Intuition: 6 Reasons You Wish Your Parents Had Listened to It.

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The quieter you become the more you are able to hear. –Rumi

Intuition: 6 Reasons You Wish Your Parents Had Listened to Intuition

I am delighted to feature this guest post by Carol Tuttle of CarolTuttle.com. Carol has written a fascinating new book titled, “The Child Whisperer,” about intuition and parenting.

The Child WhispererImagine the house where you grew up.

Picture the room you were in when your parent said something hurtful. Maybe it was a fight or a punishment. You can still remember how those words made you feel, can’t you?

I wish your parent had listened to their intuition in that moment. Why?

Because their intuition would have taught them about you. That painful moment would never have happened.

Here are 6 reasons why your parents’ intuition matters to you:

1. Intuition illuminates (and celebrates) your differences.

Fact is, most parents raise their children the way they wanted to be raised. They discipline and teach the way that feels right for their nature. But—even if you sometimes worry you’re turning into your mother—you and your parents are not the same.

Intuitive parents pick up on differences and give unique support and validation, even if their child is unlike them.

What to do now: Recognize the times when your parent did honor your unique nature. Acknowledge that you are unique.

An affirmation to use… I am grateful for the differences between my parents and me and for the unique gifts we each offer to the world.

2. Intuition builds respect for your true inner self.

You began this life with an inner blueprint—a map that can guide you to your life’s highest purpose.

But you were told in childhood that other people knew better. You were supposed to respect adults’ perspective more than your own. Sometimes, your parents did know best. But other times, they didn’t and your intuition did.

What to do now: Express respect for yourself in the way you talk about yourself and your decisions.

An affirmation to use… I am respecting the decisions my intuition leads me to make.

3. Intuition shows up for those who listen to it.

In the areas of life where your parents ignored their own intuition, you may notice a pattern of doing the same. Whether or not you realize it, parents model how to tap into intuition. Or not.

What to do now: Although your intuition is always there, you can’t force it to show up. Start inviting it more often and more consciously.

An affirmation to use… I am relaxing and allowing my intuition to show up in my life.

5. Intuition fosters self-trust.

Ever second-guess yourself? Ever put yourself down or over-apologize?

That voice that nags at you is your mother’s (or your father’s), telling you to sit down (or sit up), or be quiet (or talk louder)—that voice tells you not to be who you are.

Even though your parents wanted the best for you, they may have believed they needed to shape you into their version of you. In some ways, they didn’t know that you were already the best version of yourself who just needed to be understood.

What to do now: Move forward. Your intuition exists to guide you toward the right decisions and experiences for you. But you have to act on your intuitive hits for them to matter.

An affirmation to use… I am trusting my intuition and taking action when I feel inspired to.

5. Intuition helps create mutually-supportive relationships.

Imagine a childhood where a parent intuits children’s needs, rather than react to their tantrums. Where children are encouraged to intuitively make decisions in their lives. When parents follow their intuition, friction easily melts away.

What to do now: Let go of past wounds. They happened. And now you have the power to intuitively heal past relationships and build new ones.

An affirmation to use… I am trusting my intuition and taking action when I feel inspired to.

6. Intuition leads to greater love.

When we follow our intuition, we stop judging and fighting what happens to us. We open ourselves up to love. As a child, you experienced some sort of judgment against who you are, but that can stop now.

You don’t need to continue believing lies that keep you from loving yourself.

What to do now: Forgive. Whatever wound you still carry, let it go. It’s getting in the way of your own intuition. The more you love yourself, the more you invite your intuition to show up.

An affirmation to use… I forgive my parents—they did the best they knew how. I love myself deeply and completely.

 

The power of intuition

Over the last 20 years, I’ve encountered countless adults who were shut down as children. They were taught to doubt their intuition—but it’s still waiting there to support them.

That used to be me. As an strong, determined child, I didn’t match my parents’ and my culture’s expectations for my nature. It took a lot of years for me to love my nature and trust my intuition, but I did it. And my own parenting experience has been an intuitive, joyful, fulfilling adventure. So can yours.

Remember that room in your childhood home? In your mind, fill it up with intuition and with love.

Could your parents have been better at communicating with you if they had worked on their intuitive skills? Could intuition make you a better parent? Let’s discuss this – leave a comment.

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P. S. To read more on intuition – cliek here.

Carol Tuttle is a teacher, speaker, healer, business woman—and the original Child Whisperer. Mother of five and grandmother of four, Carol supports parents live on her weekly call-in parenting podcast. Her fifth and latest book, The Child Whisperer, turns longstanding parenting assumptions on their head and gives adults eye-opening tools to understand and honor the children in their lives.

