How to Deal With Your Problems Head-on in 7 Steps

How to Deal With Your Problems Head-on in 7 Steps

How to deal with your problems head-on

How to deal with your problems head-on in 7 steps

What do you want to change in your life?

  • Do you struggle with health challenges?
  • Money problems?
  • Relationship troubles?
  • A dissatisfying career?
  • Do fears hold you back from achieving your dreams?

Whatever you’re struggling with have hope. You can change you life. It may not happen over night but it will change. The key to change is to have a strong commitment from the beginning to want to change some aspect of your life. No amount of wishing, visualizing and using affirmations is going to do the trick all by itself. You have to put in the time, effort and personal development work on yourself to make things change.

If you want to get healthy you’ll have to commit to eating right and exercising if you truly want to see the results. You’ll also have to change the way you think about food and exercise. All changes begin on the inside which is personal development work is crucial to make any lasting change.

If you want more money flowing into your life you’ll have to dig deep to unearth your money blocks and clear them and then figure out a plan for how to make more money. Insufficient money flow creates huge pressure in our lives. You might want to deal with that one first.

If you want better relationships you’ll have to start examining what you may be doing that is contributing to the state of relationship that’s making you unhappy and then work on yourself using personal development.

Even if this problem has been around for a long time you can start right now to chip away at it. Here’s how to deal with your problems head on.

How to Deal With Your Problems Head On.

1. Choose one challenge in your life you wish to change. There are two ways to choose where to begin. Get clear on which problem needs your attention most urgently because it’s painful and expensive in terms of the cost to your life, and choose that one. Or chose a small problem to work on first that you can clear up quickly. Either way is fine—just choose one right now! Don’t wait.

2. Consequences of the problem. Take out a sheet of paper and put the name of the problem at the top. Write down all the ways this problem is affecting your life.

Ask yourself these questions:

  • How does this problem prevent me from being, doing and having what I truly want in my life?
  • How does this problem make me feel every day when I wake up and think about it?
  • How does this problem affect my family and friends?
  • What is this problem costing me financially and in terms of my health, my peace of mind and my ability to succeed?

Keep asking yourself these questions until you run out of answers. You want to have at least 20 good painful reasons for clearing up this challenge.

3. Turn consequences into celebration! Turn the sheet of paper over and take each of the problems you listed on the front and turn them into reasons to celebrate. For example if you want to get in shape and one of the consequences of being out of shape was not being able to play with your kids write on the back, “When I get in shape I’ll be able to play with my kids!” Do this for each of the consequences and get excited as you do it!

4. Take an inventory. Inventory the the list and pick the 5 top most painful, urgent reasons to overcome this challenge and the corresponding reason to celebrate. Make a new list and put it on the refrigerator door where you’ll see it every day.

5. Make a to-do list. Create a detailed to-do list of how you’re going to tackle this problem. Include the actual step by step outline for how you’ll solve it. List names of the people you’ll call who can help you. Make sure to add the dates by which you’ll complete each and every step. It’s not a real list unless you have deadlines. Be sure to meet your deadlines.

6.Countdown by crossing-off. As you complete each step on your to-do list cross it off and allow yourself to feel proud and excited of the progress you’re making. Put down the date you completed each step. Seeing the actual time it took may inspire you to work faster.

7. Celebration time! When you overcome one of the painful reasons you listed for wanting to deal with this problem cross it out and highlight the corresponding celebration one. Then celebrate even if it’s just doing the “happy dance” in your living room when no one is watching! One of the things we don’t do often enough is celebrate our wins and accomplishments in life. Despite what you may think taking a moment to celebrate or pat yourself on the back is not silly or frivolous. It’s a sign that you are your own ally and that you love and value yourself. And loving yourself is what will lead to fewer challenges, obstacles and problems in your life in the future.

Once you’ve done this with one problem tackle the next one, and the next one and before you know you it you will have dealt with each and every problem head on!

