3 Ways Fear Keeps You From Succeeding in Life, Career & Sales

3 Ways Fear Keeps You From Succeeding in Life, Career & Sales

Face your fears and do it anyway

3 Ways Fear Keeps You From Succeeding in Life, Career & Sales

Have you ever been frozen in your tracks by fear? Or woken up in the middle of the night because of fear?

Fear keeps you from succeeding in whatever goals you have in life, business, career and in selling your products and services especially if you’re a heart-centered. It stops you cold from living up to your potential and keeps you playing small. And guess what happens next? You’re stuck spinning in the fear not moving toward your goal and losing valuable time in your life.

3 Ways Fear Stops You From Succeeding

1.The trap of fearful thoughts

You know you’ve been hit by a wave of fear when your internal dialogue sounds something like this: “I’m going to fail; I can’t do it; I’m not an expert, I’m not good enough; I’m not perfect enough; I’m a fraud; No one will buy from me; There’s never enough!” Thoughts like these replay in a loop and hold you hostage from taking the right actions to get where you want to go, instead you play small and hide.

2. Negative emotions impair your thinking

Negative Emotions such as fear and anger, angst, anxiety, fright, horror, terror and panic keep you locked in the vortex. The emotions turn on the body’s fight or flight response which is a reaction by the nervous system to threats to survival. These threats can be real or imagined, it doesn’t matter. The fight or flight response releases hormones to prime the body to either run or fight off the threat. Once your body is flooded by stress hormones your thinking is temporarily impaired.

If the stress let’s up in a short period, having impaired higher functions of reason and logical thinking isn’t a major problem. But when negative emotions become a chronic state of being then it becomes a huge problem. If you can’t think or reason properly you’re not going to make rational effective decisions. And without right decisions you won’t take the right action steps so you’re likely to make the situation worse.

3. Painful memories from your past 

Old memories of events that triggered similar negative emotions and thoughts are likely to bubble up during fearful times. Remembering times you were scared and afraid you were going to fail only pushes you down further into the vortex. The memories put your habitual negative thoughts and emotions on hyper-drive and the vicious cycle continues.

Top fears 

The most common fears people have are public speaking, sales and speaking up. If you have fear around speaking in front of groups for your job or selling products and services for either your employer or your own company, it will affect your success rate. The fear of speaking up will hold you back from asking for a raise or charging what you’re worth for your own services as well.

Example: Say your top is fear selling. You pick up the phone to call a prospect aware that you’re feeling anxious. The moment you’re aware of feeling anxious your body has already sent a cocktail of stress hormones into your blood stream. The stress hormones impair your higher functions of thinking and communicating, which is why things go south in the sales conversation very quickly!

When you’re afraid you will hear your own thoughts over what the person is saying. When that happens you’re not fully present because you’re focused on what to say next, not on the person you’re in a conversation with. The person senses you’re not really listening and then you sense the disconnect with the prospect. Then you start thinking, “This isn’t going well. I’m not going to be able to do this.” or “Ugh, I hate sales! Why am I doing this?”  And then the call crashes and burns which only serves to make you feel worse about yourself and imprint the fear and aversion to selling even more deeply.

You’ve got to learn how to shrink the fear so it stops hijacking your success!

How to stop fear from sabotaging your success in life, career and sales

To beat fear you need to have the tools to deal with it when it strikes. You must create a habit around using these tools to systematically stop the fear from stopping you in your tracks. Try using some of these tool to put fear in its place and reach your potential.

  1. Breathe. When you feel the fear set in take a moment to focus on your breathing. Taking in 3 – 5 breaths slowly, holding them in for few seconds and releasing them slowly will calm you down.
  2. Meditate. Learn how to meditate and make a daily practice of doing it. You need to know how to go into a calm state before the fear hits. It’s much harder to meditate when you’re already deeply engulfed in a state of fear and anxiety.
  3. Journal. Get in touch with your intuitive self and ask for advice. Answer an open ended question such as: What is the first step I can take to handle this situation? You’ll be surprised at how much wisdom pours out of you onto the page.

