, right? When you set goals, especially in the beginning of the new year you want feel confident that you’ll achieve them. And, you want to arrive at your goal without hitting a lot of roadblocks that might cause you to have to undo or redo much of the work you’ve put in as well.
Imagine how much easier the previous year would have been if you could have avoided those costly mistakes that set you back in the first place. That’s even better. And imagine that there is a way to do this and it is something right at your fingertips that can learn to do.
How to avoid costly mistakes in the first place
Avoiding costly mistakes is achievable. And it’s something that some of the most successful people of our time, such as Albert Einstein and Bill Gates have been able to do naturally. It involves applying your intuition to finding the right solutions and making the correct choices in the first place, and course correcting as you go to be sure you stay on the right track.
Intuition is knowledge that comes to you all at once, is complete and doesn’t require ‘reasoning’ to arrive at. Reasoning is where you have a sequence of linear thoughts (one thought leads to the next and then the next) about a problem in order to arrive at a conclusive solution. Intuitive knowledge is receiving the “solution” all at once, minus the process of reasoning to get there.
Intuition is the Elegant Solution
Intuition is a shortcut that accelerates your success and helps you avoid costly mistakes. It’s the elegant way of gaining an “unfair advantage” to achieving your goals with more joy and less struggle. Although, there’s really nothing unfair about it since intuition is accessible to everyone. It’s just that many people distrust their intuition and talk themselves out of their “hunches” before giving them a chance.
Pledge to start relying on your intuition in the new year
Decide today that you will consult your intuition before making a decision instead of ignoring it and then possibly regretting your decision later. This is what the most successful people do. They check in with their gut before making a move and if something feels out of sorts they don’t move forward with that choice. I’m sure you can recall an instance where you disregarded that “little voice” and then later when things didn’t turn out well you said, “I knew I should have listened to my intuition!”
Now that you know better vow to do better and listen to your intuition in the new year. Use these three simple steps to accelerate your success with ease!
3 Steps to Accelerate Your Success With Intuition:
- Set your intention. Decide that you will check in with your intuition before making any big decisions regarding achieving your goals.
- Journal. Use a journal to document the decisions you’re grappling with and the answers that come to you intuitively. Leave some space to come back and add additional information.
- Record the outcome. As each of your decisions unfolds be sure to go back and write down exactly how things turned out.
When you do this you will be creating a powerful new habit of using your intuition and enhancing your intuition so that you become even more accurate with it. Best wishes for your continued success in the new year!
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“How do I know if I’m using real power or force? I read your articles about how to raise your vibration and I want to raise mine but sometimes I’m not sure if really wanting something and pushing for it is okay or not? Is that force?”
This question comes from, S.J. a Powered by Intuition community member in Oregon. (Subscribe to submit your question).
This is a really great question S.J., thanks for submitting it.
Power vs. Force
The easiest way to know the difference between real power and force is to look at your life and notice where you’re frustrated. Wherever you experience frustration is where you’re likely to try to “force things.”
When we’re frustrated it’s normally due to our expectations not being met. We expect something to take place in the way we’ve imagined it would and when it doesn’t we feel frustrated. Frustration usually results in us trying to “make it happen” anyway. In some cases frustration results in violence. That’s a very obvious sign of using force.
If the frustration is due to something within your control then by all means try to correct the situation; that’s not “pushing” its persevering. If it’s out of your control you need to “let go” and let things work themselves out. If you keep trying to “push” and make it happen despite it being out of your control then you’re using “force.”
Real or “true” power never stems from forcing others to do things. Actually, its quite the opposite. When you’re using true power you are empowered with a magnetic presence that pulls people toward you because you’re aligned with the highest good of all concerned. “True power” is an innate quality to the most charismatic and successful people. Just think of how we gravitate toward babies, puppies and kittens. In their innocence they exude the power of pure goodness and we are irresistibly drawn toward them because of it.