What do you want to change in your life? Are there negative people you’ve let hang around for far too long? What’s the most urgent, painful costly problem you have?

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Intuition: 11 Great Reasons to Develop It

Intuition: 11 Great Reasons to Develop It

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Intuition: 11 Great Reasons to Develop It

There are so many good reasons to develop your intuition in addition to hearing your own inner guidance more clearly.

Setting the intention to connect daily to your intuition leads to a reduction in the distracting, fearful and often sabotaging voices in your mind. That allows the true voice of  your own inner wisdom to surface above the noise.

Tuning in to your inner wisdom helps you find your purpose in life, develop better boundaries and say “no,” feel joyful and more satisfied, reduce stress levels, have better focus, less worry and more peace of mind and improve memory and decision-making to name just some of the benefits I wrote about in my best selling book, “The Intuition Principle.” 

Another benefit of developing your intuition is gaining a greater sense of  your own power.

Developing your intuition brings clarity around who you really are and what you were meant to do in this life. When you’re aligned with  your purpose you become clear on your value and that leads to to greater self empowerment.

When you’re self empowered you take action toward your goals and become an advocate for yourself to ensure that you live a fulfilling and meaningful life and living up to your full potential. You stop looking outside of yourself and relying on others to advocate for you or to make you happy or fill you up. You become self reliant, self sufficient and completely whole in every sense of the word. You take responsibility for every aspect of your life.

Realizing that your purpose benefits others helps you become more confident in yourself.  Having more confidence means you falter less in your decision making and make progress more easily toward achieving your goals.

Confidence also comes from hearing your inner guidance clearly and successfully following it. Each time you follow  your intuition and it leads to a successful outcome you develop greater faith, trust and confidence in yourself.

More Confidence and Self empowerment 

When you feel empowered you take more action to achieve your goals and taking more action is what leads to success.  Your less “confused, and stuck in overwhelm” because you have a clear sense of where you want to go and the confidence that you can get there. You’re not held back by insecurities of “not knowing what to do.”

Self empowerment gives you the confidence to know that you’ll take the right action to learn how to do what you need to do to get it done. You’re not always waiting for something outside of yourself to “get started.” When you lack confidence and feel disempowered you’re always in a “getting ready to get ready mode” instead of actually starting something. “Getting ready to get ready” is the illusion of thinking you’re doing something.

When you’re not clear on your purpose and the value you bring to the world you feel indecisive and shaky when making decisions. You do all sorts of things like “busywork” that don’t actually amount to anything because you’re unsure of what to do. This lack clarity and confusion on what action to take next is a vicious cycle of not being sure and either doing the same things over and over again or suddenly changing directions without putting any real thought into it. This cycle of feeling so unsure of yourself and doubting your direction, purpose and value are really disempowering and just ends up making you feeling worse.

The way out of this vicious cycle is to go within and build a strong connection to your inner wisdom; your intuition and letting it guide you. Working on your intuition is a practice of staying ever present and being mindful.

11 Reasons to Develop Your Intuition:

1. Reduction in the distracting, fearful and often sabotaging voices in your mind.

2. Tuning in to your inner wisdom helps you find your purpose in life

3. Develop better boundaries and be able to say “no.”

4. Feel joyful and more satisfied with your life

5. Reduced stress levels

6. Have better focus

7. Less worry and more peace of mind

8. Improved memory

9. Better at decision-making

10. Increases confidence

11. Become more empowered

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The Law of Attraction: Understanding Spending vs. Investing

The Law of Attraction: Understanding Spending vs. Investing

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“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”

Paulo Coelho, from The Alchemist

The Law of Attraction: Spending vs. Investing

Did you watch the movie, “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne or read her book? Most of the world now knows about the Law of Attraction thanks to her. Unfortunately, while Byrne did a huge service for the world the depth of the information wasn’t there to accurately convey how to bring more abundance to your life.