What’s your favorite tool for handling fear? If you don’t have one which of these tools will you use to deal with fear? Share with us in the comments.

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Why You’re Not Living Your Purpose and Fulfilling Your Potential

Why You’re Not Living Your Purpose and Fulfilling Your Potential

Why aren't you living up to your full potential

So, why aren’t you living your purpose and fulfilling your potential?

We might even question why we are stuck in jobs we hate and work with people with whom we can’t relate, when some people seem to find something they love to do and appear to love their lives. The answer is that we are either afraid to listen to our intuition and take that leap of faith, or we truly haven’t heard our intuition our whole lives. p. 11 The Intuition Principle

Answering the intuitive call

If you feel that you’re not living your purpose, fulfilling your potential and that there has to be more to life, then your Intuition is trying to get your attention. You’re feeling this because it’s your Truth. You’ve got to tune into that unique thing in you that wants to be expressed. And if it continues to elude you find out what’s blocking it from surfacing.

Fear is the reason why most people don’t live their purpose and fulfill their potential. Fear keeps them stuck in their comfort zone. It’s also the reason behind the lack of clarity about their purpose.

When someone says to me, “I don’t know my purpose and I don’t feel drawn to anything.”

The very next question I ask them is this, “What would you be doing if money were not a concern?”

Of course asking this hypothetical question opens the flood gate of desire within them and out comes the purpose they’ve suppressed for years!

Why? Because, the fear of going past the edge of their comfort zone produced so much anxiety that it was much easier to suppress their desire and intuition and think they “didn’t know their purpose.” If you don’t know your purpose there’s no way you can actualize it, right?

Your purpose isn’t hiding from you

Ask yourself what you would be doing if money were no object and you’ll see you do have desires. It’s just that all the fearful voices about living it drown out your intuition. When you have that dream well up inside of you and feel excited that’s an intuitive pull toward living your purpose. Living your purpose means changing your life in some way, and for most people that’s really scary. Your fears about change are what keep you stuck not living your purpose.

Fear is a powerful emotion

You’ve got to be clear on which fears are stopping you. Once you locate the exact fear you can breakthrough it and deflate it. If you don’t consciously deal with your fears you allow them to dictate your reactions, behavior and life in general. And that’s how people get stuck not living their purpose and fulfilling their potential.

How to overcome fear in three steps

  1. Identify your specific fear(s) by asking yourself, “What am I afraid of?”
  2. Deflate them using logic.
  3. Keep doing this on every fear that comes up until no more come up.

Here are three examples:

Fear – You’re going to fail.

All people who set out to do something fail at some point. Thomas Edison said, “I have not failed. I just found 10000 ways that don’t work.” Sure you might fail but so what? Isn’t it better to strive toward actualizing your purpose than to sit around cowering in fear and do nothing? Plus, you don’t know what wonderful things may befall you because you got out there and tried. Sitting home in fear isn’t going to bring new people and experiences into your life is it?

Fear – You’re too old.

If you can read you’re not too old to learn about a subject that interests you. If you have the desire you can go back to school or take courses to learn what you need to. Most people who say this are really thinking about how long it will take and how old they’ll be when they’ve fully integrated this “purpose” into their lives. But the truth is however old you are now you will eventually be XX years old anyway. So isn’t it better to use the next couple years getting to where you want to be?

Fear – You won’t make any/enough money.

This is a common fear that stops a lot of people. Who says you have to quit your job? Pursue your purpose on the side. Do it for the sake of feeling fulfilled and satisfied. If you later feel that there is a path toward making your purpose your full time gig go for it. There are no rules when it comes to living your life purpose. Doing what you love on the side doesn’t make it any less of a life purpose.

Stop putting so much pressure on yourself

I want to clear up a notion about life purpose….many people think their purpose has to be grandiose in order to “qualify” as a life purpose but that’s not true. And that may be the reason some people go in circles for years searching for their purpose.

Your life purpose satisfies something in you.