When we use force things don’t flow and have a way of backfiring on us later. When we are using “true power” we will attract people, situations, solutions and support as needed to accomplish our goals. Using true power puts us in the “flow” of life rather than in opposition to it.
Any time we are in opposition to something we create a “see-saw” effect because it pits us against something. For example, for one person to be “right” another person has to be “wrong.” So we are always on the see-saw, either up or down but in any case, going nowhere and stuck in this counterproductive repetitious pattern.
Deal with Challenges
This is not say that you will never have challenges when you are using true power. Nor does it mean you sit back and do nothing. You must still take action even when you face challenges but make sure it’s the right kind of action.
You will know what the right action is when you’re using true power because you won’t be stuck on only one solution. You will be able to disengage from the narrow viewpoint of what is frustrating you and let go. This stepping back and releasing the fixation on what’s not working allows for other solutions to come to you via your intuition. And, when you allow this to happen you are using “true power” and the solution is “intuitively inspired.”
This happens because true power comes from higher intelligence, or what some people call “Source,” life energy or God. When we insist on using sheer force we are relying on our “small selves” and the limited information stored in the brain. Force cuts us off from the elegant solutions that Source can provide us.
Listen to Your Intuition
We are always connected to this source of higher intelligence but in our frustration we feel cut off and separate. When we allow ourselves to step back from the problem and open up to this source of higher intelligence we will receive answers via our intuition that are far better than anything we were stubbornly fixated on before. This is because we are receiving answers from the intelligence that created us and everything in the universe.
Our limited brain is no match for higher intelligence. We are using true power when we are in alignment with higher intelligence and do what is good for all concerned. To do this we need to step back from insisting that things be one way, or our way and reset our attitude in the situation to “neutral.” When we are neutral the answers will come to us via our intuition. To know if you are using true power check if you feel calm, secure in the belief that the right answers will appear and that everything is working out for your highest good.
Get in The Flow
When we are aligned with true power we don’t feel compelled to force people to do things or to make things happen. We take action and move toward our goal and receive answers and intuitive guidance along the way so that we can make course corrections if necessary. Then we are in flow and using true power.
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“Raising your vibration” and keeping it high is important. The more aware you become of your thoughts and feelings the more rapidly you will be able to move out negative reaction patterns into the calm center of the higher states of being.
Everyone gets upset over things but the secret to maintaining a high vibration is to manage our reactions to the things that happen to us. It’s not the things that happen that cause our turbulent emotions it’s the meaning we assign to the events.
When we stop blaming things outside of ourselves, accept things as they are and decide to be happy anyway, things begin to get better in our lives.
Emitting a vibration that sits squarely in the positive range of higher emotions such as love, acceptance, inclusiveness, forgiveness, joy and willingness reduces struggle and strife and fosters happiness, fulfillment and harmony. It’s easy to tell when someone is living in the lower emotions because they resonate to fear, scarcity and negativity. They exhibit anger, resentment and judgement toward others while people who are predominantly in the higher emotions have an uplifting unifying effect on the people around them.
We need people to be clear channels for higher energies now more than ever. And each of us can help elevate the the collective vibration of mankind if we raise our individual vibration.
There are books that will help you raise your vibration. Reading them facilitates a shift in consciousness that allows you to rise into the higher quadrant of emotions.
Here are 7 book recommendations for you to raise your vibration:
A Practical Guide to Vibrational Medicine by Richard Gerber, MD. The human body is an energy field affected by our emotions and thoughts. Dr. Gerber shares cutting edge vibrational modalities for maintaining our health.
A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson. Marianne Williamson’s reflections on love from A Course in Miracles open your heart and lift you into the vibration of love.
The Breakthrough Experience by Dr. John F Demartini. Your vibration will remain mired in the lower realms of emotions unless your release the old resentments and and attachments to blaming others. Demartini has a “breakthrough” method to help set your free from your past.