Misconceptions

There’s a misconception that in order to attract abundance into your life you ought to prime the pump of the LOA by spending money. Perhaps you were told that in order to demonstrate your faith in the Law of Attraction you ought to “dig your ditches before the rain.” This idea originally comes from a passage in the Bible but I first read about it in Florence Scovel Shin’s book, “The Game of Life and How to Play It.”

What Shin meant was that if you’re praying for rain you must take action and dig the ditches to hold the water ahead of the rain. “Digging ditches” clearly communicates that you firmly and unwaveringly have faith in the Universe to bring about what you desire.

You might have misconstrued this advice by first buying the things you wanted as a demonstration that the money to pay for them would then show up. Unfortunately all this does is create debt. “Digging your ditches” symbolizes that you must have the faith and take action toward achieving your goals even when there isn’t a “cloud in the sky” to indicate that it’s going to rain.

There is a difference between spending and investing

Notice though, Shin did not say to go out and use up all the water you have as an act of faith that it would rain and then the water would be replenished. This is what you’re doing when you spend money you don’t have. You’re draining your resources. What Shin advises is to invest your energy and resources in creating a “ditch” or reservoir so that it will hold all the water you need whenever you need it. This is what “investing” does, it becomes a resource that pays you back again and again over time.

Spending money doesn’t garner the same results as investing

For example you see a gorgeous pair of boots and think,”If I buy the boots I’m showing the Universe I trust that the money is coming to pay the credit card bill.” But after you spend the money your life hasn’t changed. You have a nice pair of boots and nothing else to show for it.

When you invest money you take an action that ensures that the money will return a dividend, in other words, pay you back. For example you might be in a 401k retirement program at work. Over time with good investment strategies this investment will grow and be part of the money you live on in retirement.

You might invest in buying a home for the same reason; you anticipate that with time its value will increase so that someday when you sell it you’ll get back more than you spent to buy it. This is also the reason for investing in education. When you learn something useful it contributes to your ability to apply it in a way that the actions taken based on knowledge you received pays you back over time.

In general buying “stuff” for yourself is spending not investing. Clothes, furniture, cars and the like while needed are not investments. Buying something the goes up in value and returns a profit when you sell it is an investment. Examples of some good investments that will improve your life are education, coursework and coaching.

Investing in yourself is the entire premise of self-development. You are developing yourself for something, right? You probably want to learn how to be more successful at life which is to be happier, peaceful, self confident, more capable, loving and a better human being I would imagine.

Invest in yourself instead of spending on yourself

To unlock the power of the Law of Attraction invest in yourself. Investing in your education is one of the best investments you can make. Invest in a course that will help you learn what actions you need to take to create a better life. This will prime the pump of the LOA in your life much more than a one shot purchase such as a pair of boots. To invest in yourself is to dig a ditch and build a reservoir of resources that will pay you back handsomely over time.

Taking action

Action demonstrates your faith in the Law. You must take the proper action steps. Wishing and visualizing are not enough. Action is how you “seed” the clouds for all that rain. And, if you don’t know what you want that’s a problem. You must know what you want in order to know the proper action steps to take.

Knowing what you want is key

If you aren’t sure of what you want your life to look like and all you think is that you want “abundance” you’re going to be disappointed. Abundance comes in many forms. You’ve got to be specific in order to come up with the action steps to seed your cloud.

Prime the pump of the Law of Attraction

Know what you want. Know your purpose and mission in life and then you will know what actions to take. After all you can’t get there until you know where “there is,” right? Knowing your purpose is having the map to get to your destination. As soon as you are clear on where you want to go the result of every action step taken will yield much more dramatic results toward your ultimate success.

If you are unclear of your purpose invest in yourself. Open the way and seed the cloud toward your abundance by investing not spending on yourself. Find a coach or take a course on how to find your life purpose, read a book on this topic or have a thorough astrological reading of your purpose done.

The sooner you know where you’re heading the sooner you’ll get there!