It’s the thing that lights you up and you cannot help but be drawn to doing it. It doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with any specific job, making money, fame or being viewed as successful.

Your life purpose is a unique expression of you

Perhaps you are a fabulous host or hostess and your dinner parties are legendary. You’re a born nurturer and love bringing people together over a home cooked meal at your home. That’s a purpose because it’s satisfying something in you and that’s why you do it.

To actualize your purpose and fulfill your potential you have to overcome the fears that stop you first. Once you’re free of the fear that suppresses your purpose it will come to light and you will start living it and living up to your potential.

What fears are holding you back? Will you apply logic to deflate them? Share with us in the comments.

P.S. This article came about in response to the many emails I received from PBI subscribers who asked why they weren’t living their purpose and fulfilling their potential after reading my previous article. If you’d like to ask me questions directly subscribe here.

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7 Steps to Triumph Over Sabotaging Beliefs

7 Steps to Triumph Over Sabotaging Beliefs

Triumph over sabotaging beliefs

Are there some goals you just can’t achieve no matter how hard you try?

Or if you do achieve them it doesn’t last or something happens and it all falls apart? If you said yes then it’s time to use your intuition to uncover your sabotaging beliefs.

Most goals fall under these common categories: Career, Finance, Health & Wellness, Relationships.

What’s most frustrating is when you are able to create success in a few of these areas but not all.

For example you might excel in the areas of Career, Finance and Health but not at experiencing the joy of happy, deep, meaningful relationships. Or perhaps you have wonderful loving supportive relationships and enjoy perfect health and fitness but you can’t for the life of you seem to create lasting financial prosperity. It may be that you have great relationships, financial success and great health but not a career you love….it’s just a paycheck albeit, a healthy sized one. In another example it may be you experience success in all areas except for your health; perhaps you just can’t lose the weight no matter how hard you try?

Does this sound familiar?

These are not an uncommon patterns. When we are not experiencing joy and fulfillment in one area of our lives this is big blaring SIGN that we need to pay closer attention to it. It’s likely that this is an established pattern in our lives.

If you resonate to having one or more challenging categories right now think back over your life and review your experiences in these particular areas. Is it a pattern? Yes? Then something’s going on under the surface that you need to examine now in order to experience success in this area in the future.

It’s likely you have some deeply ingrained limiting beliefs running in your consciousness that sabotage your success in this area of life.

Example of a Sabotaging Belief in Operation:

You’ve taken a new job. It’s a great next move in your career. Based on your previous accomplishments the divisional manager promised you a team manager position as soon as it opens up. You work diligently and do all the right things but you can’t seem to close a deal no matter how hard you try even though you brought in new business constantly at your old job. Every time you’re close to getting a new customer the deal disintegrates. You’re falling behind on your numbers and this is taking a toll on your confidence. Now you fear you won’t get the promised promotion when it opens up.

What’s going on? You ask for intuitive guidance and meditate on the issue.

After getting still a memory surfaces that helps you get to the heart of why you seem to be sabotaging your career.

Suddenly you “see” yourself back in grammar school. You’re running for class president of the sixth grade. It’s your turn to get up in front of the class and give your speech about why they should vote for you. You created a presentation that includes writing your campaign promises on the black board for emphasis. As you back up toward the blackboard you crash into the plant stand next to your teacher’s desk and fall backward knocking it over spilling dirt on yourself and everywhere. You’re mortified! And you’re not elected to 6th grade class president.

This memory leads to a realization that you are afraid to take a leadership position because you might embarrass yourself. You recall thinking at that moment that, “It’s safer not to stand out. From now on I’ll never volunteer to go in front of the class again!”

You go back into this memory and rewrite it. You see your eleven year old self stepping backward toward the blackboard but being aware that the plant stand was there. You avoid the plant stand, easily maneuver around it, write your campaign promises on the blackboard without a hitch and you become the next class president.

Now you can think about what happened without wincing in embarrassment. Your free to step up and stand out! The unconscious fear that held you back is gone.

The next week at work you close several new deals and a few months later when the team leader position opens up you’re promoted.