Visit The Child Whisperer website and enter a drawing to win a free copy of the book plus valuable bonuses! Click here now.

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  1. I enjoyed the affirmations that follow after each point that you laid out. Yes most certainly, I believe that if my parents are to listen in intuitively, they would have been better communicators. Then again, they did what they knew best. They also did not receive the parenting that would have helped them more. Now that I am more conscious, I hope to do things differently with my children.

    Your book sounds wonderful! I am sure that it will be a source of great inspiration!

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    • Hi Evelyn,
      I’m glad you enjoyed the affirmations. I think affirmations are a wonderfully effective way to reroute our thinking process. It’s absolutely vital that we teach the importance of listening to our intuition. It has a ripple effect on everything in life.

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  2. I like what you say here about parents slowing down and actually taking time to be with their kids, as opposed to following a predetermined set of rules about how parents or kids are supposed to behave and what they’re supposed to accomplish with their lives and so forth. I think that would foster much more loving parent-child relationships.

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    • Hi Chris,
      I’m so glad you enjoyed this guest article from Carol Tuttle.
      I agree. I think if parents listened more to their intuition the relationship would be much mnore loving.

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  3. Ah, there were some days I could have used a child whisperer. There were some days when I should have been whispering myself instead of shouting. Great post, and it sounds like a great book.

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    • Hi Galen,
      It does. I haven’t read it myself.

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    • We all wish we would have done certain things better. In The Child Whisperer, I even talk about things I would have done differently if I had known the information I know now. The best thing I ever did about it was forgive myself and move forward.

      Thanks for your comment, Galen!

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  4. Angela and Carol,
    This looks like a wonderful book! I was lucky enough to have wonderful parents and am trying my best to be that kind of parent. I would love to read your book! I look forward to checking out your website.

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    • Betsy,
      I’m sure you are a wonderful parent! I haven’t read the book but, I’d like to.

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    • That desire to be a wonderful parent is the most important step to becoming one. Sounds like you’re on the right track.

      Thanks for checking out the book, Betsy!

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  5. Hi Carol and Angela,

    Love your post! You’ve made a great point that parents, with the best of intentions, can shut us down from our inner self. There was not as much knowledge about intuition when I was growing up and I know my parents had certain expectations that they were very vocal about. In many ways it was such a gift, but in other ways, it was easier to follow their expectations than follow my own inner voice. I’ve certainly grown and evolved through the years. I appreciate what my parents did offer me, which was their love and support, and I’m also grateful that I’ve found myself.

    Your book sounds great – I’ll check it out!

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    • Hi Cathy,
      What’s that saying, “If you knew better you would have done better?” I think it applies to our parents too and I’m sure you’d agree. They did the best theyg could based on the social conventions of the day.
      I have not read the book but, I’d like too as well.

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    • I’m glad that you’ve found yourself, Cathy. It’s a wonderful journey, isn’t it.
      Carol Tuttle recently posted…PARENT ALERT: THE BIGGEST DISCIPLINE MISTAKE TO AVOIDMy Profile

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  6. Really enjoyed your perspective Carol…it’s so true about self-trust, love and supportive relationships.

    First comes belief and at the core of everyone is perfection…just as they are.

    Thank you for sharing Angela…you introduce me to some fabulous people.
    Elle, motivational blogger recently posted…The Minimalist Guide To Prosperity Consciousness.My Profile

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    • “At the core of everyone is perfection…just as they are.”

      I agree with you, Elle, and really believe that. Thanks for sharing.

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  7. Very nice post, Carol! I love the points you made – parents do need to listen to their intuition, we do not receive a handbook on parenting. No matter how many books we read, the information we glean becomes useful only when we combine it with our own intuition, because we live with our kids and know them best.

    I’ve often come across wonderful parents, who, in a tight situation, would rather do what others would expect of them, than what they think is the right thing to do, according to themselves. So sad. Imagine caring more about others feelings than one’s own children’s. I was very lucky to have a Mother who wanted me to have everything she did not get. We were not financial well off, but I was showered with love and hugs – and we laughed when we were broke from the 20th to the end of the month. And it was only because she was kind and understanding.

    Thanks, Carol! I can imagine how wonderful your book will be!

    Thanks for the great introduction, Angela. Love, Vidya

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    • Hi Vidya,
      I can tell you are an amazing parent. Your son is very lucky to have you, indeed!

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    • Thanks, Vidya. Your relationship with your mother sounds very supportive and full of love.

      Your memory makes a good point that children remember the feelings surrounding experiences with their parents more than the actual events themselves.

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