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5 Ways to Keep Creativity Flowing When You Feel Uninspired

5 Ways to Keep Creativity Flowing When You Feel Uninspired

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Gratitude in advance is the most powerful
creative force in the universe.
– Neale Donald Walsch

What do you do when you’re blocked and lack the inspiration to write or create?

Have you ever been blocked and unable to work on a creative project even though you had a deadline looming?

Every once in a while this happens to me.

I don’t like to call this writer’s block  because it’s temporary so instead I refer to it as loss of inspiration.

Loss of inspiration strikes when I’m too stressed and have to write something when time is running out. The more I think about it the more overwhelmed I become and the less I want to do it. All I want to do is escape and avoid it. Usually what I end up doing is surfing the Net and wasting time.

After this happened one too many times I decided to put some systems in place to overcome days when I feel blocked.

How to keep your creativity flowing:

Be prepared for the times you feel uninspired to write or create.

1. Have a supply of topics at the ready. I keep a notebook of writing ideas and jot any and all that come to me. I even write down ideas in the middle of the night on a pad I keep by my bedside. The next morning I will transfer them to my notebook for safekeeping. I also keep a small notebook in my purse so that where ever I am I can record my idea.

When I get an idea it’s usually a title. I write down the title followed by a couple of sentences or even a paragraph that describes the basic premise of the article. This way when I refer to it I know where to go with it. I can’t tell you how many times having my notebook to refer to has jump started my writing when I wasn’t feeling especially inspired.

2. Look through the drafts of unfinished articles on your computer. I’ve written many articles halfway through only to be interrupted and never return to them.  I never delete these drafts just in case….and they have come in quite handy at times.

3. Use “waiting time” to write. Some of my best writing was done in doctor’s waiting rooms. I’m my elderly mother’s caretaker and at 85 she has a lot of doctor’s appointments so I use the time free of all digital distractions to write. I keep a carry all bag ready with a nice thick notebook and pens that I take with me on her appointments. When I feel stuck or pressed for time I go back through the note book and transcribe an article. You can do the same thing. Are you taking a friend or family member to the doctor’s, grocery store, the mall or to a practice game? If so use your waiting time to write and start building your own stockpile of articles.

4. Record your thoughts. I highly recommend buying a small digital recorder. I take it with me on walks. I find that walking inspires a lot of great ideas for writing. Sometimes I’m so inspired by an idea that an entire article comes pouring out as I walk. The trouble is that by the time I get home I won’t remember exactly what I said so using a recorder helps me capture the inspiration before it disappears. You can use your phone too but I prefer a digital recorder because of its singular purpose. If I were to use my phone I might be tempted to make a call and talk while I walked instead.

5.  Ask for intuitive inspiration. If you read Powered by Intuition you know that our most innovative ideas spring from being intuitively inspired. Inspired thinking never comes from the same old thoughts swirling around in our heads. Inspiration comes from our connection to Infinite Intelligence. The technology for transferring this information is via our intuition. The best way to receive constant inspiration is to develop a practice of daily meditation.

To get on the spot inspiration take your attention off the problem. Plant the intention that you want to receive an inspiring idea in the next hour. (Yes you can give your inspiration a deadline).

Close your eyes and take a few relaxing breaths. Then see yourself in your mind’s eye writing furiously. See the words filling up the screen (you don’t need to know what they say). Just tell yourself that within one hour or less you will be hit by the perfect idea to craft your article.

Then go for a walk preferably in nature. Natural surroundings will help you cultivate creativity. If you can’t go for a walk do a chore around the house. Do not watch TV or surf the Net. Stay away from digital devices. Stop thinking about writing and allow your intuition to do the heavy lifting. Get into what you’re doing, be mindful and present in this activity.

If you begin to feel anxious reinforce the idea that you will receive an inspiring idea within the allotted time and continue to go about your business.

When you are hit with an inspiring idea thank your intuition and Infinite Intelligence and be grateful! Now sit down and start writing about it immediately before you lose it.

If you go the whole  hour without receiving and idea sit down at your computer and start writing anyway. This is important. You must sit down after one hour and begin writing. Your higher self needs to know you are serious about wanting an idea and wanting it within a certain time frame.