See how this decision to “not stand out” made decades earlier still runs the show?

How to Root Out A Sabotaging Belief:

1. Go within. Go somewhere you won’t be disturbed and get quiet and still. When you feel calm and ready ask your higher self or God, the universe, guides (whatever feels right to you) to help you tune into what’s going on under the surface.

2. Ask for memory about this pattern. Relax and listen to the first thought you have or watch the pictures that surface in your mind. Some people are more attuned to “listening” and others to “seeing.” Neither is right nor wrong.

3. Grab onto the memory. What happened? Who was involved? How did it make you feel? What snap decisions did you make as a result of this experience?

4. Do you experience a high degree of emotional upset when reviewing this past event? If so this is a sure sign you’ve correctly identified the right memory.

5. Review the decision you made. Did you make a promise to yourself in that moment? Ask for intuitive guidance about this decision. What feels right is usually correct. The decisions you made in the instant you were experiencing emotional turbulence are likely to have become the sabotaging beliefs that are now preventing you from achieving success in this area.

6. Rewrite the past. At any given moment there are innumerable possibilities to step into. You could have chosen differently in the past and that would have resulted in an entirely different future. Tell yourself that you made the best choice you could back then but it’s time to let it go. Thank your younger self for trying to protect you but tell him/her you’ll take over from here. Now go back now and change the memory.

Choose a different reality. See yourself making different decisions in that moment. Erase the old memory and replace it with the new one in which you made positive choices. Tell yourself that is now what you’ll remember about that day.

7. Test out the new memory. Replay the new scene you installed a few times. How do you feel now? Try to recall the old memory. If you feel removed from it and the high level of emotion you experienced earlier has subsided you’ve successfully collapsed the memory. You should now feel free and more energized and you’ll begin to notice things changing for the better in that area of life.

Do you have one area of life where things aren’t working? What limiting beliefs are holding you back? 

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5 Steps to Overcome Failure & Use it to Springboard to Your Next Big Thing

5 Steps to Overcome Failure & Use it to Springboard to Your Next Big Thing

Overcome failure

How to overcome failure and use it to springboard to your next big thing

Chances are you have failed on at least one occasion in your life.

Success is often born from failure. See it as a life lesson & come back stronger than before.

What separates those with a “winning” attitude from those with a “losing” attitude is how you see your failure.

While you may not be able to prevent failure you can control how you react to it. It’s normal to be upset when you fail. I’m not saying to ignore your feelings. Allow yourself to feel the anger and emotional upset but do not wallow in fear and hide.

Persevere: It’s okay to fail as long as you fail fast and go straight to plan B.

Choose to use see your failure as a “life lesson” and use it as a springboard to your next big thing and you will feel more empowered and in control of your life and less like a victim.

Feeling like a victim is lot like jumping into a boat without oars. It’s a bad move that won’t get you anywhere.

There are no victims, only volunteers – you always have a choice. –Unkown

In 2008 after the collapse of Wall Street my profession crumbled under my feet.

From 2008 on my income was cut in half year after year after year until I was living off my hard earned savings. I eventually I sold my home to get out of debt and so I wouldn’t go broke. It was hard to give up my dream house and move but you know what? No one said “boo” about it. The only noise I heard came from in between my ears.

The great thing that came out of it was that I was so eager to find a new profession where my destiny was under my own control that I decided try blogging. My first blog was born in 2008. It was pretty awful and I knew it.

Since my background was in banking and finance and I’d been trained in financial planning I decided I would be the next Suzie Orman. I set up a website dispensing financial advice but I soon grew bored and began writing what was in my heart; personal-development articles. Eventually I walked away from it. It’s hard to keep up your enthusiasm for a topic you aren’t interested in.

I learned a lot and when I finally decided to start my second blog in 2010 my past experience made all the difference in making Powered by Intuition a success.

Failing as a “financial blogger” was the springboard to my next big thing. Here’s why:

1. I realized I hadn’t followed my heart (my intuition) when I decided to be a financial blogger. This realization was the catalyst for starting Powered by Intuition.