Letting Go by David R. Hawkins, Ph.D. When we surrender to what is we are released from perpetually fighting against what has already occurred. Acceptance is the key to living a life of inner peace and joy in the present moment.
Power vs. Force by David R. Hawkins, Ph.D. Hawkins life work to calibrate and catalog each of the human emotions unique vibration is the subject of this ground breaking book. If you want to raise your vibration don’t skip this work.
The Seat of the Soul by Gary Zukav. Zukav show us how living a life of meaning and purpose transforms the everyday experience into a sacred journey toward spiritual awakening. Not to be missed!
The Intuition Principle by Angela Artemis. The key to joy and fulfillment is finding your right purpose and path in life. A natural consequence of living your purpose is a high vibration.
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Do you ever feel uncertain and indecisive?
Take this short quiz:
Do any of these statements ring true for you?
1. Do you feel unsure when you have to make a decision?
2. Do you look to what other people are doing to help you make your decision?
3. Do you often feel unclear about whether you can trust your own instincts or inner guidance?
4. Do you procrastinate because you can’t come to a decision?
5. Do you frequently ask many people their opinions before you feel confident making your decision?
6. Do you believe you’re just not good at making decisions?
If 3 or more of these statements rang true for you than experiencing uncertainty around making decisions is something you need to address.
How to Overcome Uncertainty and Indecisiveness
Uncertainty around making decisions is really a fear of making a mistake.
This probably stems from a decision you made that was wrong that had tremendous consequences on your life. You might also have been scolded, punished or shamed because of a decision you made.Think back over your life, did an authority figure ever make you feel bad about a decision? Did something happen at school or with a sibling where you were made fun of? Was there a defining moment in your life when a big decision you made went horribly wrong? Any of these reasons could have left you with a deep wound and fear around making the wrong decision.
One of the worst effects of being so deeply wounded around your decision-making ability is the lack of self-trust that the incident instills. It’s this lack of self-trust and the resulting questioning of your instincts that leads many creatives, intuitives, sensitives, and heart-centered entrepreneurs on a journey of discovering how to turn up the volume of their intuition. We want reliable guidance to be sure we make the right decisions and to avoid problems in our lives and so, we embark on a journey to develop our intuition. And we all have a sense of intuition primarily for one reason – to keep us safe and help us navigate our lives.
When something traumatic happens in our lives that disconnects us from trusting ourselves and this voice within, our whole life suffers. Losing trust in our judgement makes us feel completely insecure and vulnerable. We lack the confidence to take action and our life stagnates. When we have the inner confidence to make quick accurate decisions we are more apt to take action. When we take action and things turn out well we develop a greater sense of confidence ourselves and in our intuition.
This is the secret of how to conquer uncertainty, doubt and fear around making decisions. The answer is to focus on developing your intuition. When you’re able to hear your intuition loud and clear you’ll finally kick that uncertainly to the curb for good. After you begin making good decision by following your intuition a number of times your self-confidence will improve tremendously. When you’re confident you’re uncertainty will disappear.
Follow these 5 Steps to turn up the volume of your intuition and conquer your uncertainty for good.
- Make time for quiet reflection each day. Go within, get quiet and listen to learn how to discern your intuition from your other thoughts.
- Go for a walk in nature. Listen to the natural sounds rather than music. Allow Nature’s soothing sounds to quiet your mind. A quiet mind allows your intuition to stand out so you can hear it.
- Write out your concerns in a journal. What’s troubling you about the decision you’re grappling with? What’s your desired outcome? Many time when we relax and get into the flow of writing the right answer comes to us.
- Ask your higher self to bring you the answer to “What can I do to ensure that this turns out positively for me and all concerned?” Let go and allow ideas to bubble up naturally during the course of the day. Be sure to write down any that inspire you.