Write whatever comes to you and begin to follow this idea. Do not get up and do not stop! Keep writing. At first what may come out are random ideas and you may hate every last one them but keep going. By continuing to write you are priming the pump.

Keep writing until the ideas start to flow and they will. Eventually you will receive a nugget of gold that inspires you and you will have your idea for the article.

How do you deal with a lack of inspiration for writing or creating? What works for you. Have you ever considered any of these three strategies?

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5 Mistakes to Avoid When Setting New Year Resolutions

5 Mistakes to Avoid When Setting New Year Resolutions

Tis the season to forgive, mend and heal5 Mistakes to Avoid When Setting New Year Resolutions

by Brendan Baker

I absolutely love this time of year. I like to call it the season of dreams. It’s when most people take a step back, reflect on their life and check-in with their inner-self to see whether they are living their most inspirational life.

Unfortunately, most people realise that they are not living their most inspirational life and realise that something needs to change in order for them to move forward. The great thing is, the New Year is full of possibility and so New Year resolutions kick in to get them back on track and move them forward to their most inspirational life. The thing is, this energy, commitment and focus on their goals normally only lasts a couple of weeks as other priorities start to come in again and take over.

Does this sound like you?

Well, you’re not alone. It happens to most people. And there are some common reasons why this happens.

To ensure you set yourself up for success in 2014, you want to avoid these 5 mistakes people make when creating and pursuing their New Year resolutions.

Mistake #1: Your New Year Resolution is Not Linked with Your Values

Believe it or not, most New Year resolutions are not achieved because it’s not important to you. You might be thinking this sounds a little strange, as otherwise why would you be setting the resolution in the first place?

Simply put, it’s most likely that you don’t value what you’re trying to achieve with your New Year resolution as much as what you value in other areas of your life. That’s why you spend your time and energy on doing those other things.

As an example, you might have set a resolution to lose weight. However, this may not be a high core value for yourself. At least, there will be other values that you have which are higher than your value for losing weight. If this is the case, ask yourself why you have set this New Year resolution? If it’s because of social stigma, friends or family etc, realise that it’s not actually of value to you but of value to others.

For New Year resolutions to stick, you need to value them. To get around this, ask yourself the question ‘how can this serve me in other areas of my life’? This can lead you to gain awareness that losing weight might actually have its advantages in other areas of your life in which you do value more highly.

Mistake #2: Your New Year Resolution is Not Written Down

One of the most common mistakes that people make when it comes to setting New Year resolutions is that they don’t write them down.

The simple act of writing down your New Year resolutions can do wonders for your focus and motivation. Writing down your resolutions will force you to structure and organise your thoughts and commit to something in the physical form.

Having it written down can act as a stronger, visual reminder of what it is that you are trying to achieve.

Mistake #3: Your New Year Resolution Has No Action Plan

When setting New Year resolutions, most people set the goal but they don’t take the time to work out how they are actually going to achieve it.

Knowing the end game is just a part of the battle. Unfortunately, I need to break some news to you… you do actually need to take action and make it happen. The first part to this is creating your step-by-step plan on achieving your New Year resolution.

When you have a plan mapped out, make sure you actually schedule it in your diary and commit to it. Make it a habit to work towards your New Year resolution. It will be hard at first but it will always become and more motivating as you progress, get used to the process and start to see results.

Mistake #4: Your New Year Resolution Has No Time-Frame

Another mistake that most people make when setting New Year resolutions is that they do not set a specific time-frame to realise it.

New Year resolutions are just like goals. They need a time-frame to be completed in. When no given time-frame is involved, you will have the opportunity to procrastinate and put off achieving your resolution.

Make sure you set yourself a time-frame to realise your New Year resolution and this should be a clear part of your plan.

Mistake #5: Your Don’t Have the Support You Need to Fulfill Your New Year Resolution

When you’re battling something alone and don’t have the support of others, it can be very hard work.