What You Can Do: Listen to your intuition and follow your heart so you go with the flow instead of against it. Doing something purely for the sake of making money (unless you love it) will burn you out. Listening to your intuition is how you will find that thing that lights you up. Here’s a secret for you…..the reason you’re attracted to “that thing that lights you up” is because inside you already possess the talent and ability to do it! You wouldn’t be pulled toward doing it unless it was already a talent innate to you so, the point is….you’re meant to do it.

2. Forcing myself to post on my financial blog was a lot like going to work every day. It wasn’t what I really wanted to be doing. I found a million other things to do just when I was about to sit down to write.

Here’s A Clue: Forcing yourself to be a “round peg in a square hole” is a big clue! Where are you doing this in your life? This area may contribute to a downfall so act as soon as possible to get on the right track in your life. Remember, you have to have a burning desire to do whatever it is you want to do or it will always feel like work and drain you. When you zero in on what lights you up your life will flow much more easily because even when you encounter challenges and setbacks (and you will) you’ll have a stronger desire to work through them.

3. After a few months I ran out of inspiration to write for my financial blog. I was a subject matter expert but I wasn’t passionate about it. You have to be passionate about what your doing.

Find your WHY: Passion and being on-purpose along with business savvy are mutually important factors in success. There’s an ongoing debate between whether you should follow your passion or not. I believe you need to be inspired by what you’re doing and what inspires you is what you have a passion for. You need to have an underlying reason why you’re doing it – and it can’t be just “to make money.”  The “why” will sustain you and feed you to apply creativity to the product creation and problem solving aspects of your business.

4. I had no training as a blogger–and it showed. I didn’t know that blogging was different from the freelance writing I’d been doing for local newspapers and magazines. Having a blogging mentor after I started PbI was one of the smartest things I did. I learned the real ins and outs of how to get traffic, write for a blog, SEO, keywords and much more.

Get a mentor: There are mentors who have done whatever it is you want to accomplish. Don’t waste precious time trying to figure it out yourself. Get help early on in your venture. Do not talk yourself into waiting until you make the money to afford a mentor. This is a huge mistake. The way to succeed is to learn what works the first time. Doing it on your own doesn’t mean you can’t succeed it just ensures that you will take much, much longer because you’ll make mistakes that set you back.

5. When I was writing my first blog I was alone on the world wide web. There was no one to comment on my posts and no one to “talk shop” with. Most of my “real life friends” had no clue nor any interest in what I was doing. They were flummoxed by the amount of time I was putting into my new venture. Joining a community of people I found support, mentorship and like-minded people who had the “blogging itch” like me. I consider some of these people to be among my best friends now even though we may be separated by thousands of miles.

Don’t go it alone: Joining a community of like-minded people bolsters your confidence and helps you achieve your dreams. They “get” you even when your own family or friends don’t. This is really important if you are going to be among the small percentage of new ventures that succeeds. If you listen only to the “nay-sayers” you’re going to give up before you give yourself a fighting chance to succeed. 

Of all the things I do in my online business writing about intuition and personal-development is always at the top of the list along with private client work. I’m so grateful for my failure as a financial blogger…and for the fire the collapse of Wall Street put under my feet to find something else to do with my life or I wouldn’t be here writing this today.

How do you see your own failures? Are they life lessons? Did you use them to springboard to your next big thing?  

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5 Top Ways Fear Sneaks in to Sabotage Your Dreams

5 Top Ways Fear Sneaks in to Sabotage Your Dreams

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Fear is sneaky and has many disguises.

It’s important to recognize the ways fear disguises itself because it can and will sabotage your dreams if you let it.

Take Intuitively Inspired Action

One of the principles I often write about on Powered by Intuition is that of “intuitively inspired action.” Intuitively inspired action is when you act upon a gut feeling or intuitive knowing. The ‘nudge’ to follow a particular path comes from inside as a ‘pull’ you feel toward some choice or decision. This is “intuitively inspired” meaning it comes from our higher knowing, higher self, soul or what we call “intuition.”