- Write out your question on a note pad before going to sleep. Ask your higher self to work on this problem and bring you an answer in a dream. Be sure you write down any dreams you so you don’t forget them. Memories of dreams are notorious for slipping away very fast! Analyze it and you’ll see that the dream will contain the answer you’re looking for.
Once you learn how to listen and follow your intuition your uncertainty around trusting yourself to make decision will become a thing of the past.
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Want to reach the heights of success you’ve only dreamed of?
Make the decision to work with a mentor and watch what happens. I call this process “splitting the atom” of your potential. By saying “Yes” to a new opportunity you split the atom of your potential and release an enormous untapped power trapped inside of you. This power moves mountains and can reshape the topography of your life. Every human being possess this pure potential but sadly few utilize it. Instead it sits there until time goes by and one day it’s too late.
There isn’t a problem in your life that someone else hasn’t already been through
So many earnest and hardworking soulful practitioners think that if they just keep “soldiering through” whatever business challenge they’re facing that eventually they’ll overcome it. The problem with this way of thinking is if they do solve the problem at all it will take a very, very long time but it’s more likely they won’t solve the problem because they approach it with the same thinking that created it in the first place.
And that’s just sad.
The way to overcome your business challenge, or any problem for that matter, is to “split the atom” on your own potential and learn from a mentor. A mentor is someone who has successfully navigated through the same problem. Working with one releases your untapped potential.
My stubborn refusal to work with a mentor dragged down my business success for years. I thought I could do it on my own but I was wrong.
When I discovered the mentorship model my first thoughts where, “How simple! How elegant! Why did I waste so many years before I took this route?” Now I wouldn’t even consider not working with a mentor an option.
Take Intuitively Inspired Action
When you are offered a solution to a problem by a mentor who has successfully overcome what you are facing – grab it the moment feel the pull toward it. You must not think of it as spending money but investing money in yourself. This is an intuitively inspired moment where you are being given an opportunity to walk through a door to an alternate reality where your unleashed potential and success awaits you. Don’t let your thinking hold you back.
Allow yourself to act upon this inspiration because the door to this alternate reality remains open for just a few seconds. If you don’t go through it the door slams shut. When you slam the door shut on splitting the atom of your potential what’s really happening is that your fear is pulling you back to your cozy comfort zone where you feel “safe” and can continue playing small.
Don’t shortchange your success
A few ways that soulful entrepreneurs shortchange themselves is by thinking….
1. “I’ll go for the mentoring I need after I make the money in my business.” This is a huge illusion. If what you are doing now isn’t making you the money, where will this money come from or how many years are you willing to struggle and put off your success until you have it?
2. “I’ve tried other training programs and they don’t work for me.” Proper marketing and sales training work. People are making a good living using these methods. How can they not work for you? The only reason they wouldn’t is if you didn’t fully implement the training.
3. “I’ll just watch what this successful person does.” This is a big way to shortchange your success. You’ll never see all of what you need to learn from copying what successful entrepreneurs are doing whether it’s their emails or products and systems, etc. You’ll only meet with mediocre success and work way to hard for it by doing it this way.
4. “I’ll research it on online and get it all for free.” This is a scatter shot approach that will shortchange you in the end too. You will definitely be able to find most of the information online for free. The problem is that you’re likely to gather this information from a large assortment of successful mentors. What you’ll end up with is a collection of pieced together tactics rather than a seamless business system. And this too will having you working way to hard and take longer than working directly with a mentor.
5. “I’ll go for one off coaching instead.” You’ll never master a complete business system by going for on again off again coaching. Thinking you will just “pick the brain” of someone never works. You’re missing too many pieces because you don’t even know what you don’t know – so you don’t ask the right questions. This will slow your success way down too.
Do yourself a favor and stop shortchanging yourself. Jump in with both feet when you feel that pull toward an opportunity to work with a mentor. You will make back your investment in your training at lightening speed when you say “Yes” to yourself. So split the Atom on your potential and unleash your power and success by working with a mentor.
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