Surrounding yourself with the right people (being those individuals who are also passionate and interested in what you are trying to achieve), this can have a massive effect on your overall success. These people will hold you accountable to a higher standard, they will motivate you and push you towards reaching your goals.

Thinking about your own New Year resolutions, who in your life will have the biggest positively impact to your success and how can you engage with them more frequently?

Wrapping Up

This is the season of dreams. Ensure that the dream becomes reality by avoiding the 5 key mistakes above.

What can you do differently this year to ensure you remain focused, committed and motivated in achieving success? Have questions for Brendan? Leave a comment.

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brendan baker Brendan Baker helps people who feel stuck doing work they don’t like start to make a difference and an income doing what they love. He writes over at The Start of Happiness and has created the Launch Your Life Academy to support people gain clarity of their goals in life and stay focused and motivated in achieving them. Feeling stuck? Check out Brendan’s new course here.

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How to Make a Difficult Decision Using Reason And Intuition

How to Make a Difficult Decision Using Reason And Intuition

“It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.”  –Roy Disney

Your life is the result of your previous choices and decisions. Poor choices lead to bad decisions, which result in the mistakes we look back on and regret. The way to avoid making mistakes is to become a better decision maker.

But, how do you learn to apply proper decision making using both reason and intuition to your own life, to the little decisions and big decisions that ultimately shape your life? I was never taught this and the first half of my life was fraught with mistakes. Through trial and error and study I have learned how to handle challenging decisions. And, you can too.

The anatomy of a difficult decision

Say, you’re offered a job and it sounds great but, there’s a tiny niggling of doubt that holds you back from saying yes. You’re under pressure to give your decision – what do you do? Or perhaps you’re in a quandary over choosing the right life partner, business partner or whether to sell your home and move across country? How do you make these difficult decisions that affect the rest of your life?

Whatever the decision, there is a way to cut the stress, decipher the doubt and unearth the decision that is right for you using both reason and intuition in this intuitive decision making model.

Know thyself

You won’t make a proper decision unless you examine what makes you tick. Each of us is different and has a unique set of values and needs that our decisions must satisfy.

 What are your values?

What’s important to you? What do you need to be happy? Is financial security the most important thing to you? Is climbing the corporate ladder and increasing your status an important factor in your overall happiness? Are you motivated by fame and celebrity? Or, is it love and emotional intimacy? Do you need freedom and the call of adventure to be happy? Maybe spiritual growth tops your list?

(If you’re unclear what your values are The Self Improvement Blog has an enormous list of  400 that you can review. Pick out 20 top values and then whittle the list down to your top 5. These are the values that should motivate and guide your decisions.)

What vision for your life do you aspire to?

Each of us has a “vision” for our lives. My vision is to write, publish and teach people how to “speak intuition” so that they make the right decisions and live up to their full potential. Anything I do has to work toward upholding this overarching vision for my life.

What’s  your vision? Craft one sentence that encompasses your life’s vision.

Understanding your values and vision puts your decisions in context within this framework so, don’t skip this step. Your values and vision drive your decision-making and the trajectory your life takes. They should be the structure on which your life is built – in the same way that the skeleton is the framework to the body.

Follow these steps to come to a proper decision using reason & intuition:

1. Review whether the choice aligns with your values. Does it uphold them? If yes, fine. If not, go over your values. Did you choose the right values to begin with or are you making the wrong choice for the wrong reasons?

2. Ask yourself if this choice advances you in the direction of your vision? Or, does it take you away from it? If yes fine. If not, then why are you do it? Think hard about this.

3. Review the facts. What do you know? What don’t you know? Whom do you know with experience in this area? Can you speak to them about their experience? Would researching this issue reveal useful information that would help you to make a choice? Do your research.

4. Make a Pros and Cons list regarding this choice. Which is most convincing the pros or the cons list?

Decide if these four steps are enough to make the decision. If you feel completely confident and free of doubt go ahead and make your decision If not, go to the next steps where you will tap into your intuition.