When you follow the guidance of your intuition you are led to the choices and decisions that will bring you the greatest success. The pull you get about taking this action come to your awareness because you are ready to take this path. If it were not meant for you there would be no pull toward actually doing it.

This “pull” toward a particular path is how we are directed and guided in life by our higher knowing. To ignore this guidance is like driving by 100 gas stations when you’re lost and never stopping to ask for directions.

The moment you honor the “pull” and take “intuitively inspired action” you course correct and end up on the right road for you.

Fear Sabotages Your Dreams

Fear makes you a hostage to the status quo. It holds you back from taking intuitively inspired action or from carrying it out. It keeps you stuck in your comfort zone where nothing changes. When you are driven by fear you have all kinds of excuses about why you can’t do what you planned to do so you never achieve your dreams of doing great things.  You must learn to recognize fear in all its disguises so your dreams won’t slip through your fingers.

The 5 Top Ways Fear Sneaks in to Sabotage Your Dreams

1. Avoidance. Do you avoid doing the things you need to make your dream a reality? Do you send for information but then never read it? Do you sign up for things but never respond when it’s time to confirm? When you keep avoiding what needs to get done opportunities diminish and doors close. Eventually you rationalize that you’ve lost interest in your dream. Avoidance is a disguise for fear of failing.

2. Procrastination. Do you procrastinate? Are you indecisive? Do you put things off and drag out what needs to get done until it’s too late? Miss deadlines? This sabotaging behavior is a disguise for fear of failing too. If you never finish technically you’ll never fail, right? It’s a pretty sneaky way of sabotaging your dream.

3. Overwhelm. Do you take on too much? When you dive headlong into things without mapping out the steps you feel overwhelmed. If this is a pattern in your life you fear there is never enough time. You feel you have to do it ALL right now! When you’re in overwhelm you shut down and nothing gets done. This is a disguise for both fear of failing and fear of success. Either way, getting overwhelmed and shutting down ensures you’ll never fail or succeed.

4. Confusion. Do you find the tasks you need to accomplish confusing? Are you unsure about what outcome you’re working toward? Confusion arises when you don’t have a well thought out plan and jump into things with a half-baked idea. This is a disguise for fear of failing by being left out or left behind by your peer group. It means you constantly compare yourself to others and allow fear to push you into things simply because you see others doing it. Fear of being left out sabotages success simply because you’re not going after a dream because it’s your true desire….you’re going after it because you feel you have to “keep up.”

5. Excuses. Do you make excuses about why you can’t do something? Is the timing wrong? Do you cancel appointments? Are you too busy? Does everything always “cost too much?” Do need to do more research and have more information first? Do you talk yourself out of it saying things like, “Well, it’s probably not all it’s cracked up to be?” Making excuses is a disguise for fear of failing too. Excuses hold you back from starting. When you never start you can never fail.

Do you recognize any of these behaviors? What sneaky way is fear keeping you from getting to your dream?

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The Sensitive Person’s Guide to Overcoming Fear, Indecisiveness and Inaction

The Sensitive Person’s Guide to Overcoming Fear, Indecisiveness and Inaction

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Are you a “sensitive” person? Do your fears undermine your confidence, create indecisiveness and lead to inaction?

Not sure if you’re a sensitive or not? There are a number of definitions of a sensitive. Here’s mine from my own experience:

The sensitive person is a highly perceptive person. They are acutely aware of the subtle nuances in their environment and the atmosphere around them. They are all too aware of the feelings of others. Sensitives pick up on cues that many people overlook such as the subtle changes in tone, facial expression and emotions of the people they are with and gain insight and meaning from these subtleties. They empathize deeply with others and not only understand but experience what others are feeling. In other words, they are extremely intuitive.

Being a sensitive person has its pros and cons.

On the pro side I believe that perceiving so many more layers to reality than meets the physical eye contributes to creativity and imagination. It’s also extremely useful when sizing up a person or situation. You gain insight quickly due to this extended sense of awareness.