5. “Live” both options. Imagine for a moment that you could fast forward to the future and review the outcome of your decision between two choices or, to either follow through with a particular decision or not.

Close your eyes and imagine that you see before you two doors; one has a sign with a large number “one” on it and the other a number “two” on it. Assign a choice to each door. Walk through door number one and imagine that you had taken that road.

Go through the entire sequence of events in your mind from start to finish. You chose this path, and then what? And, what comes after that and after that? And, how does it end up? What does your life look like after you’ve chosen “door number one.”

Do the same with the second door.  Step through the door and “live” out that decision in your imagination to it’s conclusion.

Which outcome affects your life most positively? Which outcome stands out most to you and “feels” right?

Still not sure about your decision? Go to Step 5.

5. Detach emotionally from the decision. Look from outside your own perspective. Ask yourself this, “If this weren’t my decision but, a close friend’s what would I tell them to do? How would I advise them? Does it benefit them? How?”

Have a convincing imaginary conversation with your friend and clearly explain why or why they shouldn’t make this decision.

Can you make a decision now? No? Proceed to the next step.

6. Check directly with your gut instinct – emotional intelligence – intuition.

Review the advice you gave your “friend” and all the reasons for making or not making this choice.

Close your eyes and take five deep breaths through the nose and release through the mouth to clear your mind.

Ask yourself how you “feel” about this decision? Do not ask yourself if you are making the right decision.

What is the first thought, feeling, image or emotion that comes to your awareness?

Focus upon it. Ask “it” why it has surfaced at this time? What is the first response that comes to mind after this question? This response is the “truth” of how you feel regardless of all the facts, lists and pros and cons.

Does this process reveal that your feelings about the decision are congruent to the decision you made by using reason and data? If your feelings correspond with the decision you made previously then great – you’ve done it! You’ve made a proper decision using logic and reason followed up by your gut instinct – emotional intelligence – intuition.

If you there is discord between the two then, you need to investigate the feeling that is at odds with your logical decision further. Go to the next step.

7. Delve deeper within.

Place your palms on your abdomen in the area  of your solar plexus. The reason for placing your hands on your solar plexus is to remind you to connect with the intelligence of your body. Your body gives signals via feelings that communicate vital information to you. Most of you are too busy to notice them. This is why you need to slow down and go within in order to decode this important information.

Close your eyes and relax by taking five more deep breaths in through the nose and releasing them through the mouth.

Now visualize the outcome of the first decision and then the second just as you did when you stepped through each door.  This time you are going to focus on what physical sensations, feelings or emotions come up regarding each of the outcomes.

Pay attention to your breathing, is it constricted with either choice? Does your chest feel tight when you go to take a breath? Become aware of your neck and shoulders, do either of the decisions make you tense up in those areas of your body? Notice your abdomen and the area around your solar plexus, is there a “knot” in your stomach or butterflies? Do you feel nervous, anxious, are your palms sweating, does your heart speed up or is there a lump in your throat?

If you notice any discomfort regarding one choice over the other, your body is telling you that this is not the right choice.

Do you have your answer now? Not yet? Go to step eight.

8. Make sure you thoroughly understand your motivation and what you’re getting into.

If you’ve come through the process this far without an answer it’s time to step away and put it on a shelf for a while.  Don’t rush and never allow pressure from outside sources to influence you into making a decision before you are ready. Tell yourself that you want more clarity on this issue and that you expect to get it in X number of days (give yourself a time period).

Don’t make a decision and don’t think about it after that, live your life and focus on other things. Just because you’re not consciously thinking about this decision doesn’t mean it isn’t “percolating” in your subconscious. You may have a dream during this period or an insight will surface that clarifies the issue. You may come to the conclusion that this decision is unnecessary and drop the whole thing.

Have you ever found yourself struggling to make an important decision? What was the situation you were grappling with? What techniques did you use to help you make the decision?

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