One of the major cons I have found from my own life experience is that having a sense that isn’t often shared by others has made me feel odd and misunderstood at times especially, by my family.

When I was a child I was deathly afraid of the dark and for good reason. I saw and heard things that frightened me that my parents assured me were not there. No matter how hard I tried to convince them that what I saw was real they attributed it to shadows in the dark and insisted it was just my imagination.

Even if you didn’t perceive other realms of existence but grew up highly sensitive and quite open to sensing the emotions of the people around you that too might have made you feel odd and misunderstood for claiming to know things that you, according to other people, couldn’t possibly know. For example you might have sensed that the neighbor across the street was someone to be avoided. You “knew” he was ill intentioned even if, thankfully, nothing ever happened to prove you right.

The thing is that when you are a sensitive and picking up on things that others do not perceive, unless your perceptions are supported, you grow up convinced that you cannot and should not trust your own senses. This erodes your confidence in being able to trust yourself to make decisions. After all, everybody says that what you perceive isn’t real so you must be crazy or odd, right? That is what happened in my case and what I refer to as “sensitive person’s syndrome.”

If you were continually told that you were being “too sensitive” all the time or that it was “all in your imagination” by the authority figures in your life you might have decided that it was wrong to trust your instincts. And, of course by instincts I mean intuition. This would have set you up for lifetime of feeling fearful, indecisive and and or resorting to inaction when faced with having to make an important decision.

“Sensitive persons syndrome” could also translate to a fear of authority, a fear of being in a position of authority (for fear of being wrong) and a fear of taking responsibility for yourself and your decisions. The fear of making a decision or taking responsibility undermines confidence. The result is a constant second guessing your decision and changing your mind from one minute to the next, followed by doing nothing because you are so fearful of being wrong.

There is a way out of this syndrome though so read on.

Here’s a guide for the sensitive person on how to overcome fear, indecision and inaction once and for all:

1. Believe in yourself. The first step is to begin to believe in what you perceive – even if others do not. You are not crazy nor do you have an “over-active” imagination. There is so much more to reality than most people perceive. You just happen to have a more expansive experience of the world around you than most.

2. Stop trying to fit in with the crowd. The more you try to act as if you are what other people might call “normal” the more extreme your “sensitive person’s syndrome” will become. You learned at an early age it wasn’t safe for you to share your perceptions/intuitiveness with others. Your friends or family mocked or shamed you so you learned to protect yourself by hiding your sensitivity. Try to limit the time you spend around such people as much as possible.

3. Find like-minded people to hang out with. It is so important to be around other “sensitives.” For the most part I believe that “sensitives” are “intuitives.” Join a community, club, or meet up of other sensitives/intuitives where you can experience truly being yourself without any fear. For example, the Powered by Intuition comments section and FB page is a safe haven for intuitives to interact with one another.

4. Embrace your sensitivity. Your greatest attribute is your sensitive soul so show it some TLC. Be thankful for your heightened sense of awareness and the information it supplies about your environment. The more you accept this part of yourself the more comfortable you will be in your own skin and the easier it will become to make decisions. The indecisiveness from second guessing yourself will lessen. And so will the resulting inaction. It’s the pushing away of this sensitivity that has made making decisions a nightmare for you.

5. Develop your intuition. Believe it or not this is what has helped me the most. The more you develop your intuition the more confident you will become. Each time you trust your instincts/intuition to make a decision and it turns out well you will become more confident. And, the more confident you are the easier it will be to trust what you perceive the next time and the time after that when making decisions. Developing your intuition is about learning to trust those whispers within and honoring the information your finely tuned perceptions gift you with.

An easy way to begin to honor your sensitivity and heighten your intuition is to listen to a guided meditation that takes you by the hand and shows you what trusting these whispers feels like. The Intuition Principle Guided meditations do just that.

After all, you wouldn’t have this sensitivity if you weren’t meant to use it. So use it and be proud of it!

Are you a “sensitive?” How has it affected your life? Has fear, indecisiveness or inaction been a problem for you?

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